Do you think t*t-for-tat is a good relationship strategy?

Question

t*t-for-tat is reciprocating her behavior, like if she takes you out somewhere you treat her elsewhere or negative like if you text her and she doesnt get back to you, next time she texts you, you ignore it. That way one person doesnt make all the effort and you subconsciously reward the good.

Answer 1

It has it's merits, but in relationships the old saying is even more true: An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind.  Sometimes you need to just discuss the bad events and not punish them for it; though, some guys feel that discussing is punishment.

One time, my ex got pissed that the number I called from didn't get to me; had she taken the time to check her voice mail, she would have found the right number instead the router number left on her caller ID.  She never even apoligized from yelling at me for that one.

Answer 2

yea i guess, but it isn't original, you are basically copying what the other person does.

Answer 3

well...i think its a good strategy but remember, romance isnt a game, its a lifestyle man, you cant just stick to one strategy and think its done.

Answer 4

Not at all. Not if you're a mature adult at least. What you need to do is sit her down and tell her how you feel.  

Answer 5

Well that shouldn't be the rule. Especially ignoring communication. If I did that to my boyfriend, he'd never get replies to his texts. Like ever. But things should end up somewhat like that without trying too hard. Both people should try to make an effort. But I think it's the good things that should be reciprocated, not the bad. That won't do anything. I do try to subconsciously reward the good with my boyfriend, though.