Does a man's look matter to you?

Question

I know that generally women are believed to only be concerned with a man's personality (or how much money he has) but I, myself, am always attracted to a man's looks in the beginning.

For example, if a guy's got good hair (it's not super short and he does brush it), if he showers, and if he's not hairy (like hairy legs, yuck!) then I would talk to him before he talks to me. On the other hand, a lot of my guy friends and such have gotten crushes on me but I almost instantly decide they're not the one if they don't match my requirements.

What about you? Do you only look for someone who will take care of their appearance or does looks not matter to you? (Anyone can reply, especially those who are interested in men ^.~)

((And I'm not interested in whether or not you think I'm stuck-up. I do care about personality but I figure if I'm going to be taking care of myself and doing the regular woman things (shaving and such) I deserve a guy who will take care of himself too.

Answer 1

A person's look may change throughout the years. What is in their hearts, is what you need. You want a person who is pure of heart and wants to live in a decent, moral way. Then you have something that all will envy. It is very difficult to attain such a place in life, because it is an ongoing effort. What shall we then say to these things? If GOD be for us, WHO can be against us? - Romans 8:31. The Lord daily loadeth us with BENEFITS, even the GOD of our salvation. Selah. - Romans 8:31.  I wish you continued success. Peace!!!

Answer 2

We would all be big LIARS if we said looks don't matter, or especially hygiene. How one presents and carries themselves (body language) is a big factor in first impressions. Now to only care about that makes you shallow like when you first meet someone and all you care about is looks.... But if you know nothing about the person then this is what you must go by: appearance, chemistry, body language. It's just laws of attraction, it's normal.

Answer 3

I haven't been attracted to men who don't shave or bathe at all.  Or ones who spit tobacco or are loud mouthed and callous and rude.  I've always looked for more soft spoken men and well-groomed and polite and ones who actually work for a living instead of living off welfare, unemployment, or their families.  I just wouldn't want to marry a bum and how you take care of yourself says a lot.  It's not being stuck up at all!   People can't help how they look but they can help how they act and present themselves.  I've been sick for sometime and have cancer but everytime I go see the doctor or go to church I make sure I bathe and have clean clothes and clean hair and everyday I clean up my apartment too.  I was just brought up this way.

Answer 4

lust always comes first,no matter who u are.

Answer 5

well, yes, it's called the way society is.

i mean, i wouldn't mind being friendly to a guyy who isnt the nicest looking, but is a great guy.

but if i dont find him attractive, i cannot picture any relationship with him. it is part of the whole attraction.

Answer 6

Of course his looks matter. Whoever said that only men are turned on visually was obviously an ugly man trying to make himself feel better!

Answer 7

Why is it only the Religious nut jobs care about personality and claim they give not a thing about looks?

Answer 8

It does matter. I think those of us who care about looks are more flexible with personality types than those who say they don't care.

I like guys with a certain style, like jared leto and people who dress like him, stylish.

If a guy doesn't dress in a way that i find attractive, then i won't go up and speak to them in a flirty way.

But, some peoples' personalities shine through on a first meeting, so, for people like that i guess i can make a certain exception. Just as long as they're not gross monsters.

Answer 9

Yes very much.  I have a certain "type" that I'm attracted to, and even if a guy has a great personality and a great job, if he's not that "type," I can't see any romantic relationship forming.  

Answer 10

The majority do, that's why divorce rates are so high.

Answer 11

As a guy myself... no... not one bit!

Answer 12

Well, I'm a "man" but I wanna answer this question in terms of women, I honestly prefer when a woman has a good personality. And by good personality I mean what I prefer.

Normally the look is what catches your attention, the personality (depending on how you like it matching how it is) keeps the relationships up. But if I weren't too much in the looks of one but she had a personality I liked I would pretty much go for her (unless it isn't the specefic one i would like)

But well, I'm not saying you're stuck up here. But really, you can't know if they have hairy legs unless you ask them or peek down their pants. But if you choose a person over your body prefferences you probably will have a hard time finding the person who matches you. Not trying to sound rude.