Does a Guy Need to Wear a Wedding Ring?

Question

My father never wore a wedding ring and neither did my Grand Dad

I have never imagined wearing one and it is about to drive my fiancee insane

She feels that I am not showing commitment and she always imagined her husband was would wear one

I do not wear any jewelry, including a watch. I have been married before and lasted 10 months before I took the wedding ring I wore last time

Girls - what do you think of this. Does a guy have to wear a wedding ring. I am not a 'player' and dont socialize on my own and pretend I am not married. Its just I can't stand the feeling of metal on my skin

Answer 1

Lots of men don't like wearing jewelry. Personally, I don't see a problem with it. Wearing a ring, or not wearing a ring, doesn't make a marriage any better or worse. It has nothing to do with commitment.

I never wear my rings all summer. If my fingers swell up, then the rings are tight. If I go swimming, the rings are loose. I don't want to risk losing them, so for 4 months, they go in the safety deposit box at the bank. I don't take them off, so others think I'm single. I take them off, because I don't like wearing them in the summer.

We've been happily married for 32 years, and wearing/not wearing a ring is something so trivial, when you look at the big picture.

Answer 2

My husband does not wear his.  He told me he didn't want to from the start, so I got him one for $30 (70% off) from KMart.  It has nothing to do with trust in our marriage.  I am fine with that.  My husband doesn't wear any jewelry and I can understand that.

Answer 3

I dont think you HAVE to wear a ring. Coming home every night is what makes you devoted, not wearing the ring.

However, try to understand her point of view: While not unheard of, it is uncommon to not wear a ring. This is obviously important to her.

Make a deal with her. Get a cheap ring and tell her you will wear it for 3 months as a trial period, but if you still hate the feeling 3 months later you are going to take it off. Just do this to show her that you are making an effort, and that you are not just being stubborn and pig-headed.  

Answer 4

Would you be more comfortable wearing the ring on a chain around your neck?  Most women want their guy to wear a wedding ring.  My ex and my BIL both worked around machinery with their hands and chose to wear their rings on neck chains so the ring did not get caught on machinery and rip off their finger.  

Answer 5

No one HAS to wear a wedding ring. One wears it to symbolize a never-ending love. If you have allergies there are other materials that a ring could be made out of. I think I would have told my fiancee about this metal allergy when you first met.

I know it sounds strange, but friends of ours had their rings tattooed on their fingers. He did it first, and she liked it so much, she did it too.

You have an interesting problem!  

Answer 6

I guess they don't NEED to......

but if my husband didn't wear his, I would be very hurt because they are symbols of your love and commitment to the relationship and signify a certain partnership. I understand where your girlfriend is coming from.........sorry. :-)

Answer 7

A wedding ring does not make a marriage.  It is more just a respectful thing that one does for his love one.  Like you, I hated rings, almost lost a finger with one, I spent many years fighting not to wear one, but now that I have aged and do not feel the desire to fight anymore, I wear one.  Good luck.

Answer 8

Gotta wear it.... I think it's disrespectful if you don't.  

Answer 9

Just put the ring on and stop your excuses.

Answer 10

Well, that really depends on you and your fiance, however, it sounds like it is important to her.  You will get used to the feeling.  I have worn rings for years but each time I get a new one, it feels strange at first, but you will get used to it.

I have only known two men who didn't wear their wedding rings, and both were cheaters.  Not that you are, but it's definitely something that people will think of...

Answer 11

Yes. It's a sign of commitment to your wife. It's not just a piece of jewelry.  It's what the ring symbolizes that's important.

It doesn't have to be flashy. It can be just a plain gold band. But I don't see any reason you shouldn't wear it.

Answer 12

Duh! If a woman has to so should a man.

I would be mad at you too, i mean, come on. It gives people the wrong impression.

The first impression: you do want others to think your married

Second: you and your wife are having problems and are currently seperated

third: other women think your single and try hitting on you(which makes you more tempted/able to cheat.)

Forth: Shows you don't really love your wife.

Last but not least, fifth: it shows that your don't want anyone to control you(come on be real) and that you control your wife.

If you don't wear a wedding ring it is like saying your not commited to your wife.  

Answer 13

I have always felt that both wife and husband should wear a wedding ring. My mother has told me that in days gone by, only the woman wore a ring, but I have to admit that that practice just seems sexist. Where today both partners are considered equal in the relationship, they should both wear a ring.

However, I'm not actually going to tell you to wear a ring. This is really a decision left up to you and your fiancee.

I completely understand about hating jewellery. I am engaged (no engagement ring) and am planning on wearing a wedding band, but even then, my hands often get swollen due to carpal tunnel, and I get eczema on my hands, so there is no way I will actually wear it all the time. I pretty much hate rings, but find wedding bands to be so romantic that I will put up with it the best I can.

I was just at a wedding, and the groom told me that they were exchanging rings, but that neither were planning on wearing them. It seems silly to me to even bother exchanging them in that case, but it's their marriage, so I don't care.

Like I said, though, you will have to work something out with your fiancee. Maybe you could not exchange rings at all, or maybe she could not wear hers either. Maybe you could use something other than rings, like necklaces or keychains, or maybe you could make a point of always carrying your ring in your pocket. Good luck!

Answer 14

I think it depends on the guy-I love that my husband does however because its a form of love and respect. He's showing the world that he loves me. However,when we were first married he did not. He was a helicopter mechanic and saw a guy rip his finger off when a ring got caught in engine parts. Ugh! I understood. He's a software analyst now and loves his ring-I got him a sterling one that looks like the tire tread design on his cycle.

Answer 15

I don't see why it is a big deal that a man does not wear a wedding ring, if they don't want to then so what.  My dad never wore a ring either, nor my grandfather.  With them it was more because of catching the ring on machinery and that sort of thing.  If caught on something that ring could tear a finger off.  

I say if you don't feel right with the ring on then don't wear one, and of course the same should go for the wife as well,...if she does not want to wear one, that is her choice.

Answer 16

Could you not reach a compromise and agree that you will wear it when you are out together as a couple, or especially when you are maybe out without your wife? Then you can be jewellery-free at work, sports or whatever. My father never wore a ring, I wouldnt mind if my husband didnt either. its just a ring.

Answer 17

I tried wearing one for years and I wish I could wear one now.  My problem is that my fingers swell when I get hot and the ring pinches me.  So to get a ring sized to fit in the summer, it falls off in the winter; I've lost two wedding rings that way so I finally gave up.  In addition, I don't like the feel of jewely around my wrist or fingers but I would put up with the discomfort to wear a wedding ring if I could.

Answer 18

Bro,

I am married for 21 years, and i never took it off.

Answer 19

It would not bother me if my husband didn't wear a ring.  My father never had one.  My parents have a relationship that many would envy.  He would never dream of cheating.  You have to trust each other in the first place.  I really don't think the ring has anything to do with the relationship.  Would you be bothered if your wife didn't wear a ring?