Does anyone else feel like a jerk for not liking other people's kids?

Question

i spent the last two days at a friend's house with my son (10 months) and her daughter (2 1/2 years). by the end i was nearly pulling my hair out. the two-year old was underfoot the whole time and she kept trying to "help" and hug my son which was a tad annoying. i know that two-year olds are like that and i know that one day my son will be that age, but i feel like such a jerk because all i wanted to do was go into the guest room and close the door. kids are so irritating (except mine of course- j/k). does anyone else feel bad for having to work at liking and accepting children of your friends? as time goes on will i grow to get used to other children? my parents were always so distant toward my friends that i really don't want to be like that toward the friends of my son. help!

Answer 1

Not really. I mean, kids are going to be kids. Some are annoying and some aren't. ALL two year olds are like that. My one year old daughter is like that.  

Answer 2

no, u cant help if other people can't control their children

Answer 3

Sometimes I don't like my own kids esp when they are being very naughty. It doesn't mean you love them any less and it certainly doesn't make you a bad person. We all have our off days. Best thing to do it just be polite and remember that will be your son one day annoying the h**l out of your friends.  

Answer 4

No its not wrong. It looks like you worked through it pretty much and did what you could.This child was young and seems parent was unaware or could care less of your feelings. To bad. It is true as your child grows and meets other children you might not like them. Just talk to your children and check to make sure their friends are good kids. It doesn't alway get better. Just as they grow keep checking and listening. My kids are young adults now and there are still some of their friends I cant stand. You will learn to tolerate their friends. And trust you have instilled the qualities you want yours to have. And try and realize there is something that your child sees that perhaps you don't. Your not a jerk your so called friend should get a wake up call. To put her guest through a ordeal is rude. A 2yr can be taught a few manners. Just rememeber your experience when yours is 2! Good luck!

Answer 5

Well i do understand how you feel, kids are always gonna to be kids..and there are some who are a tad more 'annoying" than others. i do believe that you are going to get used to other children, time will pass and you'll be more comfortable with other children. As for you being distant later on with your sons friends its very unlikely.. i mean just because of that little girl?? perhaps shes just really annoying and you don't like her..lol but there's different types of kids out there so don't worry about not liking them.. i have the same problem with some of them. ( remember its not there fault .. it usually depends on how their treated..like spoiled, yelled at..etc) hope i answered you question.

take care!

with love,

kitty

Answer 6

No, I don't feel bad about not liking other kids, since their parents raise them with no discipline and they run around like little hellions.

Answer 7

I have a disliking to almost ALL kids. I don't like noise, snot, sticky hands, annoying questions and picking at food. My mum was the same and she said it's totally different with your own kids. I'm terrified because my partner really wants kids and I'm scared if we do have them I won't like them x

Answer 8

No, it's fine to feel that way. I feel that way about most other kids. I have two myself and love them dearly but to be around other people's kids and not have a say-so in how they are disciplined or how they behave is frustrating. So, no worries....you're not a jerk. Just human. Some may say that's insensitive to feel that way. But you can't always control your feelings.  

Answer 9

Aww, she sounds like a sweet and typical little girl.  You can't help how you feel, but be sure not to show it.  After all you wouldn't want people letting your little boy know that they don't like him - and if some don't already, it won't be long before they do.