Does anybody think they would have a worse life if not adopted?

Question

Does anybody think they would have a worse life if not adopted?

Answer 1

My natural father is a great guy.  At the time he relinquished me, I was 13 months old.  He wasn't an abuser by any means.  In fact, he's always been a hard-working, successful man and a great father to his step-children.  But, at that time all those years ago, he and my mother had split up and there were some circumstances that occurred that were bad.  He didn't feel he would be able to do what was necessary to keep me free from the fallout of those circumstances.  That's why he made this choice.

It turned out he probably could have done just fine, but he didn't realize it at the time.  I have no evidence to support a belief that I would have had a worse life -- just a different one.

Answer 2

Depends on how you mean 'worse'.

For me adoption was picking the short straw all around.  

But the act of being adopted is difficult in it self.  But it's like trying to describe the color yellow to a blind person: impossible.

Answer 3

if your talking about giving your child up for adoption then no not if you couldn't cope. not at all.

but if your fostering and was wondering whether too adopt then yeh. if the child has grown up with your from wat ever age it would be torture for all the people involved to bond again.

goood luck. x

Answer 4

I don't know that my life would have necessarily been worse but i am molded by my parents, not my bparents.  As such, we have differences of opinions.  I disagree with their narrowminded views of life because I was raised so differently (and not by rich people I might add).  I do know my bmom would have had an incredible struggle trying to raise her kids.  she and i have talked about it and she has said that all of our lives would've been so different if she had not made that choice.  I know if i just met these peopl eat work or out and about, we would NOT be friends or associates.

I do feel that I am better off but who is to say?  we can not turn back the clock.

Answer 5

no i think mine would have been better. i look at my nmom and the letters on my space from my sisters and brothers( which i have not contacted anyone yet other than my n mom and she's only written me back once) but i can see the love in the family that i came from. the family that i was adopted into abused me mentally and physically simply for the color of my skin (but i was chosen). no one should live in an abusive home. and i can see that my siblings are happy and not abused.they're always thryng to get home. i'm always trying to run from mine.

Answer 6

Absolutely.  As a child who came from an abusive home and was put into foster care, my life could have been MUCH worse.  In fact, it was MUCH worse prior to my adoption.

Answer 7

honestly i have no idea. from what i know, i would be poor and living in a small town in croatia. but then again, idk if it would be so bad because your with your real family no questions or wonders about what could have been. its a tough question because it could go either way.