Does anyone else feel uncomfortable.....?

Question

I can't help it when I'm watching a movie with my fiance I always feel uncomfortable during any explicit s*x scenes or women walking around topless. I always feel like he might wish I looked more like them and that he's settling for me or that he's totally aroused by the actresses most likely fake b***s. How can I possibly get over this fear and insecurity? I really need advice or someone who can relate because he always tells me he doesn't care what anyone else looks like and I'm the most beautiful woman in his eyes, but all I can think is well of course you're going to say that because otherwise I wouldn't marry you. I feel like I need constant reassurance that he feels this way like almost everyday otherwise I don't feel good about my self. Please don't answer if you're a guy, I don't want your opinion.

Answer 1

There will always be a prettier girl.. How do you think when you guys watch James Bond or something, Im sure he feels somewhat like you.

Dont worry about it as long as he loves you it doesnt matter what hes sees on tv.

Answer 2

Men are visual creatures and will always look. If he says you are gorgeous to him then please believe him. You need to open the door to your heart and let yourself in. Allow yourself to like who you are. Look in the mirror when you are alone and admire yourself from every angle. Your love for yourself will make him love you even more.

He loves ya though and it is normal to look.

Answer 3

yeah i feel pretty uncomfortable and it kinda makes me wonder how some couples watch p**n together but ANYWAY.....back to ur question i think u pretty much said it urself that u feel insecure about ur body but u have to come to terms with the fact that its OK for ur fiance to think other women are attractive because after all he is marrying YOU and only YOU....i feel the same way sometimes and i have to remind myself about that too....watever u do tho make sure to get a grip it's ok to feel uncomfortable but just keep that in mind whenever u start to feel that he "settled" for u because ur selling urself short.... and plus if u start to let that insecurity get to u  might start to drive him away....he loves u for u and u have to really grasp that....FLAWS N ALL n im sure u might find other guys attractive too but the point is u chose each other because u love each other and no one else....

hope i didn't ramble and that it helps....

Answer 4

I think this is a fairly normal reaction on both parts.  Men like to look.  Period.  It is in no way a threat to the person they love or are with.  For that matter, women are curious enough to look, too.  

Try and realize that the person he fell in love with is you, not some body (literally) he sees on a screen or in a magazine.  Beauty is truly in the eyes of the beholder, and whatever it is that attracted him to you in unique for you and you only.  You are the person who can keep him aroused and it sounds as if you have a good, committed relationship.  The best to you.  I'm sure you are beautiful to him.