Does age, distance, marriage, make love relationship no workable?

Question

I AM MARRIED, SHE IS DIVORCED , SHE LIVES 2000 MILES AWAY IN ANOTHER COUNTRY , SHE IS MY BUSINESS ASSOCIATE, I GO THERE EVERY 2-3 MONTHS FOR 8-10 DAYS OF WORK..WE SHARE ALL OUR INSIDE ,EMOTIONS BUT WE DARE NOT THINK PHYSICAL BECAUSE WE SEE NO BETTER FUTURE TO OUR RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE OF THESE FACTORS.

SHE CARES AS MUCH AS I DO

SHE RESPECTS ME AS MUCH

WE DEPEND ON EACH OTHER FOR ALL OUR EMOTIONAL NEEDS

WE TALK EVERYDAY A LOT FOR WORK AND OTHERWISE AS WELL, ALL ONLINE.

SHE ADMITS THAT I AM HER BEST FRIEND AND CARE TAKER IN THE WHOLE WORLD, BUT CANNOT THINK AHEAD BECAUSE I CANNOT STAY THERE AND SHE CANNOT COME HERE , FOR PRESENT LIKE THIS , BUT I DO HAVE A HEART TO BE THERE SOMETIME IN FUTURE A VERY FAR THOUGHT!

SO THE DILEMMA IS HOW TO? OUR HEARTS ARE THERE WITH EACH OTHER BUT MIND DONT SEE HOW TO MOVE AHEAD?

Answer 1

All these factors depend on the people involved (those you asked about in your title).  IN MY EXPERIENCE:

Age matters less the older you get.

Distance absolutely matters.  It's important to have a physical relationship, not just one over the internet.  Relationships seldom survive very long distances for long periods of time.

Marriage, and consequently divorce, matters too.  If she was married and went through a tough divorce, she may be scared to commit again.

As for your problem you wrote about, I think the best thing to do is be honest with her.  Tell her how you feel, and be ABSOLUTELY CLEAR about what you want.  And be honest with yourself too.  If you physically desire her, and want to be romantic, and not just comfortable and "best friends," then you must find out if she feels the same and go from there.

Lauren R

http://wolfandwillow.blogspot.com

Answer 2

I dont think it makes it impossible, it just makes it very hard. It just depends if she is the one you are meant to be with, if she is then it will work, if she isn't, than it probably won't work.

If you are married, and you really feel you are in love with this woman and think there is a possibility your relationship could work, and don't have any kids, then you need to let your wife know, you shouldnt string her along.