Does a parent have the right to tell a 17 year old that is in the military what to do?

Question

I am 17.. I just listed In the National Guard..I am considered to be in the military even though I have not gone to basic yet..I leave October 7 for basic.. Am I allowed to visit friends with out asking for permission from parents or can they still tell me what to do even though I am in the military?

Answer 1

Well if you still live at home then it is still their rules.  If you are going to think that way now...you might want to change your thinking before you come into the military.  Just because you are a soldier does not mean you have to right to do things.  It does not give you permission to do whatever whenever.  

You still need to do what the rules are in your house.  If you don't like then move out.  

Answer 2

I will guess you are living in their house, eating food, using power and water they pay for?????

Deal with it..it's not long til you go and you are not obligated to ever return.

Do you want to leave on good or bad terms? Can you support yourself now?

I tell my daughters what to do all the time, not that they listen much, but they usually come back and tell me I was right abut the situation. They are 28 and 25.

Besides if you can't handle them just wait til that Drill Sargent gets his/her vocal cords in your face...you'll be running for Mommy.

They say that in the Army

The Chow is mighty fine

A biscuit rolled off the table

And killed a friend of mine

Some folks don't like my preview of Army Basic! Don't think it has changed too awful much since Dino Days, I even throw in a little butt chewing...no extra charge

It might go a little like this:

Up before the sun.

30 minutes max for the 3 S's ($h!t, shower, shave) sometimes the shower is the night before.

Formation.

A little PT

Chow

Draw weapons if going to range

Formation

Double time to training site

Train

Chow

Train

More PT Drill Sargent We Eat This $h!t Up

Double time back to barracks

Stack weapons

Post guards

Chow

Clean weapons if drawn

Have weapon inspected

Turn in weapon

Formation

1 hour of your time....maybe

GI boots

GI area

Write mommy

Lights out 2130-2200

Coma time

"DROP AND GIVE ME 20"

Keep the pie hole shut and listen.

Think out your questions...it's the Army...do not appear that you were not paying attention!!!

Do not point at food and ask WTF is that:

If it is a green looking meat like substance that is "Mystery meat". Chow down it's very good for you!

If it looks like lumpy burnt oatmeal it's SOS.

If the SOS is poured over a hockey puck...that is a biscuit!

If it is yellow and dry it is cake. Just stick it in a glass of milk, it will be fine.

If it is brown and poured over rice it is chili.....maybe...could be gravy made from left over bacon grease.

You think it will make you fat???

NO PROBLEM! I will just PT you until your legs are wore off to the knee's and your arms to the elbow!!!

ARE WE CLEAR???

WELL ARE WE???

GOOD!

Close enough anyway!

A premature welcome to "The Club"!

SSG US Army 73-82

Answer 3

Well, the Military has nothing to do with it...if you are living under their roof, you have to follow their rules. Just curious, is the National Guard considered military?  

Answer 4

Trust me you will be following before you lead and Mom knows best.

Answer 5

You're not in the military.  You're awaiting military service.  You still live at home.  You're still a minor.  While your parents shouldn't be ordering you around or telling you what to do, you should still have enough respect for them to let them know where you're going and what you're up to.  If they have certain "house rules," then follow them until you leave for basic training.  It's a sign of respect to follow the house rules no matter what your age.

Answer 6

17 is 17, not 18. You're still a minor, regardless of being in the military or not. Remember, the military is just a job, not a right to social privileges. Sorry, but being a minor and living under your parents roof, you have to follow their rules (until you're 18).

Answer 7

Sorry, but when you are in the DEP, you are NOT in the military.  I don't care if you leave for basic training tomorrow, you still aren't in the military.  If you were, you would be subject to the UCMJ, and DEPpers aren't.  Kindly get over yourself.  It would also help if you were able to figure out that there is a difference between being "enlisted" and "listed."

Secondly, you are a minor, and until such time as you are emancipated, as in either departed for the military OR have been legally emancipated by the court system, you are subject to the rules and regulations your parents place upon you.

No, you can't stay out all night and party - your parents still call the shots.

It may be a good thing you are going into the military - you seem to need the discipline.

EDITED TO ADD:

Also, if you tick them off too bad, they can always rescind their approval to enlist prior to your 18th birthday... making you wait.  Don't push it.

Answer 8

I joined the Army at 17. Until I actually left for MEPS and Basic, I was still under my parents roof and laws. I was still their responsibility. Once in the actual military, then they we no longer legally held responsible for my actions.

So grow up, follow the rules, and once you live on your own, make your own rules...

Lets look at it this way, If you go to college and live in the Dorms, adult or not, you must still follow the rules...

I also do not consider you in the military until you get your *** through Basic... Don't insult us!

Answer 9

Probably now... you are a MAN now and you can make your own decisions... and that is how my 17 year old grandson thought too... but since he came home from Afghanistan and left his LEGS there... he doesn't seem to be such an arrogant know-it-all these days.

Answer 10

Their house, their rules.

Don;t like being told what to do????

I'd hate to be you when you get to basic training. They  tell you waht to do, when to do it, how to do it, and  if you don't God help you! Get used to it.

Answer 11

if you still live under their roof, you live by THEIR rules.  

if you want autonomy.  Move out.  

Answer 12

If you are living under their roof..regardless of rent or not..their rules still apply.  The fact you are shipping out in a few months doesn't change them..anymore than it would allow you to change the stipulations of a lease of the rules of an HOA if you had a place of your own.  Addtionally, you are not a legal adult as of yet (your parents had to sign for you to enlist didn't they) so any rules or laws in your area that apply to teenagers under 17 (curfew, driving limitations, etc) still apply to you as well.  While you are not a child, you are still their son and living in their home.  Follow their rules..like you have up until now.  In a few months, you will be off to basic and then can move out on your own.  However, as long as you live with your parents, you will need to follow the basic house rules..and that won't change even if you're 37!

Answer 13

You're practically an adult. Whether they tell you that you "can" or "can't" do something, that's completely up to you.

EDIT: The National Guard is part of Army branch, therefore it is part of the US Military.

EDIT: At the moment, you still have to do as they say. My point with the first comment is that your parents should give you a little space, you're borderline adult and if they have to still control you with these orders about what you can and can't do, at that age, then they've failed as parents. If they haven't taught you right from wrong at this point, then they're not doing their job correctly. But, regardless to whether you're in the military or not, if you're under 18, they are still your legal guardians.

Answer 14

If that guard service pays you enough to pay rent and pay fora lawyer that will petition for emancipation then no you don't have to listen to them

And heres a kick in the pants

Your mom can call your CO and tell on you and cause you a world of hurt

I know this from experience

And yes you are as much a soldier as anyone who has never made it through basic yet

Don't expect to get a soldiers respect until you graduate, you haven't earned it just by signing the papers

Answer 15

You are not "in" yet. You still live at home and are required to go by your parents rules. You can be arrested as an "uncontrollable child" and kiss your military service good-by.

Answer 16

Your mother and father have all the right. Right now you want to think that you are mature and grown, but as time goes by, you will realize how important your mom and dad are. Mine have passed away and i miss them terribly.

Answer 17

I think so until Oct 7th. Afterall you are still a minor and still live with them. That makes you their responsibility. But that being said...it doesn't matter how old you get your parents will still try to tell you what to do. My husband is 28, has 2 kids of his own, has been in the army for almost 6 yrs, has been to war and is an NCO. Do you think any of that keeos his parents from trying to tell him what to do? Nope it doesn't! The difference is that he's all of the things I mentioned above and doesn't have to listen but YOU are still 17 and still considered a child. Sorry but that's just the way it is!