Do you wish you would have saved yourself for marriage?

Question

Of the married people who had s*x before marriage with someone other then your current spouse. Do you regret not saving yourself for your spouse? I do...

Answer 1

I sure don't. I would HATE to be married to someone who was bad in bed. Can you imagine having bad s*x for the rest of your life? s*x before marriage is the only way to know if your partner will be the lover you will need.

Answer 2

The age people are expected to get married 23-35 is not in line with the age of sexual maturity. 13-16. (Sexual maturity not mental maturity).

The age of marriage is based on society’s expectations of when you can support yourself. Back in the day people got married at 13. At that age they could move on their own live on the plains and start a farm. They also had family and community to help.

Today we are expected to finish HS, go to college and get a carrier then get married.

That does not coincide with the age of sexual maturity. Hence the problem/cause of premarital s*x and the unrealistic expectation of waiting.

At the same time no guy wants some chic who has been ridden hard by everyone in town. its like throwing a hotdog down a hallway and that aint no fun.

If a guy could get so lucky that he gets a virgin he is a lucky lucky man.

Answer 3

absolutely not

Answer 4

I wish he had been my first because the guy I gave it to was a jerk and didn't appreciate it, but I don't necessarily believe in waiting for marriage. I do think you should wait for the right person. My husband and I were together a long time before we were married.

Answer 5

I am a married man and let me tell you this:  Unless you are 100% certain that you will get  a virgin who value this nonsense as your partner for life, never save yourself for wedding.

Answer 6

not nessesarily for marriage but wish I would ahve waited a little longer

Answer 7

That kind of saving doesn't generate any interest.

Answer 8

Not at all.  Statistically, people who "save themselves for marriage" tend to quit school, marry early, and have children before they are mature or experienced enough to handle it.

Answer 9

yes i do regret it because my husband now is way better because these are experiences you never forget but don't beat yourself up  all of this was a growing process so live and let live be happy that GOD! still sent the best man to you because i know he did it for me!

Answer 10

Yes. I wished I could have waited. The person who I "gave" it too didn't love me or care for me, neither did all my other s*x partners.

I stop having s*x since 2006, and I'm going to have s*x when I get married.  

I just don't want the drama that s*x causes right now. :)

Answer 11

Well, I have been married since I was 16 and been with the same man since I was 15, I don't have to worry about that.

Answer 12

Nope; nor do I worry about it; he doesn't; never has and he knows the full extent of my past.

Answer 13

Hubs and I were both virgins on our wedding night, and it was one of the best decisions either of us ever made. I have no regrets, and we don't have to worry about whether one of us picked up a little friend along the way, or whether he got someone pregnant and doesn't know it. We have no memories to compare one another to. Our love life is fantastic too. I may not be some other man's idea of a good lover, but I can please my husband extremely well, and he pleases me too. What else matters? And we didn't even have to try each other on before we married. We communicate with one another. We tell each other what we like and what we want to try. It ain't rocket science. I think the whole "test drive" thing is an excuse to justify not denying your sexual wants. It's a load of pure c**p when people say it is necessary. Me and Stepford Wife and others, and the other young marrieds I know, are living proof that it's bull.

Answer 14

I married my husband when I was 18 and we saved ourselves until marriage. It was awesome and whoever said that you need to have s*x before deciding to marry them is dead wrong. Our s*x life is awesome and very fullfilling. It was never awkward. We loved each other and that was all the mattered. We didn't need to know exactly what "move" to make, it came naturally.

I think that a lot of divorces today happen because people live together and sleep together and then get married. What do they have to look forward to? What is there after they get married that they didn't have before? I think that s*x should be after marriage because it starts your marriage off with a good start, not the same old same old.

Answer 15

I lost my virginity at 18 to the guy I married 11 years later.  He went into the Navy and decided to stay there.  We both needed time to grow up before marriage.  Unfortunately, he liked having a girl in every port.  I didn't!

Answer 16

see thats what i keep telling ppl on here. even though im waiting until marriage to have s*x and never have had it before i know that ppl regret it. And besides thats the way its supose to be anyway.

Answer 17

Not really. I don't think of my genitalia as a gift, though. Anything I did previously to being with him was just a learning experience. The gift he has is my love, not my s*x.

Answer 18

Nope, and Im not even married lol. Regret is a big issue now a days and once a person is married they arent guaranteed to be great in bed together. Emotional and physical have to be great and you'll never know until you do it.

Answer 19

i tried until i was 17 and I couldnt wait any longer.. it will drive you insane

Answer 20

I regret that neither of us waited.  Before you find true love and get married, it is kind of hard to believe it will happen.  When I was younger, there were a lot of times that I thought I was "in love" with a few people so I made a decision to have s*x with them.  Only now do I realize I was wrong and wish I would have waited.  But dwelling on it doesn't help.  I am just glad that I finally found the one for me and we are happy.  Hope you are too!

Answer 21

Why would you regret? It's all part of growing up into a well rounded person. Those who restrict positive experiences like s*x when growing up become emotionally stunted adults, in my experience.

Answer 22

no....i want to at least say i had a small variety in different s*x with ppl

Answer 23

Yes, (i have only had s*x with my current spouse) but it has nothing to do with morality

Answer 24

I'm not married and I don't intend to be; therefore, I'm a firm supporter of premarital s*x.

Answer 25

I don't regret it I really loved my first and I am extremely happy that I lost it to him I wished me and  him could have lasted. We were together for four years. And have been broken up for almost 3 I really do miss him. To bad we are just different ppl. But as for the others... There are a few regrets just because they were the cause of drinking too much...lol..but I am happy were I am at right now, YOU LIVE LEARN AND LET DIE... So you will be fine...

Answer 26

No.  I enjoyed some of my sexual adventures when I was young and don't particularly regret them.  some of them were good while they lasted.  There are a couple of men who I wish I had never got involved with though.  I suppose one could argue that if I had been saving myself for marriage then I would not have had to go through the misery that I did with them.  On the other hand, if I had gone around announcing that I was saving myself for marriage, I don't know if my husband would have wanted to marry me anyway.

Answer 27

Yes. And to all the people that say "you need to know if your partner is good in bed before you know if you can marry them,"

1. s*x isn't the most important thing in marriage. If it is, you shouldn't be getting married.

2. Ever hear of COMMUNICATION? It's not like it's something forbidden to TALK to your partner and tell them what you like or don't like. Pretty simple if you ask me.

Answer 28

No.  I wish I had all my years of useless virginity back, so I could have enjoyed s*x at an earlier age.. What a waste.  You are only young once.  Why waste it?

Answer 29

I wish I had saved myself FROM marriage in the first place lol. Getting married at 19 to the 2d guy I ever slept with? what was I thinking???? If I had to do it over, I'd go out and sow my wild oats before settling down.

Answer 30

No, not at all.  I'm glad I was able to experiment prior to any kind of marriage.  I became a much more experienced lover and was able to distinguish between my likes and my dislikes.  Plus, I have always been a very curious person, and had I not experimented, I would have always wondered.....what if.

Answer 31

I doubt it makes any difference; I'll never get married because I'm too ugly to even get a girlfriend. I also don't have any money. In order words, I'm too ugly to fornicate, to speak in religious terms.