Does any one else think that ignoring a partners sexual needs is as detrimental as ignoring emotional needs?

Question

Does any one else think that ignoring a partners sexual needs is as detrimental as ignoring emotional needs?

Answer 1

Agreed.

Answer 2

I think it can be. My sexual tastes are somewhat alternative, and I don't think I'd be happy in a relationship with someone who didn't share them and want to explore them with me. Our sexual and emotional needs are linked, and if one is lacking it would almost definitely impact the other.

Answer 3

yup.

Answer 4

Yes.

Answer 5

Yes I do, why would you not seek to fulfill their pleasure if you truly care about them? Ignoring such things shows indifference and selfishness.

Answer 6

yah

Answer 7

Yes it is. I mean why would you want to ignore your partner's emotional needs, much less their sexual ones? To me, that is just plain selfishness.

Answer 8

ya. I hate to admit it but you need to be in touch with both of your sexual needs and if you would do it for him he needs to do it for you. But, the other person also needs to respect when the other feels strongly about not going through with it.

I know thats confusing. Example. If your partner is VERY VERY VERY particular about never wanting to give oral, because it makes them feel used or its too casual for them. either way, it makes them uncomfortable, then the other needs to understand and say okay. I respect that!

Answer 9

For me, they are both inextricably linked

Answer 10

Not only that, but they'll probably go somewhere else to fill said needs.  Cheating is bad, sure.  But they don't even have a reason to cheat if they're getting everything they need at home.  An ounce of prevention.... you know the rest.

Answer 11

I agree, but it goes both ways. A person that seeks sexual fulfillment should not feel ENTITLED to gratification from his/her partner if the partner is not ready for it, but if the partner doesn't feel ready to take the next step then s/he should try to find alternatives. Sometimes compromises are needed.

Answer 12

yes, and either one can lead to the other as well.

though there's a difference between ignoring them & not being able to meet them for a justifiable reason...

Answer 13

No, there is no evidence for this.  Many couples don't have s*x all that much.  Either they're too busy, tired,  stressed, elderly... but the marriage endures because its built on a sound foundation of love and mutual respect.  s*x is the icing on the cake: at times when there is no icing, there is still the rest of the cake to enjoy.