Do you think we have to choose a love song for our first dance, or is it ok to...?

Question

dance to a slow song that is "our song", but not romantic at all. It's not about breaking up or anything, but its definitely not a love song. Should we dance to it anyways since it is "our song"?

...Or should we just pick a love song to be our song for the day?

Answer 1

Def pick "your song".

Answer 2

you should pick "your song", if that is what you want. the first song my husband and i danced to was "by starlight" by the smashing pumpkins, not a "normal" first dance song, but a song that had always reminded me of him!

Answer 3

it doesn't matter that the song isn't romantic...as long as it has significant meaning to you lot - it's perfect!

Answer 4

Well, this isn't really going to affect people too much so do what you want. If it is really inappropriate I would re-think it though. Some songs may have meanings behind them that would really raise some eyebrows and may embarrass you later on. What song is it?

ADD: I see no big issue with that one. I was wondering more about ones that sound almost like love songs but are really more stalker-ish, or just weird/mean/violent songs.

My mom was telling me about an interview with Sting that she saw where he was pretty much saying people were crazy for using that some that goes "I'll be missing you" because it was supposed to be about a stalker.

Answer 5

Definitely dance to your song.... it's your special day.  Enjoy it and include everything that makes you happy.

*** Melts to Steve T's answer*** ... heavy sigh.... teehee  ... Hi Steve!

Answer 6

I think you should pick "your song" even if it is not a love song. If its important to you guys then thats what matters. I think all the little deatils that are important or special to you and your soon to be hubby will make the day so much more meaningful and romantic for the both of you. I am getting married next year and "our song" is really hard to dance to its a song by the Red Hot Chili Peppers, but its such a beautiful song and it means so much to us that we are going to use it anyways.

Just curious - What song is it???

Answer 7

me and my husband love to pull pranks and laugh. if your are that kid of couple too here is a way to make everyone happy and still have fun. Get a dj who know how to blend. take aout 3 to 5 songs your fav should come in first. but like i said if you have a good dj have him do a blended set. Mixing between socities idea of romance and your own. It will be an blending of music as you begin the mixing of two lives and families.  remeber when picking songs that the tempo is kept smooth  

Answer 8

If you want your song, then have your song!  After all it is your day it should be the way you want to remember it.  Don't pick a different song because it's a love song and look back 20 years from now thinking about how you wish you would have had "your song"!

Answer 9

I think you should dance to your song, even if it's not a "love song" it has more of a romantic meaning to you than any love song you could pick off a list.. so go for it.  It's your day, do what will be most memorable to you!

Answer 10

Your song is a love song. Maybe not musically, but the sentiment behind it for you, the fact that it is your song, makes it the greatest love song you could possibly play at you wedding. It's your day. It's your love. Play your song.

Answer 11

This is your day, and you must make it only about you too, it has a very special sound and beat , to slowly melt in to each other, to disappear in to each other arms,, in to another world, this is the moment that will last a life time as long as your holding each other,, and are smiling,, and are happy,, who cares, so smile hold on tight, and become the sound as one

Answer 12

It's your wedding. Do what you want, not what other people expect.  

Answer 13

You can have whatever song you two want.  My friends just had Alcohaulin A$$ for their first dance.  WHy?  Because they liked it and knew it would surprise everyone.

Answer 14

only your hearts know that. no one can interpet the longings of your hearts except you two.

Answer 15

You can dance to whatever song is meaningful to you, whether it is a "traditional love song" or not.