Does a guy really have no say whether a child should be aborted or not.?

Question

I mean the girl basically has the next 18 + years of this guys life hostage. Shouldn't he have a say

And if he doesn't then shouldn't he have a say whether to be in the child's life or not

( Its not me i wouldn't leave a child like that once a baby looks hold my finger i melt)

it just seems unfair for the women to have such a huge discussion on her hands that affects at least 3 lives and we not have a say in it and then be force (by law) to be in that kids life. If we don't choose whether the baby should be born shouldn't we get to choose whether we should be in the kids life.

( again I'm no dead beat I'm just curious)

Answer 1

"Because at the end of the day, she's the one who has to house this baby for 9 months, and you aren't.

Don't get me wrong, I hate abortion.

But imagine how this country would be if a man could legally force a woman to be pregnant with his child for 9 months and then birth it.

It'd be a disaster. Women aren't breeding pigs.'

Im not trying to attack you but...

I totally disagree with this so what if you dont want to get preg use a condom or the pill. She shouldn't be the only one to make that discsion, she didn't get herself pregnant. If we think like that then hey 'i don't want you to have my baby so kill' it should work the same way for guys. Girls who do things like that are just that GIRLS immature and selfish. IF YOU DONT WANT TO HAVE HIS BABY DONT SLEEP WITH HIM!!! point blank.

if somehow this preg is dangerious to mother then thats a diff story but just doing it to do it is wrong. (sorry to offend anyone)

Answer 2

to be honest guys have no say, just ask my husband his child was aborted when he was 19

Answer 3

Its the woman's body and the guy cannot force the woman to have or not to have a child. If someone was willing to have unprotected s*x and run the risk of a pregnancy, then they need to take responsibility for their actions; both male and female. I also don't consider paying child support being in the kid's life. A check doesn't represent a father.  

Answer 4

I completley am against abortion in every way shape or form, i feel its wrong and an abomination to do so.

But my dad, he wanted me aborted, he and my mom were young- she was 18, he was 19. But my mom fought for me.

But the way my father was, I was saddened by it for years that he wasnt in my life that much (he would visit me once or twice a month for the weekend and id spend it with him at his apt with his gf who he got with while he was still with my mom, and her stupid son who was a year younger than me) but now i am glad that my mom didnt legally force him to be a part of my life. That shows he did it of his own free will. he may not have been the greatest, but I think if the father doesnt want the baby and the mom keeps it, the dad, or rather, sperm donor, should just stay away and make everybodys life easier. no child whats to not have a dad or mom, but if the mom or dad doesnt even want the child they should just get on with their own lives and stay away- at least thats the way I feel about it.

And remember, the mother of the baby is the one who makes the final choice. all the guy had to do was have s*x with her- thats it. His job was the easy part and its over, so if he wants to be a deadbeat then fine, but its not his choice as to wether or not the girl keeps the baby- because if that was the case, many people like me would have been aborted if it were up to the fathers- see what I mean?? sometimes the mother has to fight for what she believes in and if the father wants the child aborted he doesnt have any rigvht to be around that child or in the childs life anyways. See what I mean??

In the end its all up the mom. shes the one whos carrying the child- the guy doesnt have to do squat about the baby. most men just walk out and pretend it never happened becuase that is how the law has made it- the world shows favoritism to men and figures "Well, they did their job, now if he wants no ties to the child he can just leave and go on with HIS life" i still think they should at LEAST be forced to pay child support- and the mother shouldnt even be given the option to not press charges- because my mom did that out of the goodness of her heart and my dad didnt take care of anything in my life for 18 years, and still wont even send me a birthday card. the law makes it to easy for the man to escape- the man should be able to leave for the good of the child and mother, but he should be FORCED to pay child support- after all, its his sperm that fertilized her egg.

Answer 5

A man does have a right to be in the child's life or not, and there are a lot of men out there that sign over there rights, it is so sad :(

If the man had to carry the child then I would think he could have some say in the situation, but since he does not, he isn't the one building a bond with or not with the baby.

Abortion is wrong no matter what.

Answer 6

"18+ years of this guys hostage" well he should have thought about that before he had s*x with or without a condom.  Pregnancy is not an accident (it only is with rape.)  If you have s*x you know all contraceptive is not 100% so when you mean to have s*x, you mean to have a baby.  

I do feel sorry for the guys who would like to take care of the child yet the mother aborts the fetus.  I do believe the father should have a say when it comes to wanting the child, but if the father doesn't want the child then thats his say.  He's then stuck paying child support.  

Answer 7

Irresponsible children... first they want to play and then they don't want to face the consequences of their actions.  IT MAKES ME SICK!

Not intended towards you, it's just so sad that people can be so selfish.  

Answer 8

The male does actually have a choice as the whether he will have a child.  He can use the necessary precautions to not have a child : condoms, abstinence, not having s*x with a woman you wouldn't be willing to have a child with.  Also, the male can choose not to be in the childs life.  Nobody can make him do that.  He can be ordered to be financially responsible.  If he does not want to do that, he can choose to go to jail.  People act like they are so helpless and things just HAPPEN to them.  It is ridiculous.  There is no consequence without and action.

Answer 9

Personally, I'm 100% against abortion in all circumstances, so I don't think that mother or father should be able to make that decision.  I think that if two people chose to have s*x, then they chose to assume the responsibilities of parenthood should a baby come of it, even if they tried birth control and it failed.  That is not the baby's fault.  Why should the baby have to live on the salary of just one parent when both are equally responsible for it's life?

Answer 10

He chose to have s*x... therefore chose to deal with the consequences of his actions.  He could have made sure there was a condom on his d**k and that the condom had spermicide on it... he could have waited to make sure the girl was on a back-up form of birth control... but he didn't... he chose to have s*x.

In the end... it's the woman's decision.  The man's opinion might count... but it's her decision because she has to live with it for the rest of her life.  He just has to go knock up some other girl.

Answer 11

Well its like this .... having an abortion can not only harm the women's mental health but also give a risk of not being able to have anymore children and it is a part of her body its like us going on the pill or having you get a vasectomy (i know that's kind of a leap but same principal) and as for being forced into fatherhood there is adoption which you will both have to agree with also...and signing over your rights which means you will have nothing to do with the child ever which in most courts they will allow it as long as the child is taken care of by the mother ...but if the guy is not smart enough to wear a condom ....then he has to take responsibility for his actions and suffer the repercussions financially and emotionally  

Answer 12

You can talk to the woman about your feelings on the matter but in the end it is her body and her ultimate choice.

Answer 13

When you have s*x, you should know that it is ALWAYS possible that a baby could come from it. If you dont want to be a part of the childs life, fine. But you need to help support him or her financially.

Answer 14

Well if the man would have protected himself, he wouldnt of given her that option in the first place.

s*x=babies most of the time....

I think you should just shut-up now. Its a lost cause and it doesnt work that way so oh well!

Answer 15

guys realy dont have a say they arnt the ones who are going to get stuck with the baby and alot of guys just leave so no we realy get no say

im totaly against abortion

it is wrong u are killing innocent little babys why dont they get say?  

Answer 16

i personally don't think i'd be able to get an abortion.. but i do sway towards PRO CHOICE and frankly the ONLY WAY people should have an abortion is if BOTH PEOPLE agree to it.

i hear what you are saying.. it is ridiculous the way guys have NO SAY.  girls can go on and on about "they are the one's who have to carry the baby around... blah blah blah"  BUT it is part of TWO people, not ONE and if people have such problem about girls being the ones who have to carry the baby around.. that's not the guys fault.. take it up with God.

it's complete bs most of the time.. turn it around.. if a girl wanted an abortion, and the guy didn't.. i'll put money on it the girl would go get one anyways.  this is a two person decision.

guys aren't "forced" to be in a childs life either.  sure, they have to pay child support.. but duh.. of course they should!

Answer 17

The two "parents" involved should have discussed the possibility of pregnancy and what would be done before they ever had s*x.

If some guy is going to run around and not put on a condom (even if she -says- she is using some other form of birth control), then he might have to face the reality of getting a girl pregnant.

Yes some women are so desperate to have a baby that they will lie about using contraception or sabotage it. Guys need to take responsibility for birth control and use their own condoms and possibly spermacide. This is also why open conversations are needed -before- s*x. If a guy does not trust a woman or her motives then he can always decide to leave s*x out of it.

Guys do have a say in this matter, but it must be preemptive!

If a woman is not willing to use protection, then a guy needs to be able to keep his d**k in his pants.

In the end, the decision is up to the woman because historically they are the main care-taker and the parent that has to carry the baby. Abortion can often cause mental and physical harm to a woman. On the flip side, pregnancy can be dangerous and can also have her life hostage for 18 years. She might not want to have the baby either! (in which case she should have taken the morning after pill, but no one is perfect).

You cannot force someone to give birth or not.

Guys have the choice to be safe and use protection every time, and girls have the choice to abort or not if they get pregnant.

The best way to prevent these situations is to make sure you have an open and mature conversation with all of your sexual partners. Use a condom every time, and if it breaks, accompany her to the doctor or hospital to get the morning after pill.

Guys need to be more active in birth control and decisions in this matter.

I am completly pro-choice, but I don't think abortion should be used as a form of birth control.

Answer 18

Because at the end of the day, she's the one who has to house this baby for 9 months, and you aren't.

Don't get me wrong, I hate abortion.

But imagine how this country would be if a man could legally force a woman to be pregnant with his child for 9 months and then birth it.

It'd be a disaster. Women aren't breeding pigs.

And are you also saying that if a woman WANTS To have a baby, and the man doesn't, he should be able to force her to have an abortion? Is that the kind of world you want to live in?

You're absolutely nuts.

Answer 19

No a guy should have no say at all in whether or not a girl gets an abortion. Obviously the guy has a right to say his opinon on the matter, but when it comes down to the end, it is the girl who has the ultimate decision to make, if it is made for her then that can result in a lot of resentment.  The guy does not have the right however, to nag and make the girl feel like c**p about wanting to keep the baby.  Not only that but if a guy is responsible enough to make a baby then he should be responsible enough to support that baby, if they did not want to worry about a baby in the first place, they should have taken better precautions.  The girl should not be made to have an abortion simply because the guy does not want a baby.  Abortion because you just do not want to have a baby is wrong, no matter who is deciding it.