Does anyone NOT like thier children?

Question

I have a 10 year old from a previous relationship that I am increasingly beginning to dislike. No, I don't mean get mad at, I mean dislike. She acts and behaves as if she is 4 years old. She talks like a baby in a soft whiny tone around other family members and strangers. She takes absolutely no interest in her appearance. She will get dressed and put her shirt on backwards, with the tag hanging out and everything and then act as if she was unaware it was on wrong. When we are around my family, she will ask really silly questions just to get people to talk to her and give her some attention; even if there are only adults in the room. My husband and I buy her really nice designer clithes and she will leave them at her grandparents house or her father's house. When she goes to school, she will come home and her uniform LITERALLY looks as if she rolled around on black asphalt. Her hair is all over her head and because she is overweight, she stinks because she won't put on deoderant.

Answer 1

whip her a** she sounds like she is beyond talking to trust after a while she will get tired of bein beat and straighten up

Answer 2

wtf.....

Answer 3

Well who has allowed this behavior? The parents this is really sad!

I also want to add my kids come home looking messy from school as well. The air conditioner hardly works, they have PE and run around on recess. It is hot at school, if you were running  around playing, doing PE and inadequate AC which is the case in most schools, you would look the same. You are a very cruel person to say all these things about your own child. She needs love and affection, not judgment!!

And FYI she is 10 not 20, you have to tell 10 yr olds things every day. My daughter is 9 1/2 and I am constantly telling her to pick up her shoes etc. Maybe you could make a chart of things she should do daily. Kids are not born hygienic it is something that is taught over time, and apparently even as perfect as you are you did not teach her these things.

Answer 4

LOOK HERE,

your her mother...

it might seem as you dislike her,

but she's only a child it will get better,

and its your choice you had her,

and that was amazing,

giving a child a life.

BUT..

you cant not like her..

think about it,

shes your blood and shes got your everything..

like how would you feel if your mother disliked you wehn you were ONLY what 10 !?

and maybe shes not that type of person who likes designer clothes, you cant make your child be who you want her to be.. its not like a yahoo avatar. o.0

Answer 5

That is horrible!! I think counseling would be a good thing for you both and maybe the whole family.  That is your daughter!  Get some control!!!

Answer 6

I don't like the things my kids do and when my oldest son acts like his father I get aggitated easily and with my younger son he acts so much like me that he gets on my nerves sometimes but I wouldn't say I dislike them, but I dislike the things they do and sometimes just need a break from them for a few minutes to calm down.  Children will test the limits and see if your unconditional love you should have for your children will stand true to word or if they can cause you to push them away.  Honestly though your Daughter sounds like a "blonde" and she just likes attention and maybe she will be a comedian someday.  I would say about the deoderant and the overweight thing though that as a parent it is our job to help with those problems and not just lay it on our children to be clean and healthy, we have to show them how.

Answer 7

shes a kid.

Answer 8

hun, being a good parents doenst mean buying them the latest designer clothing or stuff, children dont care about that! you obviously arent giving her enough attention. It's so sad to hear that, that youre starting to dislike your OWN CHILD! GIVE HER SOME LOVE, CHILDREN DONT NEED THE MATERIAL!!

this is whats happening with so many parents, they thing that toys and clothing and technology can take the place of love. IT DOESNT! poor child, my sympathy is with her NOT YOU!

shame on you! you obviously made her this way..and this is prolly a scam

Answer 9

boy you need a vacation she's a kid what kid doesn't need to be reminded to do things.  Show her their are consquences for her actions instead of ranting about her.

Answer 10

i have no children. but if her own mother feels that way about her, can you blame the girl for wanting some attention?! grow up yourself you have a child who needs your love, instead of coming on here and telling us you dislike your child, get to the root of the problem, spend some time with her, she is the child here, not you. start acting like a parent. im sorry if i sound horrible but you really need to sort yourself out!! some people arent lucky enough to have kids and would go to h**l and back to have one and your "disliking" your daughter for behaving like a child?? when she is!! BE HER MUM!!! she probably just wants some love and attention from you.

Answer 11

She is a child!!!  How about instead of you acting like a teenager and getting on here and ranting about what a "stupid" child she is, you teach her how to be a big girl.  Children, regardless of the age (anywhere from birth to 17 years) can sense how you feel about them.  She senses that you dislike her, so in knowing that you dislike her, she's not trying to do anything to make you like her...because she feels it won't work.  She's probably depressed and this is why she is acting younger than she is.  She probably has little to no self-esteem also, and this too, is probably contributing to the way she is acting.  She doesn't care how she looks or smells because she is depressed and has low self-esteem (the same reasons for the rest of it)...plus, children don't typically care how they look or smell anyway...they're too young to care.  They shouldn't care.  Grow up before you complain that you're child isn't growing up fast enough for you.  When she's 18, you'll look back on these days and wish she was still a child....and you'll regret this stupid, childish, rude question.  Get off the computer and go tell your daughter you love her, hold her, hug her, kiss her, tell her she's beautiful and smart...and do these things everyday...or you'll regret not doing it soon....because soon she'll be a teenager and have the same hatred towards you then as you have towards her now....and she'll probably run away and you'll probably never see her again.  And then you will miss her.  Go be a real parent.  And stop posting these rediculous questions.  You're acting like a child yourself.  You're child has an excuse for acting like a child...she is one!!!  You are not, what's your excuse?  Go take some parenting classes.  And stop wasting our time with this bullcrap.

Answer 12

Your poor daughter.

It sounds to me that you are taking your issues with her father out on her.

I can only imagine how alone in the world she feels.

You dont deserve to have a child.

Answer 13

She sounds like she is having step daddy issues ... but really if i were her mother, I'd beat her a**. But you could make her wear the same uniform a few days in a row. Do not fix her hair, when the kids at school start to pick on her she'll get it. If she's dirty and smells tell her you do not want her on your furniture. When you are in a room filled with adults and she does her usual attention dance, tell her what I'm sure you were told (Children are meant to be seen and not heard), don't buy her anymore designer clothes .... walmart should become her mall.

It might seem harsh, but she'll straighten out. Again I'd just beat her a** for being nasty and I'd smack her every time she started acting like a four year old or interrupted grown folks conversation.

Answer 14

you need some help with that child!

whoop her!

take her to a edict class.

Answer 15

Maybe you should take her to a therapist. Or you should stop talking c**p around YOUR child online. If I was your daughter, and I saw what you had written about me, I would be as annoying as your daughter. Maybe you should also cut her a little slack. Like I said, if you have the money to buy her designer clothes, maybe you two should go to a therapy session and work this stuff out. Or you could try and sit down and talk with her yourself.

Answer 16

from your attitude my guess would be that you remarried and lost interest in your daughter and shes feeling the lack of attention and love. you need to straighten up and be a mother to this girl before it gets entirely out of hand,instead of pushing her away . how could a mother dislike her own child???  

give her the attention and love that she needs and she will come around.

Answer 17

yehhh. she sounds like a pleasant girl O.o

start gettin really serious and strict about this stuff

its called PUNISHMENT!

Answer 18

Children only know that they are taught. Turn off the TV and everything electronic. Spend time with your child. Show her the right way to act.

Answer 19

it sounds like you never bonded with her and are just oicking at little things she does like someone does with a boyfriend they are tired of. You don't sound like a very caring mother.

Answer 20

Um she might need some talking to...and I mean by a specialist. or shes just out for the attention don't allow her to get it, or maybe she wants some more one on one time with her mommy? she might feel bad about a new father figure in her life and be acting out. Talk to her alone, have a mommy daughter day and make her feel loved and express your frustrations on her level but by no means ever say you don't like her, jsut don't like the actions.

I ahve four kids I am 24 where sometimes I get frustrated with my kids mostly my 5 year old daughter who wont listen no matter what I do. I still Love and will always love my children. my oldest just turned 7 and is Autistic, he is doing great hes so smart.

Answer 21

well try disicipline. tell he not to talk in a whiny voice, if she overweight it's your fautl to cause you not pushing her to exersice if you want her to lose weight try a dance class it helps lose weight and tone muscles. and she ten she'll forget things get her something to remind her or remind her like"before you come back make sure you have yuor jacket" or something.