Does an abortion brake a couple apart?

Question

My best friend is pregnant and wants to have an abortion. She is in a very beautiful relation right now, but she doesn't want to keep the baby because that would mean she would have to delay finishing her studies. I am a bit afraid of what an abortion's consequences could be for her, and for the relation. I wish I could talk to her and make sure she knows what she's doing, and to make sure she will not regret this decision.

Please don't get me wrong, I am not judging her, I just care for her very much and I would suffer myself if she would have any regrets, and especially I would regret a lot if there is something that I could have done to help her, but I didn't. I know it's not an easy decision for her and she is probably very scared.

All I could tell her is that I am there for her whatever her decision is, wich is true. She asked me to come with her when she will have the procedure done. What could I tell her, or what questions could I ask her, to see if she is really convinced that is what she wants?

Answer 1

Everyone is different, and there are alot of things that can break a couple up.  Life changes have affects on people.  Alot of people get married young, and as they grow up, they realize they are different people.  Or, after having kids, things change.  Any life changes could affect a relationship.

Answer 2

Yes, it could affect her relationship and it could affect her own self-esteem down the road. She may find she'll suffer from guilt years later.

Talk to her about the baby. I would be better if she could give the child up for adoption. That way it's a win-win situation. The baby gets to live, a childless couple realize their dream of being a family, and she gets to finish her studies. This is something that she can live with.

It's not a matter of judging someone. It's a matter of doing what is right.

Answer 3

Abortion is murder.  Talk her out of having the abortion and if this comes across as preaching so what.  There are a lot of childless couples out there that are willing to adopt.  So what if she ruins her figure by having this baby, she will ruin her life by killing the baby.

Answer 4

it all depends on the couple

Answer 5

our population is pretty low talk her into having the baby and giving it up for adoption.

Answer 6

tell her to talk it over with her partner first and there is always adoption

Answer 7

It isn't up to you to determine if it is really what she wants...it is up to her and only her.  Like you said: be there for her regardless of what the decision is and don't question her either way unless she wants to talk about it or asks your opinion.