Does anyone else have a fear of people assumign they're rich?

Question

I feel like I'm backwards. I'm a scholarship kid at a private school, and I have a fear of all those upper middle class kids thinking that my parents have enough money to drop 40k a year on my college.

I feel like everyone else in the US is trying to look rich, while I'm using every opportunity to emphasize my working class roots. Does anyone else do this or am I just weird?

Answer 1

well in my city a lot of people have money and my family doesn't have as much as a lot of people at my school's families have. so i get what your saying. i think i do the same thing too. i have no idea why i do that i guess i don't want people thinking im spoiled and have all this stuff when i don't.

Answer 2

Mo' money Mo' problems... If anyone is jealous they aren't worth your time anyway. I'm sure allot of decent and conscientious people out there feel and do the same as you. At least you have good taste and your not ostentatious and flashy. Don't hide or be ashamed of who you are or you won't get to meet your true friends.

Answer 3

Don't worry about it.

Be yourself. You are already living an interesting life.

Most "rich" are dull, dull, dull. It's so sad.

I hate to say it but this school thing will be over in a flash.

Let you, be you. People will respect you more

Answer 4

U SUFFER FROM COMPLEX. FLUSH THIS THING OUT OF UR LIFE OTHERWISE U WILL NEVER BE HAPPY. WHY DO U FORGET U HAVE A

scholarship. JUST ENJOY

" WE HAVE TO DO TWO THINGS IN LIFE .FIRST TO ACHIVE WHAT WE WANT IN LIFE & THEN ENJOY WHAT WE HAVE ACHIVED IN LIFE  BUT FEW COULD ENJOY THE LATTER."

Answer 5

I think the thing to do is just to be yourself, without putting additional pressure on yourself.  Yeah people make judgements all the time - IF they do this then set them straight.  Otherwise let them get to know the girl - not the background.  Your roots do dictate your personality to some extent, but you also have to be open to new experiences which you may not be if you are using every opportunity to emphasise you are working class.  

At the end of the day you have a fabulous opportunity.  You should be proud that you have gained this scholarship by hard work - probably harder than most at your school, an opportunity your parents and other friends did not have.  Now is the time to grasp that opportunity by the hands and use it to develop your future.  Your roots will always be your roots and the morals you learned - hard work pays off - really have paid off for you.  Be proud of that, but don't force it into everyone's face.  Be subtle about it and if people make assumptions THEN set them straight.  Good luck - you must be a clever girl and I'm sure that your future will be a bright one!

Answer 6

i'm not sure about your culture there, but it is always a safe thing to just be yourself and not to pretend who you are or what you have.

what you have doesn't define a person; it's integrity and character. nice job on the scholarship. ;-)

Answer 7

no

Answer 8

YOU NEED TO UNDERSTAND THAT IF YOU ARE A GOOD FRIEND SO-CALLED RICH KIDS MIGHT BE ATTRACTED TO HUMILITY.  I GREW UP IN A MILITARY FAMILY AND I HAD A FEW WEALTHY FRIENDS THAT ENJOYED MY MOM'S HOMECOOKING!!  THEY LOVED HAMBURGER HELPER!!  DON'T WORRY IT IS YOUR PERSONALITY THAT COUNTS.  I HAD YOUR SAME WORRIES AT YOUR AGE AND I WAS SURPRISED AT HOW NICELY THEY TREATED MY FAMILY .  IF THEY PUT DOWN YOUR WORK ETHICS, JUST AVOID THEM BECAUSE THERE ARE NICER FRIENDS OUT THERE.

Answer 9

nope

Answer 10

Just be yourself. You don't owe those people any kind of explanation. You, unlike probably most of those kids there, earned your way into this school.

Be proud of who you are, where you came from and where you're going. Don't worry about what any one thinks, cause it will just hold you back. Relax and have a good time meeting new people. Some of your lifelong friends will probably be through your studies at college.

Answer 11

personally i think your pretty awsome if you want people to know that you work hard but there is nothing shameful about money just show them that you are able to do both but prefer one than the other

Answer 12

where i live, people kill to look rich :s

Answer 13

~~It would be better if you just enjoy being who you are, and not needing to prove to anyone whether you are rich or poor. It really doesn't matter what people think and your financial status is of no ones  concern. Just enjoy your education and take pride in learning and the wonderful opportunity you have from your hard work. Concentrate on you, your goals, and to heck with every-ones opinion. It's a exhilarating freedom!~~

Answer 14

Just ignore them, whatever they look and whatever size of their eyes ---Big or small.   You must also ignore yourself in thinking what others think of you.  

You should be very proud in having a scholarship in that school and not because of Money.  You can walk with high head but not proud.....should be friendly and humble to gain your respect from them.  

There is nothing wrong to be look upon as rich when you are not.  You are rich , not in money but in something else....WHAT IS IT?  Tell the world ---brain power. ---the Power Ranger.

Answer 15

You should stop spending time thinking about what others are assuming about you and thank your lucky stars that you've been given the opportunity that you have.

Answer 16

The only reason why you are worrying about it is because you are at a private school with a scholarship, and you know youre not rich.   You dont sound wierd, you are out of place...you are somewhere where you dont "belong"  Sorry if it sounds rude or anything but its a fact of life.   Just thank your lucky starts you have the opportunity, and stop trying to show anyone anything.  You dont need to prove to anyone that you are poor/rich/middle class or whatever.   Just prove that you can do the work, get good grades and worry about doing good in society.  

I dont think everyone in the US is tryin to look rich at all...maybe you watch too much TV.   TV shows like MTV's THE HILLS doesnt represent all teens in America.   We all dont have the luxuries to go to private schools, travel as we please and buy expensive clothing.   As a matter of fact, when I go to the store I go right to the SALE rack.   Do with what you got and forget everyone else.

Answer 17

yea i sort of feel like that too.  dont worry though, your just feeling self-conscious. in reality, the people who matter wont even be thinking about your monetary situation.  u know what your there for and u dont have nothing to prove to nobdy.

Answer 18

Everyone thinks Im rich and spoild because I save my money up for nice things so they always say Im the rich girl and expect me to buy them stuff when we go places when really Im basically poor I live in a 2 bedroom appartment with my mom sister and my niece and sleep on the couch haha

I hate when people just assume things like that!