Does anyone besides me get lonely as a stay at home mom?

Question

I am currently 34 weeks pregnant. I am a stay at home mom of my 5 year old daughter, who will be starting school for the first time when my son will be about 3 weeks old. It seems like none of my friends have time for me anymore, in-fact not one of them made it to my babyshower. It is getting harder and harder to do housework, especially laundry because i have to go back and forth up the stairs (just had surgery on my kidney about 2 weeks ago and was hospitalized for 5 days). I feel like the only people that care about me are my husband (who has been AMAZING though everything), and my mom. I feel like i am constantly crying and get so depressed sometimes i just want to sleep all day. I havent worked for 2 months bc of preg complications and i feel like i have no socialization with people! Anyone else feel like this? Any suggestions? My mom takes my daughter 2 times a week so i can relax a little. Are there any stay at home mom groups i can join? Where would i find out about them?

Answer 1

Yeah at 1st but my son has became my best bud....

i know how u feel though

Answer 2

First, depression is normal right after having a baby, but if it gets too much, talk to your doctor.  My daughter joined a mother and me class and they go out at least once a week with their babies & toddlers. They go to the zoo, mall, walks, just places babies are happy and the mothers get a chance to get together to share notes. Maybe if you look under Craig's list you might find some classes, or you could start one of your own. That's what my daughter did, when their other group and grown so large. I'll email my daughter and see if she has anymore helpful hints, and if your question is still up, I'll give them to you.

Answer 3

hey i know what you mean but i have grown to take it well i have been married for over 6 years know and well my mom has never been to my house and my husband was great when we had my little girl and is still great i just had a operation on my gallbladder a week ago and so he picks up when he can but i have so many interesting confersations with my little girl ever was and she will go to school in the fall so not sure what i will due but i do understand you my parents live just 15 mintues from me and will go visit my other sisters that are a little further away not sure why but i thought she might help a little when i had my surgery no not at all but as groups all i due is go to the park and have meet some nice people to talk to and well i stay on yahoo most of the time and parent chat rooms the rest of the time in between of taking care of my daughter but yea just make sure to have a moms day out for a while and that will help relieve some of the build up of depression

Answer 4

I feel the same way. Maybe a local MOPS group-moms of preschool kids. My local MOPS does a lot, though I haven't joined them yet. Look in your local newspaper about it-or maybe a church group. I've also found that taking a college class-even one-helps to just get away for a little while.

Answer 5

Yes well what I suggest is making a group of friends that talk and have brunch and stuff like that and you know can talk about there babys and stuff. (kinda like desprete house wifes only without the desprete part)

Answer 6

I have been a stay at home mom for almost 5 years now. YES, it does get lonely, boring, old...etc. My son is 4 and my daughter is going to be 1 next month. I love them both dearly and you would think I would have plenty to do with 2 kids and a husband to take care of, but sometimes I just get into this rut maybe even a little depressed. Where I will go a couple of days without keeping the house spotless. Just doing things I must do like feeding the family changing diapers and so on. I feel very blessed that I do get to stay home with my kids full time. Sometimes I think about going back to work just to have something to do. I also am still breastfeeding my daughter so she still needs me around for that. I went to the movies with my dad last week, and had so much fun getting out of the house, just me. I am going to the movies with a friend this weekend. I guess people like you and I just need to take some "us" time and do things we enjoy doing every once in a while. Instead of getting in a rut huh? My son is about to start school for the 1st time also. With him being in school I will have some extra stuff to get out of the house for. Like PTA meeting and things like that.

Answer 7

Yes, I thought staying at home with my children would be fulfilling....I felt the exact opposite...I had premie twins and I felt isolated...this went on for about 3 years....then I realized I needed to define my self more...so I went back to work part time as a Rn at my local hospital....I formed friendship and was so thankful for adult conversation