Do you usually ask before you try different sexual acts, or do you just go for it?

Question

It's funny, but I read a lot of these questions where the guy is always asking permission to do things or if what he wants is allowable...I just go for it; if she doesn't like it, then we do something else. What kind of nerd asks permission before trying new things?!

Answer 1

I dont ask for permission but i might beg for forgiveness

SteveC

Answer 2

It depends on the woman i love my partner doing what ever he feels like to me and i hate him asking but some women want you to

Answer 3

I mean if its something a guy knows im down to do that just do it! but if its something he might doubt than ask, i might say yes....

Answer 4

I just go for it. And that seems to work pretty well.

Answer 5

You learn if you get smacked. Unless you like that kind of thing.  

Answer 6

I had a late BF that tried that with me.... That back door thing.  He is now nutless...........!

Answer 7

we talk about everything then if the opportunity arrives then we go for it. respectful ones ask brutal ones do 1st

Answer 8

i can definately relate to you , i just go for it. i do what i want to her til i'm done, epecially anal s*x.

Answer 9

Me and my girlfriend are really open

so i just ask her if she wants to try certain things

shes usually up for anything though

Answer 10

I just do it too her my way for the last 24 years no complaints yet, but she's staying awake longer. Normally she passes out.

Answer 11

Sometimes I just go for it, others I ask. Depends on what I'm after really, she is the same too. Eh just different people, some don't like things to change too much others like all the variety they can get.  

Answer 12

i just go for it. my hubby never complains

Answer 13

Ok, so I had a "friend" once who asked permission before EVERYTHING! even, simple things like "is it OK if i put my arm around you?" or "can I kiss you?" I t was kinda sweet...but it was a major turn-off. You don't even want to know how wierd it was in the bedroom! We didn't last very long- HAHA!

But personally, i don't ask permission. I expect that if whoever I'm with dosen't like what i'm doing, they'll pull away...it's just common sense to me...(but, after my "friend"...I guess it's not so common?)

Answer 14

It's like anything else concerning this matter.

Use the common sense God gave you.

Maybe it's ok to "go for it".

But do it slowly.

That way, if the person objects, they have a chance.

Just don't be so anxious.

Let it start out slow and romantic, and maybe afterwords ask.

Answer 15

You should definitely ask before you try the *ahem* backdoor.

So really you're not asking a question, you're just calling people nerds.

It's not nerdy to love and respect your partner.  

Answer 16

there are alot of hormonal teens on here and they seem to enjoy asking dumb sexual questions and probably jerk off to the responses.

Answer 17

    Want to speak about anal ? Just close your eyes and imagine she's you and you're her ? If you do it, in some cases will be ok and maybe they'll even like it, but what if it hurts, if they feel it anti-natural, etc - ?? By the way we were in a reversed hypothesis ? Sooooo - how do you feel it ? - without previous warning ? - it hurts ??  ooohhhh - disgusting ? noooooo - smile baby smile  

Answer 18

its better to just feel what is right

but you have to be with someone you know well to trust them...

Answer 19

Ok heres the thing, this all depends on what the guy wants to do. Like I used to know some VERY defensive women, and just at the mention of anal s*x, they'd go on a angry rant about how guys that like to give anal s*x to girls are ******* and g*y and how they should be having s*x with guys if thats what they like. So since you dont want to creep some women out, whenever I wanna try something that isnt entirely common in the bedroom, instead of asking her if its ok if we try this out, I'll ask the girl "what would you never do in bed?" Then she'll go off on a list of things she'll never do, and if what I wanted to try is on her list, I'll have found a clever way to avoid a fight, however if what I wanted to try isnt on the list, I'd just ask "have you ever thought about trying this?"  

Answer 20

I say go with the heat of the moment but a soft whisper in the ear to suggest a new position or sexual turn on is much more of a turn on for the partner.  Just doing it can be harsh.  It's not always the guy who wants a change. Suggest things.  Don't ask. Enjoy!!

Answer 21

Nice girls would rather you go for it..(and of course not get offended when you are rebuffed).

Bad girls probably do not care.  I mean if you describe it....it can be foreplay.

IMHO  (no that does not stand for I am a "Ho" ha ha ha).

LOVED Steve C's answer.

Answer 22

I'll try anything once and if it's fun I'll make a habit of it.