Do you think women become moms when they find out they're pregnant and men when the child is born?

Question

I fele like this is true. i changed my ways when i got pregnant, and the husband still hasn't. does anyone else feel this way?

Answer 1

I tottaly Agree

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Answer 2

yes. I have a friend who had a baby and during her pregnancy he wasnt there but he came around when she was close to her due date and now he's in his baby's life. I never thought he'd be such a good dad because he wasnt around during the first 6 months.

Answer 3

some never do, sorry to tell you.  make him take LaMaze classes with you and be in the delivery room.  

Answer 4

Generally speaking, I'm gonna go with no.  At least, that's my experience.  Its unfortunate that your husband hasn't "changed his ways", but every man I've ever known started preparing for fatherhood when the couple first started trying to conceive.  My husband was the same way.  From the moment we decided we wanted children, he turned into this big ball of "Super Daddy".  It was wonderful.  Anytime we walked by a baby he'd nudge me, kiss me on the cheek and whisper, "I can't wait until that's us".

Answer 5

I think it is true... it is in many many books that i have read. We, as women, can feel the baby move and kick, we nourish it from day 1. Fathers generally cannot form this same connection as early as we do. That does not mean they are not excited or happy, they just have not connected in the same way we have until the baby becomes "real" to them. Don't worry, i think this is a very, extremely true phenomenon and i think you will see your husband change once he holds his new baby!

Answer 6

im in the same boat!

Answer 7

I think this is a true statement.  For women we have to become mothers right away, because what we do can affect our child.  We instantly start caring for this life and have an immediate bond.  For men, nothing has changed and it is still hard for them to grasp that they are now a father.  They dont get that until they hold the baby for the first time, and suddenly it hits them.  They are a father.

Answer 8

I think that sounds spot on. It sure does change us as soon as we find out and it seems men don't really get it until the baby is actually right in front of them. Good luck with it all.

Answer 9

yes! for a woman you bond with the baby when its growing inside you. But for a man its totally different. Men bond at the birth. He may be excited with you but its not the same as we feel. But right at the birth things drastically change for men. hang in there!  

Answer 10

You know, i have heard this before as well. Not all guys can feel the connection with the child until they are able to hold it in their arms. Hopefully having the child will be a motivation for him to change what you want him to change, unfortunately as much as we would like to, having kids never fixes relationships. hopefully his case will be like yours.

Answer 11

Yes I believe that. I haven't had my baby yet but I don't think my boyfriend realizes he is a daddy already. He has changed a little bit. But not much. He doesn't get how important doctors appointments with me are or how important feeling him move is. I think its just because it hasn't hit him yet.

I know it will change once my Gage is here.