Do you think underage girls should legally be able to put their child up for adoption?

Question

Do you think that it is too big of a decision for them to make at that age?

Your opinions?

Answer 1

its better than abortion

if thats what there family says they have to do they really dont have a choice

Answer 2

If it's too big a decision to make an adoption plan, how on earth are they expected to parent?

Jeez, people wonder why the world is going to h**l in a handbasket.

Answer 3

As opposed to what?  Leaving them in a dumpster?  Being forced to raise them?  

Or just who do you think should make this decision for them?  

And if they aren't capable of this decision do you think they are capable of being moms should they (or someone else) make that choice?

I think safe haven laws and the choice(open/closed) adoption system are the best things any country can do to protect babies and women.

Answer 4

Any girl or woman who can admit that they are unprepared to parent a child is mature enough to consider adoption.  Do you think that under-age girls should be forced to raise the child?

Answer 5

So, regardless of what they want for themselves and their own life, you would like to see underage girls be forced to keep children they don't want?

Being a single parent is a good enough punishment for opening their legs?  

WHO is going to be making such a profound decision other than the person it's going to effect the most?!  

Peace,

Jenn

Answer 6

I think it is way too much for a teenage girl to make alone. In most if not all states, teenage girls must have their parent's consent to abortion.  Now that is backfiring too.

I think the parents should be notified and given first choice to raise their grandchild.  I also think that family members should also been given that.

I think boys and girls should be given parenting classes.  I also think that they should also be taught s*x education.

Answer 7

no i dont think they should there child there self

Answer 8

Yes, I do believe that it is too big of a decision for them to make at that age.  However, I also believe it is a huge responsibility to take on parenting at that age also.  Unfortunately, for many underage girls, they are in a no-win situation.  

I know one teenage mother right now who refuses to make an adoption plan for her child because she "wanted" to get pregnant at 16 and have a baby to take care of.  When her mom asked her "who" was going to watch the child, etc., the teenager responded "you Mom - that's your job".  I was shocked.  Not saying that all teenage mom-to-bes have that thought process, but it is scary to know that they need to decide what is best for their child when they often don't know what is best for them yet.

Answer 9

I agree with query!  No one should be forcing underage girls to give up their babies.  Every effort should be made to help those girls be parents.  (However, no one else should take responsibility and parent the child for them.  After they've had a baby, irresponsible childhood needs to go out the window.)  

However, for girls who decide that they really aren't ready for a baby, then yes, they should be able to give the child up.  It is unfair to a child to keep them "in limbo" for two three, even FIVE years until the mother turns 18 and decides what to do with them.  It's even more unfair to leave them with a mother who is not a responsible parent.

Answer 10

They can.  No one can make their medical decisions for them.  And no one can make their parenting decisions for them.

They are old enough to get knocked up, they are old enough to know if they want a kid or not.

NO ONE should be allowed to make that decision for her.  

How would YOU like it if someone told you you didn't have the choice and you had to live with this kid as your sibling?

Answer 11

I dont know if it is too big of a decision, i know some very mature underage girls who had to grow up early. They might be responsible enough to say that is the best thing. I think parents or another support system should play apart in this decision. But at the same time i feel you were grown enough to have s*x so you are grown enough to take care of your responsibilities, I dont know why people think that they can have s*x and a baby will never come. If they are underage and realize that they cant handle a baby then yes they should be able to put the child up for adoption, but i think a class should follow showing them what teen parenting is all about so they dont go getting preggo again. This is a touchy topic because everyone is different and all situations are different.

Answer 12

if a young girl has a baby and is unable to properly care for it, then i think it is ok to give an innocent child to someone who will be able to feed, clean, and take the child to the doctor regularly. and it doesnt have to be a perminent adoption, in some cases jus until the mother or biological parent is able to care for the child themselves.

Answer 13

I think that if they are old enough to have missed the boat on birth control then they are old enough to deal with the consequences. I do think, however, that they should have access to pre adoption therapists who are not affiliated with an agency, information about all of their choices from an unbiased party, support in any choice they make, and understanding, empathy and love from those around them with no pressure to make any choice they do not want.

We often forget that in other times and places it was not abnormal for a girl to be mated as soon as she started menstruating. It is really a rather recent opinion that "teens" are still children and unable to make up their own minds.

Answer 14

Can't say it for them, if they all "SHOULD", isn't that a human right violation?

Answer 15

NO it is not too big of a decision. Its a very mature and unselfish thing to do, with the support of their family.

Answer 16

Are you asking that is should be a law? Then no!! It is a very big decision when you decide to bring a baby into this world. Wither to keep the baby or not is the mother's choice, but if she is young then maybe she can talk it over with someone. Counseling can help to ensure she is making the decision that is best for her and her baby. It should not be a decision forced upon her by parents or anyone else.

Answer 17

if a girl decided to have s*x then she can decide what to do with it. it is the girl's child and not anybody else's so nobody else really has the decision of doing anything else unless the parents and family of the girl force her mentally to do so.

Answer 18

Yes, however, I believe it should be allowed only after she has been given mandatory counseling regarding all options available to her if she should desire to parent her baby.  

The first question to the girl who finds herself pregnant, should be, 'what would you like to do?'.  If her answer is to keep her child, then adoption should not even be discussed after that.  

From the moment that she expresses her desire to parent her child, the focus should be only on how she will be able to make that work for her and her baby.  

In fact, I think it is morally wrong and a disgusting practice to discuss adoption with a young, unwed mother before all her options regarding keeping her child have been exhausted.

It is all too easy for adults to make keeping a baby sound impossible to a young girl who is naive to resources available to her, and for them to make adoption sound like the only way out for her and her baby.