Do your kids share a bedroom ?

Question

I have a 5 yr old boy and 14 mo. old boy and just found out I am 5 wks pregnant. One of my main concerns is space in our home. We bought a small 2 bedroom before I knew I was pregnant with the 2nd baby. We thought we solved our space dilemna by using a huge chunk of savings to build a new bedroom on. I am thinking of having the 5 yr old share a room with the 14 mo. old in the off chance that the baby may be a girl,etc. I feel really badly about this however, for both of the kids, because there is a 4 yr age difference and I know they both need their own space. Do your kids share a room ? If so, what are there ages?

Answer 1

my 6 year old and 2 year old share a room and get on really well. lots of kids have to share a room so dont worry to much if you can

Answer 2

well i have 2 young girls ages 18 months and 3 years. they just started sharing a bedroom- 5 days ago, becaus. we just set up the bed for younger one. and the reason they are sharing now is because i am due in 9 weeks.

we rent our place and it has a very large loft like master bedroom with the other 2 bedrooms off of it. we had the lil one's crib in our room, because the 3rd bedroom was sorta being used to store baby stuff/furniture, spare bed etc.

we debated on who should share a room with baby or baby have own room.

i feel for you...but cant you consider another home in the near future?  even in a couple years.  i think for myself there comes an age where a boy and girl should definately Not share a room, but as newborns, infants and young toddlers its not so bad.

good luck

Answer 3

my 8 yr old and 17 yr old share a room and I have never had a problem actually they like it and my 17 yr old likes sleeping on the top bunk why?? who knows he just does

Answer 4

mine shared a room until this year. They are 7 and 5.  The only reason they don't continue to share is because the oldest is a girl and the youngest is a boy... It won't hurt them to share for a little while.  By the time they need separate spaces maybe the finances will allow a larger home.  

Answer 5

Well, I shared a room with my brother until I was 13(before people got so involved in things like a girl and a boy sharing a room), and he drove me nuts, lol, being 3 years my junior. Consider having the toddler sleep with the new baby, should it be a boy. The baby will sleep in your room for a while after s/he is born, and a toddler is more able to adapt. If it is a girl, then yes, you may have to have them share a room for a while, but they won't do too bad. They'll both learn how to share and get along at a younger age, and then when you have some equity built up and are able to build a new room, they will appreciate it more.

Don't listen to people's negativity, kids share rooms all the time and grow up to be happy, productive, social adults. If they are all boys, consider switching them out every so often, so they all share a room at one time or another. If I get to conceive my second child, my daugther will be around 2 1/2 and have to share a room with the new baby, boy or girl, for a few years until we can find a better place to rent, or better yet, manage to get a down payment for a house together.

Also- your oldest isn't getting jipped very much, he had you to himself for about 3 years, and, being the oldest, he will be starting into sports, school, and time with friends, boy scouts, etc. soon, if not already, and be doing all sorts of things the younger ones will envy and look up to him for.

Good luck!  

Answer 6

I have two boys 7 and 5, and a 4 year old daughter.  My boys have always shared a room, first out of necessity, we have since moved into a large home and they chose to stay together.

Honestly, you may be surprised, they may love sharing a room.  I wouldn't worry about it so much.  Kids share rooms all the time.  Its just the way it has to be.  And what else are you going to do anyways?

My boys have always loved sharing a room, and have no desire to part so far.  I shared a room wtih my sister (by choice, and we're 2 years apart) for years, it wasn't until I turned 11 or so that I asked for my own room to have my own space.

I am not sure what kind of a house you do have, but if you are really concerned about anyone sharing a room, you can get creative.  My other sister felt that way, and she lived in a three bedroom Cape... and she turned the den downstairs into a fourth bedroom.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Don't feel bad.  There is nothing wrong with kids sharing rooms.  I grew up with four sisters and we always  shared rooms.  Just remember that the older child will need his space and make sure that the younger child respects the older child's toys.  It will all work out.  

Answer 8

Well my 5 & 4 year old daughter share a room, the room is quite big and they do have their own ''space''. My 5 year old has her desk for crafts,homework,or writing. They do have seperate beds. The 5 year old's wall is painted a light pink and lime green, and she has pictures and posters on "her" side of the room. On the other hand my 4 y/o's is painted plain pink and a light yellow. I feel they could share a room because their very close, like best friends. When their older we are most likely to give them their own rooms.

Answer 9

Wow my Brother is having this trouble too he has an 11 year old and a 3 year old and to be honest for the 11 year old its just terrible ..you have to think of it this way when your older boy is 10 his brother will be 5 .. to me it seems a 'little' unfair, maybe it wont be like this but i can see a lot from my 11yo nieces point of view she has no space ..

Answer 10

Why do people ask advise then they snap at people ...Whats the problem i know i wouldn't wanna share a room with a toddler !

Answer 11

Tell you WHAT TO DO

QUIT POPPING KIDS OUT UNTIL YOU GET A BIGGER HOUSE

Then you wont have this problem !

Answer 12

me and my sister shared a room for 18 years. and we had a 4 year space between us still to today we will opt to sleep in our old beds at my folks house and bs about old days  (sad thing we had two other bedrooms we were always close)

Answer 13

I still share a room with my brothers. My sisters share a room too. I am the oldest but we do what we have to do.

I know my parents would have liked to have given us each our own room and things like that but it didn't work out that way. There are too many of us.

We learned how to share and respect each other. We also learned how to resolve differences and help each other.

Yeah there are trying times but all in all I didn't mind. The only problem I ever had was when my little brother was about 5 (he is 11 now) and I was about 13 or 14, he used to strip my bed, rip my things up, break my possesions etc (he is autistic). We finally had to give him his own room and it really helped a lot. Now he can share a room again but when he was young it was very hard.

Answer 14

Paul McCartney of the Beatles had all his kids in one bedroom. Makes for a closer knit family.

Answer 15

My (now) ten year old daughter and eight year old son shared a room until they were 9 and 6 1/2.  

We have a daughter turning one this month, and she currently sleeps with me but she will move into her sister's room at some point.

Children do not NEED their own rooms.  They can have their own space within that room, too-their own bed, dresser, toy box, etc.  

Depending on the size of the room, you could install an accordian divider that could be open adn closed to partially close off the room, but I think that is unnecessary.  

They also make these neat "tents" that go over twin size beds in a variety of themes.  That would offer some privacy, as well.  Another option would be loft beds-sort of like a bunk bed, but the lower portion is used for play/storage.  You could close that off with curtains and the children could have their own private space as well.

My children enjoyed sharing a room together, even though they were opposite genders.  I think it makes siblings closer.

You could consider letting the boys share a room until the baby is about a year old, at which time they would be about 7 and 3.  You could then move the youngest back in to share with the baby for a period of time.  However, I do not think it is unreasonable for a 3 and 7 year old to share a room.  

Another option would be to let the baby bunk with you until approximatley a year old, and then move him/her into one of the bedrooms and let the older ones share.

As time progresses, you will find the perfect solution for your situation, but it is not necessary for each child to have their own room so do not let that stress you.

Answer 16

My kids are only 18 months apart (girl then boy) and due to a low vacancy rate and it being nearly impossible to find a 3 bedroom, they shared a room from ages 2 & 4 - 8 & 10 while we were on a waiting list for a bigger apartment.

It wasn't ideal, but you do what you have to do.  Bunk beds with unisex sheets, taking turns for dressing and one got sleepovers when the other was at one.

My neighbors have a 3 bedroom and 4 kids.  They have 3 boys in one room (ages 10, 3 & 1) and their daughter (9) has her own room...the size of a closet.  I'm sure they don't think it's ideal either but close living quarters sure does bring a family together.

You could always keep them separate for as long as possible and put a crib in your room.  You might have another boy, then the two younger ones can share.  Even if it is a girl, at that age it really doesn't matter.  You have plenty of options.