Do young women tend to have a more tumultuous relationships?

Question

I have seen in my life that quite a bit of women I've known have had very tumultuous relationships with their mothers at some point. I bring this up because my brother and father have had a couple big disputes in the recent past and I started wondering if there is any disparity within relationships with parents and same-s*x children and started remembering all the many issues women i've known have had with their mothers and it felt that more of those situations seem to happen with girls/young ladies and their mothers.

Is this just something i've seen within my experience or is it more greatly spread and if so- then is there a reason for it?

*and could this be the reason why its considered an insult to say to women that she's like her mother?

Answer 1

No I think it is something that is fairly wide spread.  Same s*x siblings tend to argue more as well.

Answer 2

Young people tend to have more tumultuous lives, period.

When is the last time you saw two men in their 60s get in a fistfight in a bar?

Answer 3

No.  It's not an insult and you are right that the Mother-Daughter relationship can be tumultuous, although I could not say that it is moreso than the Father-Son relationship.  I think they have similar dynamics.

One of the major problems is that the Mother sees the daughter as an extension of herself.  If the daughter grows up to be exactly like the Mother, then there are few problems.  But if the daughter grows up to be different from the Mother in views, profession, etc., the Daughter has to make an emotional break with the Mother, and demand that the Mother respect her choices, even though those choices are not what the Mother had in mind, while risking the entire relationship by making that break.  When you are a child there seems to be an unsaid scenario of "I love you IF...you do what I want you to do..."  That has to change to "I love you no matter what you do."

It seems like a male would go thru the exact same thing with his Father.  If a Father wants the Son to follow in his footsteps as many do, and the Son doesn't want to, a similar break would have to happen.  

Of course many times the Parent doesn't ever make it to unconditional love.  

An interesting book on this subject is "My Mother, Myself."  I read it as a young adult, and it helped me a lot, because I did not follow in my Mother's footsteps.

Answer 4

That would be expected. They have more in common. I'm not sure I'd agree that same s*x siblings would argue more though...