Does anybody have to share their room with their baby?

Question

i have a 12 month baby and we have to keep her in our room cuz we have a 5 year old and i dont want her waking him up all night so we have her stay with us. but i was wondering does anyone share their room with their babies? and how do i block her out when me and my husband are having s*x? its so hard to get in the mood. when shes like crying or making noises i feel like i have to check up on her all the time. its soo hard. i would like to hear from people are who going through the samethings i am. not from people who dont deal with this. thank u all.

Answer 1

Whole families lived in one-room hovels for centuries.  Children (and everyone else) most certainly knew when their parents were being intimate.  

Sure, times are different now, but a twelve-month old isn't likely  to remember anything.  I'd just wait until she's sound asleep.  It works for us.  And if you bedshare and find the situation uncomfortable, get kinky on the floor.

Answer 2

We had to share a room with our son because we lived in an apartment when we found out we were pregnant. The room was big enough though so that we could put his crib in our room and he sleeps in there. Does your daughter sleep in a crib in your room or where? Since you cant go anywhere else I just suggest waiting until she is asleep to have s*x. We do this and our son never wakes up. And for those who say it is wrong, he is in his crib, asleep, where he cant see what we are doing. But your daughter you say is a year old, I wouldn't have s*x around her too much longer because if she wakes up and sees you, she is soon to be at the age where she might remember or mock what she saw. We just moved into a house so now our son has his own room!

Answer 3

i have my 10 month old son crib beside my bed because he want sleep alone in his room so my husband and i wait until he is in a deep sleep around 11 at night

Answer 4

Inked's advice i s a good one. We co-sleep with our 6mo son so we have to be creative, doing it all over the place, living room, kitchen, when baby naps in his pack n play we go to the bed. Sometimes we put him in his pack n play so we can get down n dirty, lol.

s*x in front of a fully awake 1year old is not right, i would not do it, let her stay there & go somewhere else in the house.. Shower together.. I don't know, get creative.

Oh & when my son's pack n play was in our room, yes we had s*x while he slept but if he cried we stopped & looked what was wrong.. Don't let her just cry there.

Answer 5

Yes I do.My husbands parents come down and stay all weekend every weekend & during that time we have to do something else.We just usually wait until baby is asleep,then do something.He has woke up before,but he just laid there and played.If he had started crying I would've got him,but as long as baby is not crying they can lay there a few minutes.It is fine.He is so small that I am POSITIVE that it did not affect him in any way and he had no clue what was going on.I myself would not have s*x in front of a 1 year old that is awake but as long as baby is asleep no biggie..I think it is hilarious that someone would call you perverted because of that though..That is so funny.

Answer 6

My daughter slept in our room for the 1st 2 years. Wait until you know she is asleep. Then she will not hear you and you will be relaxed and able to enjoy yourself. Try to schedule your sessions for when you know she will be asleep. Until you are able to get her to sleep through the night or get her her own room that is what you will need to do. Better some then none. Relax, enjoy.

Answer 7

I know you state you don't want to hear from me because my husband and I have our own room without baby, but can you not have s*x anywhere else but the bedroom? Even though our 7 month old sleeps in his own room in his own crib we still go to many areas in the home to have s*x....just an idea for ya..

Answer 8

My daughter had her own room, but if she was awake and we wanted to "do it" i'd just put her in her swing facing away from us and we'd do our thing, just put a blanket over the edge of the crib if it wierds you out knowing she can see you, or turn the radio on if she is cooing so you don't get distracted... people in other countries sleep in the same room with their older kids, and still manage to make more kids...

Answer 9

We're currently staying with my dad so we've got our son in the same room (he's also 12mo). It is hard to try to be in the mood when baby is making noises. But he comes first. Even if we're in the middle of s*x, if he wakes up crying his needs are first priority...to me at least, my bf doesn't really like having to stop. Anyway, What I suggest is that you just wait to play until she's completely out, been a sleep for an hour or more because she'll be less likely to wake up then. And even though it's not really that much fun, it's best to keep things quick so that way if she does wake up you're already done. We also cover the sides of my son's crib with a blanket or something that way we hear him before he sees us.  

Answer 10

My husband and I co-slept with our babies. We have 4 kids. We always waited until the little one was sound asleep before we did anything.

A crying baby is definitely a distraction, but after awhile you learn how to tune out the grunts and other sleep related noises.

Answer 11

Try having s*x somewhere other than the bedroom, like on the couch or in the bathtub.  Or, you can temporarily move the baby to another room in her playpen or swing while you get romantic in the bedroom.  Otherwise, just remember that what you are doing is perfectly natural -- for thousands of years, people have been sharing caves/homes with their families all in one common bedroom -- it's only very recently that humans have started using separate bedrooms.  If you can get yourself in the mood, it's not going to harm or scar your daughter at all.  

Answer 12

I have 4 children. My older 3 all shared a room and bed with me.

My first for 2 years. She moved out of my bed when her baby sister came.

My second until she was 10 months.

My 3rd until she was about 2.5 years as well.

My 7 week old sleeps in my bed.

I have put them into their own bed when daddy and I need time.

We stop having s*x if our baby crys. Most of the time we make sure shes well taken care of and asleep before we try doing anything.

You just kinda learn to do things around them some how.  

Answer 13

My baby is 5 months old. He still sleeps in my room. He has his own room, but has never slept in it! I feel more comfortable having him next to my bed where I can just glance over and make sure hes ok. As for my husband and I and our s*x life... Its pretty much slowed way down. But, our schedules are weird. We work weird hours and dont always sleep together. So, when we do have s*x its usually if the baby is taking a nap in the living room, we run back for a qiucky. Just part of being a parent I guess.  

Answer 14

You have s*x in front of your daughter ( &while she's awake????)?  You do realize that you can have your children removed from your house for that, right?  That's just wrong.  I don't care if your child won't remember it- that's wrong.

We don't HAVE to share a room with our 12 month old, but we do.  We don't have s*x when he's in the room.  s*x happens in other rooms when the boys are napping or at grandma's.

It is absolutely dispicable that you asked "how do you block your child out while trying to get intimate?".  If your child is crying- tend to her, not to your sexual urges.  If your child is awake- don't have s*x in front of them.  Sneak off to the bathroom if your horniess won't wane.

It's perverted to have intercourse in front of your children- no matter the age.

Answer 15

Ummmm... we share our room with our 16 month old because we only have a two bedroom house and we have two other kids who are still too big and could possibly, out of playing too rough, hurt her if she were in their room.

I REFUSE to be intimate with her in our room. It's innappropriate and personally, I find it creepy and odd. I couldn't if you paid me...

It's called get creative-living room, bathroom, etc... don't expose your baby to that.

Answer 16

Why are people so afraid to have s*x with their child in the room? It doesn't make you any less of a parent, whatsoever. My daughter stays in her crib on the other side of the room and then we get intimate, while she's sleeping.

I'm no psychologist, but I seriously doubt having s*x with your child in the room, and them being under the age of 1, is going to have any detrimental effects on the child. It's just a natural part of life, they aren't going to remember it and it's nothing to feel ashamed about.

If you absolutely can't get in the mood go to another room.