Does anyone else get annoyed when...?

Question

You ask a question regarding your baby's birthday party and someone answers by saying "It really doesn't matter, they are too little to remember anyways".

I mean, come on, we all know they aren't going to remember the party. But just because they aren't going to remember it, doesn't mean it's not special! Yes, it's more for the parents/adults rather than the baby, but still....

Just wondering if anyone else gets annoyed by those answers or if I'm just in a mood today, lol.

Am I alone? :)

Answer 1

If people put an answer you are not happy with then just ignore it or tell the to feck off lol

Answer 2

I get annoyed anytime someone leaves an answer that is not relevant to the question, blatantly obvious, or just stupid. The whole point of this forum is to get helpful and constructive answers to our questions and I feel that if you can't be helpful or supportive then you need to just keep your mouth shut!

I agree that the first few years the party is more for the parents than the child but that doesn't mean you can't go all out. Especially for the first birthday. But I will say that if you don't make a huge deal out of the first birthday or can't afford to, it doesn't make you a bad parent. It all depends on how you look at it. Some parents don't see the point in spending a lot of money on elaborate parties until the child is old enough to enjoy them, other parents feel that each and every birthday is cause for major blowouts.  

Answer 3

When Johnny turns one I think you should throw a parade and invite all those Y/A killjoys who poo-pooed the idea of even buying him a cake. Invite me and I'll bring the marching band!!

Can you seriously imagine not acknowledging Johnny's birthday. Imagine him coming to you at 10 and saying "Mom, where are the pictures of my first birthday party?" and  you saying..."oh we didn't have a party for you because you wouldn't have remembered it anyway." Bah...what mom would seriously do that??

I don't think it is you in the mood today. Lots of hostility on here lately. I think there are some fussy pants moms who just need a nap!  

Answer 4

I understand.  Just smile and say "That's true, but I'll remember it and it's important to me that it's special."  

Answer 5

no, your not just in a mood.  i asked that very question for my daughters 1st bday.  i was amazed at all those answers....so what if they don't remember?  it's more for the enjoyment of the family anyway!  those are ba-humbuggers!!

Answer 6

Oh Johnnys Mom,, Johnnys mom! I doubt you are in a mood or alone but I personally could care less what others said about my party.

I knew that it didnt matter and that didnt matter to me! I had a BASH!!! We live in Texas and went to Bama so that all the family could be there. It was so over the top but I loved it.

Answer 7

I answered a question a few minutes ago about people thinking it's wrong to have a big party for your kids. I think it's their special day, no matter how old they are. Landon's birthday is next month and I am filling out invitations today. I plan on inviting about 40 people. We have a large family, and the main times we get together are birthdays and holidays. I am already waiting for the times when I can rent the big blowup bouncers for his birthday. I do kinda get annoyed when someone bashes someone else for what they want to do for their child. They should do what makes them happy and leave everyone else alone. Even though it is my son's first birthday and he will not remember it, I will and I want to make sure his first birthday was a special occasion.

Answer 8

yep i do. i feel like they are being rude or just trying to get more points rather than actually trying to help you. i feel like if they can't give you an honest answer with respect they shouldn't answer at all. but, unfortunately they're some really rude and cruel people on are but then they're also some really nice and helpful ones. just ignore the ignorant ones and keep asking and answering.

Answer 9

It's all a matter of personal preference and one way or the other the child will have a blast so, big shebang or small impromptu gathering, it's fine and sure, while I agree they may not remember, and the party is as much for the parents as it is the kid, the baby will enjoy the attention and interaction with extended family, so whatever floats the parent's boat will float baby's

well you could be in a mood we all get them, lol.....just remember there is no right or wrong as long as baby is healthy, happy, and thriving...enjoy throwing the B.D. party!

Answer 10

Yup, it annoys me.  People are so uptight.  Sure, the baby won't remember the experience firsthand, but they will enjoy looking at pictures of their first birthday party as they get older, and maybe someday sharing those memories with kids of their own (God, can you imagine?!).

I asked a question about taking my baby to the zoo, and I got a lot of "your baby is too young to enjoy the zoo".  Whatever.

Totally off-topic, but, you know what else annoys me?  When someone asks a question about helping their baby kittens, goats, what-have-you, and it gets miscategorized and ends up here, and people jump down their throats with "You idiot!  This section is for human babies!  Who cares about your dumb kitten?"

I mean, c'mon.  I just think those "help my kitten" questions are so sweet, and some of the askers seem to take care of their animals better than some moms take care of their infants.  It isn't their fault the question ended up here, so why do they get so much attitude?

Anyway, I guess I just have a soft spot for those kitten questions.  Sorry for the rant...

Answer 11

I do get annoyed with alll of those 'it doesn't matter' answers. You ask how you can get your baby to walk, or talk, or about birthday parties. I asked about how to cope with an overdue baby and how to get the baby out. People sometimes say 'it doens't matter'. They are probably people whose kids are 18 or left home and so they don't remember the emotions, the antipication, the exhaustion, the excitment of each of these milestones. IT DOES MATTER. Why?  BECAUSE IT MATTERS TO ME

Answer 12

no because the baby when he grows up can look at the photos and enjoy knowing you went to all the trouble, i know i enjoy the photos - just dont bring them out on his 18th

also phscologically it helps aswell to know that you've thrown him a great party and although he wont remember it he enjoyed it at the time and you will always remember it

Answer 13

Sounds like your in a mood LOL, but you have a right to get a little peeved about it :)

Just because they may not "remember"  doesn't mean it shouldn't be a big deal! Pictures mean a thousand words ...

*edit* johnnys mommy don't worry they're idiots and don't know me and you joke with each other so they felt the need to thumbs me down LOL...

Answer 14

The child may be too little to remember but I truly believe it is all about creating family traditions and getting great pics so that you can easily remember and bring back those memories and then when the child is older they will enjoy looking at those pics.  My 3 yr old loves looking at his birthday pics and naming the people he sees and looking at the presents he got (he likes to say "hey I have that toy").

I completely understand about the rude and mean spirited people, they are frustrating.

Answer 15

I'm guilty of doing that. I answered a question yesterday about it being baby's first Christmas and how much you'd spend on them. I said not a lot because he wouldn't remember it anyway. I get what you're saying, though, it's still an important event nonetheless.

Answer 16

No i totally agree with you. That answer was quite rude and out of line. So what if your baby isnt going to remember, but you are. And you'll have the pictures to show to your baby when he/she gets older. My parents went all out for my bdays when i was little... i dont remember but i have pictures.

Trust me, Im already saving up for my son's first bday. So what if he might not remember, im going all out! I was even going to order a tigger cake (cause he loves tigger) from charm city cakes... but i am going to hold off on that cake until he is older.

I see my son's bday costing alot, but its so worth it. He only gets one 1st bday :-)

Dont let it get to you girl, some people have nothing better to do.  

Answer 17

I would get annoyed. My baby girl is only 2 months old, but if that happened to me i would get upset. The wont know the difference, but its your childs bday and making it special for them, even if it doesnt to them, makes it special to you.  

Answer 18

No you are not alone. think about the pictures you will be taking, when the baby is a little older he will enjoy seeing them.

Answer 19

I agree. I'm going all out next year for Jacob's 1st birthday. He may not appricaite it at the time, but will love having the videos and pictures later on and knowing that we took the time to celebrate him.

A 1st birthday is a special time and a huge milestone, of course it needs to be celebrated in a special way!

Answer 20

YES that really gets under my skin....if thats your train of thought then why would you go to a family members or friends funeral?? they wont know you were there!!

Or why come to the hospital to greet a new baby!?!?!?!?!?!

the first b-day party is a HUGE deal for baby and mom, and no they wont remember the party its self but they will get to look at all the pictures of it and know that they were valued and celebrated!!! maybe the people that don't see the point in it didn't get parties themselves as children :( that's a sad thought!!

But I am the mom that had a big 1/2 a year birthday party for my son!  I think EVERYTHING should be celebrated!!! Babies are amazing, and surviving the first year with a child is a HUGE accomplishment!!  

Answer 21

Yes, I find it annoying also. We all know they won't exactly remember it, but it's still a very special occasion in their lives, so why not celebrate it? Besides, if you take lots of pictures like I do, they always have something to look back on. That is the perfect way of showing them later on just how special that day was!  

Answer 22

I agree with you.  I'm not going to go overboard but I want to throw my little guy a nice first birthday party!  I'm going to have a BBQ with some decorations, a cake, presents and about 30 guests.  I'd rather him look back on pictures and think we over did it a touch than think we dismissed his first birthday as unimportant.  I also don't think there's anything wrong with having a small, intimate gathering either.  I just can't imagine not acknowledging my kid's first birthday!

Answer 23

Those answers drive me crazy!!  It's our kid and we'll do what the heck we want to!!!  My son's first birthday is Thursday and I've already spent over $100 and that's just on plates, cups, decorations, and a few small presents - that doesn't even count any of the food so far!!  And another example - we took him yesterday to have his 1 year pictures taken and I spent $175!!!  ok so that's a little more than I wanted to spend but WHO CARES????  He is my only child (so far) and he will only have one first birthday and I'm gonna make it special!!  For me right now and for him later on... I anticipate he will enjoy looking at all the pictures one day....  I know I'm rambling but I wanted to get my point across that YES it annoys me too!!  hahahahaha.... mission accomplished I am sure.....  

Answer 24

In a mood today?  I am and judging by some of the questions you've answered today, well... JUST KIDDING!  (I really am joking.)  

YES!!!, that drives me crazy too.  Why even answer the dang question.  Oh, and "all babies are different".  Yes, but that doesn't answer my question, H-E-L-L-O.

A 1st birthday is BIG, I don't care what anyone says.  I feel sorry for their babies.  

Sarah B said it all, if it matters to you, it's important.  : )