Do you think you've had enough?

Question

Let's assume you've just started dating someone.

In a discussion about the number of sexual partners your date has previously had, s/he confesses to having [insert number here]

How many is too many? And why?

Answer 1

During my time (never to be equalled) it was "after the pill" and "before AIDS." I 'entered into Ugandan discussions' with (apprx) 2,000 ladies. Some bad, most good. Nowadays, the days of 'pulling' and 'getting pulled', have long gone. It is all "phone s*x", "computer dating", and, credit cards. Total confusion! Oh well. I could not even begin to narrate, what the Sixties, Seventies, and, even half the Eighties, were all about. Especially the Seventies! "Saturday Night Fever" - 7 nights a week. Nowadays, it is all about crack, rap, and, 'c**p.'    

Answer 2

one night stands now if there over 10 that's wrong simply because, don't no the person and don't know what they could catch off them.

There's no specific number on how many peoples too many because all may be long term relationships and it is not the individuals fault that the relationship did not work out.  

Answer 3

Sleeping around is a major turn off for me.  I'm in my late twenties and I reckon that 8-10 is plenty.  Any more than that would make her a bit of a slapper I fear.

Answer 4

I suppose i could deal with just about anything as long as we weren't talking in the 100's...as Aye said, it's not my place to judge anyone.  And as long as they were willing to get tested if it was a really big number!

Answer 5

The better question would be was when was the last time you had a STD scan and HIV test? Also are your vaccines up to date? For me the number wouldn't be important if  they had a clean bill of health! And if they haven't been checked out for awhile, looks like we are going to the doctor!  

Answer 6

LOL for me its 0...

i guess if i got w/ someone and they told me like over 5...(granted im only 18  years old...and lets say s/he was my age...i'd be pretty concerned, for him/her...that's a lot...especially at my age.

um...LOL yeah, WTF sounds pretty good right now! ^_^

Answer 7

Depends on her age. If she's in the double digits by the age of 20, that's too much. But if she's at something-teen at 35 or 40, that's normal and maybe even low.

I would not want to know the answer to this question. It is none of my business and I never ask someone that. I think it's a sign of immaturity if someone asks me. It's not about the quantity, it's the quality.  

Answer 8

who cares. its how theey treat you. Whats is the past should stay there. Enjoy the time you have with the person. Who knows it could be the relationship you've both been looking for

Answer 9

like 15........but that would be at 20 - my age cos i know thats quite a lot more than me and would verge on S****y!

Answer 10

depending on their age of course, i would say 50 or more would be just about too many.  i like experience, but there is such a thing as too much.

Answer 11

Well, I find it to be a major turn off when somebody sleeps around with multiple partners. I really can't give you a number because some relationships just don't work out. I try to go with long term relationships. I think your partner should know some what about the past but its the past also. I make my partner get hiv tested before I have s*x with her. Plus women can lie about how many sexual partners she had..Why its a good idea to get tested with your partner...Long as she's clean I really don't care put the past behind and work on a relationship together.  

Answer 12

You look like someone I know.

Anyways, Part of me says it doesn't matter.  The past is the past, sometimes you can't help it that a relationship has failed and you go on to meet the nixt mr/mrs right.

Answer 13

I don't discuss this, seriously. I am not a saint myself. I was more concerned when learnt that my bf was in 8 year relationship before. I mean at first I was unsure if he got over that guy.

As long as a person didn't have unprotected s*x and is faithful I don't care how many he had before we got together

Answer 14

If there is more then I can count on both hands then it is to many.

s*x is special not to see how many u can rack up on the list.  

Answer 15

it depends how old for a start obviously a person at 20 who has had 50 partners not good as say someone who is 50 who had had the same number

Answer 16

I've known 5 men in my time. I'm not about quantity, I'm all about quality.

Answer 17

I don't think it should matter. I mean hey aslong as they aren't doing the dirty on you then its all good right?

Answer 18

At my age (41)  I would have a issue with too few not too many.  Too few would be 8 or less.

Answer 19

I mean it depends...cause if they say 50, but they are looking for monogamy now, you should get over it as long as they're STD free. But if they say 15 and counting then you may want to be concerned.

Answer 20

once you go past 30 then

its time for you to leave

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Answer 21

I might sound simple here, but I don't care (to a certain extent) about my partner's past.  As they are here with me right now.  However in the spirit of honesty if he has had numerous sexual partners I would hope that he has had regular medical check ups and it isn't a sign of being a serial cheater!  

Answer 22

never too many.

a lot? sure. too many? never.

why? things happen. and everyone has a past.  

Answer 23

No amount is too many, it's not my place to judge anyone.  

Answer 24

I'm young so I am going to have to say 10 at the most... I'm sure the number will increase as I get older. But at my age anything more than ten then your a certified hoe.

Answer 25

I agree with Texicano and Andy.

g*y Men, in general, are more concerned about starting up a relationship with someone who is under experience dreading they will have to "teach" them much before they can get a partner who can satisfy their needs.

I wouldn't say I was a s**t, but my sexual techniques would not be as good if I was still a virgin. Straight Men might be into innocence because they can't stand the idea of another Man being in their Woman (It's a territorial thing), but g*y Men are more interesting in technique in order to have a good time.