Do you think you could have done better than your spouse?

Question

Did you just settle? I sometimes wonder why I didn't do better for myself. It makes me feel like such a loser that I don't have a great man, like the people where the grass is greener.......lol. So, what is wrong with me that I wasn't more selective?

Answer 1

Well I know a lot of fantastic women who are now a bit 'over the hill' who chose not to settle...and are wishing they did. The grass also looks greener from the other side...lol

I suppose life is what you make of it. No one is going to be great at everything and fulfil everything you want in another. Us singles wish we had realised that earlier! If you work at it and encourage him & get him working on the relationship...maybe you can both 'do better' together?

Hmm, unless he is a real loser. Is he? Hope you don't mind my blunt question ;-) If he was one of those in & out of prison then I might consider upgrading personally. Life is too short to invest all your worthwhile efforts into a complete loser.  

Answer 2

No way could i have done better.

My husband is such a sweet and wonderful man who treats me like a queen and i love him more and more everyday.

He is my best friend and the love of my life and i couldn't imagine my life without him it.

Maybe you were in a rush to get married and didn't think about what kind of man you wanted for a husband.

Answer 3

Nope, I think my husband is too good for me.

Answer 4

I could have done waaaaaaaaaay better. I've turned down so many dates over the years. I did just settle cause of one thing....."I'm pregnant." You can still do better for yourself. You don't have to be stuck with this person just because of marriage and kids. I have just realized this in the last couple months and its time for me to get out. I am sick of someone else making my life miserable because they hate theirs. Your on the right track by knowing this situation is not good for you. Start thinking positive. I will help all I can.

-Ryan

Answer 5

i think that there is no way that i could have done better... my husband is better than perfect... he treats me better than i deserve... i truly thank god each and every night for him....  

i also believe that if you are asking these kinds of questions, then you have doubt, and maybe you should not be with your husband, if you were meant to be with him then you would love him completely and unconditionally... no matter what.. no matter if he was a janitor or the president...  because to you he would be the best there is..  

good luck..

Answer 6

What makes him 'not great'?

Answer 7

I think that my husband and I are perfect for each other. Hence why we got married.

Why did you bother getting married?

Answer 8

I feel the same way but in my case i'm stuck with two kids and there is nothing better for me because I ruined my life by having kids by a worthless piece of c**p and i'm to old for anybody worth a c**p to want me, yeah I date but i'm no keeper because I have kids and the youngest one is the devil himself so he runs off anybody nice.

Answer 9

Sadly no. He sucks, and my life is a complete stress all the time. But I am realistic too, and know that this is probably my lot in life and I should be grateful for what I have had.

Answer 10

No I didn't just settle; at the time I married him I was absolutely madly in love with him.

You are tormenting yourself now by comparing your partner to others and surmising that the grass must be greener .... it's very unhealthy thinking for you, and no good can come of it. Why don't you try to remind yourself what it was you loved about him when you committed to spend your life with him, and nurture the relationship you have together. Things do change over time, but that is the case for everyone really. Don't envy others ... some of those relationships that look oh-so-perfect from the outside looking in really aren't anything you'd wish for  behind closed doors. There isn't anything wrong with you for who you chose, assuming he is not abusive. Try to be grateful for what you have ... if you keep wishing for something greater than you have now, you'll just make yourself terminally dissatisfied ... sometimes you just have to love the one you're with!