Does a father-son relationship effect the son's sexuality?

Question

Is there a correlation between the relationship of a father and son and the son's sexual orientation? Does a particular kind of relationship (or lack thereof) effect the sexual orientation of the son? What is the correlation between the boy's sexual orientation and the relationship shared with the father?

Answer 1

If you are a new father who is worried about getting things wrong and ruining your son's sexuality, then chill out Bro'. Being vexed on something can make it happen you know!

But if you are asking a purely scientific question, Yes I Do.

A male child who emotionally disengages from their father due to neglect/abuse can have same s*x tendencies, because the need for that male nurture and affirmation was not met and gets sexualised at puberty.

Also, if a Father is abusive toward others with the excuse that it's a "male thing" all jock like, then a male child who witness that sort of behaviour can form the resolve in themselves that if that is what it is to become a man, then I'll have none of it, and uses another man to find the malesness for himself that he cut off.....

Hope they were interesting points for you.

Mel

Answer 2

I think we're talking about two issues: sexual orientation, which is generally regarded as an inherent sexual designation - homosexual, heterosexual, asexual, vs. environmental sexual development.

I am making that up, but it's been my experience that there is a difference.

Orientation, for the most part, is decided fairly early, possibly genetically. I've known homosexuals who came from two-parent homes with a variety of fatherly types, from involved and loving to distant and hateful.

One friend's father was his Little League coach and an incredibly nice and supportive guy who my friend said never, ever did anything inappropriate with him. My friend said he was just g*y and had known it since he was a boy.

But there are a large number of g*y and straight people created by their environment.

A father molesting a son may create an environment where sexual development is altered. An absentee father also creates such an environment, where a boy/man seeks sexual gratification from men to fill a need despite being of straight orientation.

Alternately, a g*y child raised in a house where the father rants against f**s will most likely suppress his/her true sexuality.

I think there are inappropriate father/son relationships that can lead to confusion in sexuality. But most people have a true sexuality - decided genetically, possibly - and the father-son relationship has little impact on this.

Sexuality is so complex and so suppressed in our culture that it's hard to just say g*y/straight/environmental/genetic/whate... Each case is different and needs to be respected.

Further, we need to, as a society, allow people to explore these issues. There are millions of people who need to address these issues - from those who were molested and have desires driven by molestation experiences, to g**s who suppress their own sexuality in a desire to conform with society's expectations.

Unfortunately, there's not a lot of room for these discussions in our black and white society. Until g**s are really liberated and integrated into society, we won't deal with people who have been victims and people who are being victimized.

Jim the Yooper

Sexually liberated in 1981

Answer 3

I have 2 brothers, an older brother and a younger one.  I and my twin sister were born in between.

I don't know why but my dad made fun of my older brother (his first born).  He totally rejected him, spent no time with him, and had nothing in common with him.  This brother turned out g*y and ended up taking his life when he turned 30.  

My younger brother was the baby of the family.  My father favored him.  He did things for him that he never did with my oldest brother.  This younger brother is married and is heterosexual.  

It may not always be the case, but I felt I was given a close-up look at how a father-son relationship affects sexuality.

Answer 4

Nobody knows for sure, there is lots of research that blames mom, lots that blames dad, lots that blames genetics. In all honesty its prolly genetic for the most part, if your the dad dont blame yourself, and if your the son its not your dads fault. Love yourself for who you are, or your son for who he is.