Do your parents treat you like a slave, too?

Question

Okay so not exactly a slave.

But do they make you do excessive chores?

I have to cook dinner and wash/dry all the dishes after every meal.

I do the family's laundry, mow the lawn, and vacuum my room and all my siblings rooms every week.

My mom told me that if I would water the plants in front every day, she'd give me $5 a week.

I've been doing it for 10 weeks and she hasn't paid me.

She yelled at me to water them today (I' haven't missed a day yet) and I said "I will, but when are you going to pay me?"

And she said she already did!

She didn't, I know she didn't.

And then she like broke the hose so I couldn't water them and then I told her and then she's like "WELL THEN TAKE OUT THE TRASH AND RECYCLING AND GO PICK BLUEBERRIES!"

I don't even eat blueberries and she just makes me do chores every day of the summer.

Gosh.

Do your parents treat you like that, too?

And no parents answering "listen to your mother".

If you do, I'll report you, and I'm sure some other kids will too.

Answer 1

Waaahhhhh!

If I had a little brat like you, I would have a 45th trimester abortion.  

If you don't like doing anything at home, why don't you run away - then to eat you can go out and give BJs behind the local Quickie Mart like some kids have to do.

You don't deserve to have parents.  Spoiled brat.

Answer 2

Are you threatening me?!! lol. I am a parent and it seems like you are doing way too much, what do your siblings do? what does your mom do? chores need to be fair! That sounds like way to much. How old are you?

Everyone should take turns with dishes and meals and everyone should do their own darn laundry! As far as the extra stuff IDK i think  she should pay you for real.

Is your mom stressing out about other stuff in her life? tell her to stop taking her frustration out on you, it is not fair and it hurts your feelings.  

Answer 3

At 14 you have to COOK? I can see if you have to fend for yourself at times, but to me, the parents need to 'pitch' in here. And you're doing 'everyone's' laundry too? That's just rediculous. I can see them teaching you how to do yours, but only yours. I can see you "helping" with dishes after dinner, but not be solely responsible for them.

When and if your Mom pays you, give her a receipt. Do this from now on, and have her sign your book where you log it in. That way, she can't come back and say she has/hasn't paid you yet. And she should be taking care of her plants. Goodness.

When I was little and living with my step MONSTER and real father, I felt like I was a slave. Even though I didn't have to cook, I had to wash and dry the dishes, clean the stove, wash the side of the refrigerator off because of the grease from the stove, sweep the floor, clean the table. They ate in the living room, while I ate by myself at the kitchen table. The only time I got to eat with the family is on Holidays. After kitchen duty, I had to go take my bath and go to bed. When I got home from school, I had to fold laundry (I hate white clothes), and my father's white socks had to MATCH.  They were all the same kind, but the ones with the stain, had to pair with the other stained ones and so forth. Goodness...anyway...I dusted, vacuumed, and cleaned the bathroom **** and span she would say, and do the tile floor with the tooth brush so that I can clean the grout. If I missed a spot on a dish, she'd hit me with it. And if there were spots on the glasses, or a spec on just one, I'd have to do the WHOLE cabinet of them that night. If I didn't wring my wash cloth out good enough after my bath, she'd wake me up wring the water out over my face!!! Then make me get up and wring it again.

It was all rediculous.

Anyway...I think you are being over worked and not being allowed to have some fun time. Not enough of it anyway. Hang in there sweetie. Only four more years and you're outa there.  :-)

Answer 4

my dads ex wife use to do this to me when i was 12. i would have do dishes, cook, was laundry and put it away, vaccum/sweep, clean the litter box, clean around the house. and i absolutly hate cats and had to clean up after them. knowbody believed me she did this to me and finally, my dad got a divorce from her. she never paid me and my dad was always gone. everyday when i got home from school, i would have a list. just think, you only have 4 more years then you can move out. it wont do any good to say anything except talk to your dad bc parents think they are always right!

Answer 5

Well how old are you hun? I'm 18 and I have to do lots of chores around the house; I run errands for my mom and stuff during the day. But my parents pay me to do it so it's all good. If they didn't, I wouldn't do it for them. I'd sit down with, you, her, and your dad and discuss this issue. Chores should be broken up equally among family members, not just one person. Maybe make up a chore chart and present it to them. Good luck! =]

Answer 6

listen to your mother

Answer 7

hey you are not alone when i was your age i helped also my mom to do the house chores without pay,i also watch for my little brother,but every weekend when my mom is off from work i go out with my friends,or play a lot.but my mom doesnt yelled at me.Talk to your mom and tell her how you feel.

Answer 8

Man, that's rough. She sounds mean.  

My suggestion: keep a week-long log of all the stuff you do around the house.  Show your mom and dad at the same time, and say something like, "It seems like mom thinks I do nothing around here, but I do, and I'll show you how much I did this week."  

Even if your dad isn't around as much as your mom, it'd be good to have him on your side, right?

Answer 9

just stop doing chores then. go on strike! lol  but i would just stop.

Answer 10

ok I just want to say its not really all that nice to threaten to report people for answers you don't like..that's kinda mean :(

it does seem unfair that she has not payed you when she promised she would. Breaking promises to your child is not ok at all.

it does seem mean but maybe your mom just wants to teach you some responsibility , and that will help you out in a year or 2 when you are going out in the world looking for a part time job. Raising kids is hard work and sometimes us parents have to do things that seem unfair in our kids eyes when really we are trying to do what is best for them. If you are really unhappy try sitting down with your mom and having a talk with her. she may not realize how upset you are. Us moms know alot but we can't always read your minds :)  maybe you 2 can come to some sort of agreement about what chores you do and when so you have days were you have none at all.

Answer 11

Face it some paretns are like that, and i wouldnt hold my breath on getting paid if i were you trust me. If your mom has bought you a shirt, make-up and book magazine you name it in the passed 10 weeks she'll say that was your allowance (my mom does that still and i'm much older). I understand where you are coming from though she does seem to be telling you to do quite a bit and doesnt seem to be very appricative, but parents are like that. I've been taking care of my younger siblings (4 boys 3, 5, 11 and 13 years younger than myself) since i was 16 becasue both my parents work so much i gave up a lot of my fun high school things to do it too it was a all year job, but still i didnt clean the bathroom the way my mom wanted and i didnt vacummn under the chairs parents nit pick and you cant do too much about it. you could try and bring it to her attention you feel like she's alwyas yelling at you and tht you are very hurt becasue she doesnt appricaite what you do, but from my experience she'll get defensive and it'll just be one more argument. Just try and tough it out 4 more years do great in school get scholarships and go away to school

Answer 12

honey when i was your age mom dose the same even more she'd call me from my room so i can give her a tissue from the table next to her ... anyway .. now i grew up and sometimes i appreciate what she puts me threw .. now i can adjust with all different situation and i love everybody this is your mom and this is your life if you argue with her you will be in trouble so learn to live with it " by the way there's a chance just a minor chance that mommy have some troubles now and she is so stressed and that's her way to handle it all i am not saying that it's right .. but we are all humans don't you give her stay away from me and don't talk to me and you don't understand me when you have troubles with your friends or troubles in school ? .... wait a few days if things stays the same in a relaxing moment make her a nice cup of coffee sit with her and tell her that you like doing things with her but there's other things that you want to do  ..  

Answer 13

You may feel like a slave right now.  You may secretly be glad later in life tho when you realize that you were taught how to have a work ethic and how to manage household chores.  I've seen kids who were never made to do anything grow up to adults who cant cook for themselves, and the thought of cleaning the house, much less laundry too, is overwhelming.

She may be a little overboard with the chores too.. obviously you have siblings and the work load should be shared equally.  Younger siblings are capable of more simple chores like picking blueberries and helping with laundry.  Even a 3-4 year old can help you sort and fold.

I dont think its right that your mom promised you money and did not give it to you tho.

Answer 14

God you have it bad!  This is what I ask of my kids

Make their own beds

Pick up their own dirty clothes and put them in the hamper

Pick up all the toys

Get their breakfast (cereal, pop tarts, waffles, nothing major)

and pick up the clutter in the back yard.

now, when they are older I will have them doing their own laundry, but no one else's and I'm teaching them how to plan meals and cook now, but I won't expect them to cook an entire family meal without help.

Answer 15

YES, YES, YES ! I moved out as soon as I could ! I will live under a log before I would ever go back ! I was her servant and got beat and yelled at everyday if something was wrong. Dad did nothing. I'm sorry you have to live like this.

Answer 16

ask her wat she means by she payd u, and tell her that u r over whelmed, and ur siblings shold do there own room

wat do ur parents do all day, if they just sit there, then there is a problem

and the not payin u thing, tell her "well how am i supposed to trust u in the future?"

Answer 17

life sucks when you're 14.

it's not much better when you're 41.

this is my daily routine:

laundry - two loads, every day

every day, sweep the entire apartment, including the balcony

twice a week, mop the whole apartment

every day, vacuum the rug and upholstery

every day, dust down the shelves and electronics

dishes - constantly; i don't wait for the sink to fill, i'm always washing something

once a week, empty out the fridge and freezer and clean them

two to three times a day, take out the garbage

two to three times a day, bathe the kid (she likes to investigate stuff)

prepare three meals and two snacks a day for three ppl

every day, bake three loaves of bread - one for me, two for sale

answer the phone and door - every time

pay the bills: rent, phone, internet

let hubbie know which ones he's forgotten to pay: insurance, credit cards

keep a running tab on what's in the kitchen, run out and get what runs out

on top of that, i have to, every day:

amuse, entertain, teach, and supervise my 17mo old

breastfeed her (which is, like, every two to two and a half hours)

change her diapers

change her clothing

take her out for a walk or to the mall so she can meet other ppl

and ppl wonder why i don't like having ppl over - nothing gets done!

you can sit there and carp and moan about how rough your life is or you can look at it this way:  i did squat-all when i was a kid.  i knew if i whined and dawdled long enough, my parents would blow up and kick me out of the house and i NEVER cleaned my room.  all i did was hang out at the park and read.

needless to say, housework was an ugly, ugly shock.

lady_bella:  why on earth would she NOT cook at 14!???

i have two older daughters, now 22 and 19, and by the time they were 7yrs old, they were cooking.  they could cook grilled cheese, scrambled eggs, KD, pasta with tomato sauce, and similar.  by the time they were 10, they knew how to do laundry, cook, keep their rooms clean.

mind you, the place was still always a disaster and they never did what they were asked to do but now that they have their own apartments, they're thanking me!

Answer 18

OMG YEAH!

at my moms house every day i have to do the dishes vacum an dust

at dads house i have to mow the lawn and take out garrbage.

IT SUCKS!

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Answer 19

You know what ? Your mother is really going to miss you when you move out . What you describe is borderline abusive .  

  Who does she think is going to do HER work when you are gone?

If she pitched in and you both did chores together , that would be teaching responsibility . What she's doing is taking advantage of you .

My son is 17 . He has chores but nothing like what you have to deal with ...  

Answer 20

I do agree with children doing chores, I even do quite a few (but I try to make it fun while doing them, lol), but it seems like you're doing everything. The one that really got me raising my eyebrows is the cooking dinner and vaccuming your siblings room.

I'm not trying to sound like a rude little *****, but does your mother do anything around the house? Household chores in my opinion is something that a family as a whole should be doing together. Not just the mom or the dad and not JUST the child. Everyone who lives in that house should be doing them. When my mom started having me do chores, she put me responsible of the rooms I was in the most or where most of my stuff are which is the computer room, the bathroom, and of course my bedroom. She would usually take care of the dining room, the living room, and the kitchen (sometimes I will do the living room or wash the dishes) and she'll do her bedroom. The way my mom and I think of it, household chores is a big team effort and everyone has to participate.

I'd sit down with both of your parents and have a long talk about this. Tell them exactly how you're feeling (without whining!) and try to work something out. Surely your siblings are old are old enough to be able to take of their room and other chores as well. Maybe work out some sort of chore plan or something like that.

As for watering the plants and not getting paid when she said she would. I really don't know what to tell you about that. Maybe talk to her about it to? I'm sorry, I don't really know how I can help you there.

All I can really say is that you got to talk to your parents about this and try to work something out and have the whole family do chores together as a team. :)  

Answer 21

yep yep yep yep yep!!!

one thing after another

do the dishes mow the yard take out the trash go crush the cans go fix supper wahwahwahwah....