Do you think you could be a surrogate parent?

Question

If you were done having all your babies, and someone you loved couldn't have them, would you be able to have one for them? Or would you find it easier for a stranger where you never saw the baby again? Or (like me!) wouldn't you be able to do it at all??

Answer 1

i dont think i could do it. for a start i hate being pregnant and my body is not very good at coping with the changes, secondly i hate the pain of labour... its agonising! finally once i give birth i feel a massive rush of love and i could give the baby to someone else after all of that.

Answer 2

Nope. I'm still traumatized from my 5 year old son's 22 hour labor & birth and have sworn that if I ever want more children I'm going to adopt. So if I won't get pregnant again for my own child I definitely won't get pregnant again for someone else's.

Answer 3

i wouldnt be able to do it at all

Answer 4

I like to think I could do it for someone I am very close to, like my brother and his partner as I love my nieces and nephews like my own. I could never give one away to strangers.

Answer 5

After I gave birth to my daughter I instantly thought that I have to do this for someone else.

I have to give the gift of holding your child for the first time.

I want to be a little garden for someone. Sadly, my husband is 100% against it. It brings me to tears every time I think about it.

I have to end the answer here.

Answer 6

funny enough me and my partner were discussin this yesterday..i couldnt be a surrogate mother..not that im selfish or nothin but i just could carry a baby for 9 months and hand it over..my lil cat had 4 kittens 7 weeks ago and yesterday the first one of them left and i cried like a baby cos i had to let the kitten go..im usin the excuse of bein 5 weeks pregnant for my emotional state.lol.x

Answer 7

i could so long as it was her egg and her partners sperm and so it wouldn't be a part of me i would just look after it for 9 months

Answer 8

I think I could do it for someone close to me if I were using their eggs.  In fact, I would be happy to do it for someone I loved.  It's not something I would ever do for a stranger for money.

Answer 9

I'd be able to carry someone elses child (womans egg/mans sperm). If the baby had my dna...I wouldn't do it.

I'll be getting my tubes tied though, so that won't be an option.

Answer 10

I don't think I'd be able to do it all.  I've never been pregnant and am not planning to have a child anytime soon, but I could never have someone grow inside me for 9 months and then just give him/her away at the end.  That would just be too hard for me personally.

Answer 11

I don't think I could.

I've already decided I don't ever want to have kids, based mainly around my HUGE fear of the whole pregnancy and labour thing, [although not just that], so I'd be even less likely for somebody else.

Maybe if they payed me lol.

Or if I really loved them [like as a friend]. But I've never really loved anybody in my life yet, so I don't know...

Answer 12

I could do it for my sister.

Answer 13

I cannot have a child for medical reasons.  When I first found out, I thought about surrogacy, or getting a donated egg because I may still be able to carry.  I thought that if we were going to have a child, that I wanted it to be some part of my genetic make-up, blood related.

But in the end...   I decided that if I do try to find a surrogate or donated egg, I do NOT want the person to be related to me.  I think that it could be very difficult to be raising a child that is genetically not mine, but my moms.  Not because of the genetic thing, I mean, I want more than anything for my child to be genetically related.  But because of the family issues that could come up with that.

I mean, what happens when you decide to do something that the biological parents dont like.  Since you are family, you are going to know about it.  Maybe its just how my family is, but it would turn into a power struggle.  Im the parent, I adopted the child.  But its THEIR biological child.  What if they decide that because I decided to potty train at 3 instead of 2 and they dont like that and take me to court?  Biology is almost always given prefernce in court.

So, in the end, I feel that if I do use a surrogate, it will be a stranger.  If I use a donated egg, it will be anonamous.  More than likely though, I will skip through that and just foster and adopt.

As for me personally....   I can likely still carry, and would be willing to be a surrogate with someone else's embryo.  But probably not my family for the same reasons.  It would be a stranger.

Answer 14

I've been sterilised now (we have 4) but I checked that I would be able to carry one for my sister (she has pcos) before I did it. Happily she is now pg and due on New Years Day.

Answer 15

Depends on the circumstance. For a stranger, i would prefer to use their egg and sperm without worries. But if it were a family member, I wouldn't mind using my own egg ( as long as the sperm wasn't blood related to me) because I'd actually know the child! But at the same time, I believe that women who can't have children without modern day science shouldn't. It's a aprt of natural selection and the such and keeps populatin down naturally. However, I did offer my my SIL when they were worried about not being able to conceive. So, I basically have mixed feelings!

Answer 16

no  for 1 I'm to old now but i think it takes a special person that cud?

Answer 17

I think Im the only woman on here who doesnt swoon and go stupid at the thought of pregnancy. I would hate to be pregnant for someone else, it was awful enough doing it for myself.

Answer 18

yes

Answer 19

i think i would get very attached to the baby, but always have in mind that it wasnt mine. i think that would be a priceless gift to give someone who had no other choice.

Answer 20

If it wasn't my egg.

Answer 21

i've already told someone that if she wants kids that i would do it for her.  she told me that she wasn't able to ever have kids.  i think i could and would do it!!

Answer 22

I didn't like being pregnant so I would only do it for a family member or a close friend.

Answer 23

I could probably do it for someone i loved very much - someone i would put my life at risk for, as childbirth brings a woman nearer to death than most other procedures.

Answer 24

personally no i couldnt it would be to hard for me to give away a child i have carried for 9 months and give it to someone else especially someone close to me like a sister or something because i would see that baby to much not to get upset although my friend told me she couldnt have kids i felt reallly bad but i would have offred to be a surrogate but it would have been to hard to keep a promise like that

Answer 25

I would do it if it was their egg & sperm and I was just the host so to speak. I would have no problem. I think it would be a wonderful gift to someone. I even researched it. Turns out I am too old (35) and to overweight (not listing that LOL) I was seriously considering it. I would definately do it for family.

Answer 26

I couldn't do it. To have a baby grow inside me would be to make it mine and to give it away be...well...beyond me! Even if it was for my sister! Or especially. How could I be an Aunty when I were 'the mom' really?

For anyone who wanted a child so badly I'd say adopt. There are plenty of children out there in need of loving parents and homes without 'creating' one specifically for that gap.

Answer 27

Yes but i can't  help but wonder where it will exit