Does all the husbands behave like this?

Question

Married for two year Staying separately because of job and schools. We were never attached emotionally. It was rather a marriage which I don't quite understand. He told me once that he really loves. So I got married even though I did not. He smokes and eat a lot. He does not know how to talk nicely and hurts me very often. I cant forget them. All he does is 'I love you very much'. Other than that I do not see any kind of affection. Unfortunately, because of such issues, I have also not been open. I doubt if I will be ever to him. I know I also have some mistakes, but I also need some kind of responsibility from him. Some kind of MAN'S nature or power I want. I do not see them. That makes me frustrated.

How does a husband treat his wife if he really loves her? Do you see any hope in my case?

Honest reply please!

Answer 1

My husband has never treated me like that.

He has always been a very affectionate man and loves to give me lots of hugs,kisses and lots of cuddling.

If he is treating you this way then you need to have an open and honest talk with him and tell him how much he hurts you with the way he treats you and if that doesn't work then maybe its time to go your separate ways.

Answer 2

What I see is Distance.  It is not easy, but it needs co-operation between both of you.  keep in touch even a small word everyday from a loved one keeps a connection alive.  Communicate and get connected to each other by greeting cards, singing to each other, expressing once love on phone, flashback on how you both bond or bind in a relation.  Both of you need to express with loving words on how you feel and share: what hurts & what makes u feel loved.  Try putting some effort from your side & wait to see some respone for a month and if haven't receive any come face to face look into each other and talk, communicate on what is bothering each other, what is causing this situation to happen.  Show love, respect and keep urself calm while you talk to him with examples.  Don't forget the word "ECHO" and keep it away from it.

Life itself never comes easy as it's not a bed of roses, but we need to put an effort to blossom and enjoy the scent.

Answer 3

My husband had better never treat me like that.

Husbands are supposed to tell you they love you, talk to you and make you feel special. They should be your best friend, not someone you feel uncomfortable around. I can tell my husband anything, and he usually tries to help or give advice. He makes me feel better when I am down, and is the first one there to celebrate with me when all is well.

I think you guys need some counseling, you do not sound very happy in your marriage, and you deserve to be happy.

Answer 4

With that list of negative things about him why in the world did you marry him? You thought you were doing him a favor? maybe you thought you were mother theresa?

You are the perfect example of why marriage has no meaning anymore and why so many couple divorce or marriage is now a joke to be used by everybody.

You were very immature and irresponsible.

How does he act? he should open his own eyes and tell you its over that's how. Obviously he will be the one hurt in this.

Answer 5

if you're not getting any affection from him, he's getting it from somewhere else. every man needs affection. also if you're not happy why are you wasting your time? life is too short and you can do better.

Answer 6

he treats her the opposite of what you just described. you need to talk to your husband or get a counselor or divorce.  

Answer 7

Well you both seem like your not whole heartedly into each other and thats not good.

Answer 8

This  doesn't  sound  good for either  of  you.  If  you can't  go  counseling  together  at  least  seek  women's  counseling.  He  may be  unhappy  also is  why he  eats  and  smokes  to much. If  he  had  parents  that  were  not  affectionate he  may not  know  how to act  right. You  may  just  have  to eventually  admit you are not in love  and be  honest.  

Answer 9

By the sounds of it, you two should of never gotten married and I can't see it changing unless you both are going to put some work into this relationship.

I get taken out to dinner once a week and we do things together on the weekends and during the week when he's at work, I am doing house and garden duties.

Answer 10

Honestly, I don't think you went into the marriage for the right reason, and I believe that unless you guys both put forth a whole messload of effort, you are heading towards divorce. Showing love, in my personal experience, is not something you actively do. It just comes out of every single thing that you do. It's thinking about the other person even when they're not around. Making sure their needs are taken care of. Being close and intimate, and just being there for each other. I know my woman loves me, but I would be hard pressed to point to one thing and say "see, that shows me that she loves me". It's just so much larger than that.