Do you try to remember the invisibility of bisexuality when you see a couple? ?

Question

For example..if you see two women together do you assume they are L*****n? If you see two men together as a couple, do you assume they are g*y? If you see a man and a woman together, do you assume they are both straight?

I still work on this myself. It's hard NOT to assume, but I have been proven wrong on several occasions. A female/female couple I know have been together for nearly 5 years. Everyone assumed they were both L*****n, but in fact, one of them is bi.

Answer 1

I have been so naive for the last 50 years that I still assume the visibility of normality is what I will percieve.

I am not worried about being wrong, in fact...I expect it.

The one thing that always amazes me though...is the pleasure taken by the many in the pain of the few.  THAT, I will never get used to.

Answer 2

I try not to assume, yeah. It's kindof hard though. I went out with a bi guy,and everyone assumed we were both straight. Does it really matter? Unless you're looking for a relationship, hookup whatever.

I don't know the statistics, but maybe g*y is more common than bi?

anyways... I don't really know what you expect from an answer but I though I would anyway cos I like the quetsion.

Answer 3

I think it is awesome of you to try to remember this and to point this out.  One thing I get really frustrated about is that even though I do a ton of work in our local q***r community I am continually looked at as just an ally because the person I fell in love with and married happens to be male and I am female.  Which is okay.  Allies are freaking awesome, but I do get frustrated with being dismissed and with it being assumed that I am straight.  

For example, I was working with a q***r support group and everyone was telling their coming out stories and I got skipped over because it was assumed that I don't have one.  I mean, I understand the assumption but it is still frustrating to immediately get labeled because of who I sleep with when working with groups that are supposed to be teaching about not making assumptions.