Does anyone else think they are weird, different, an outcast at work?

Question

I have had a hard time keeping a job. I work long and hard hours and get alot done but my bosses and coworkers always act ill at ease around me. I have the hardest time making friends around the office and people seem to avoid me. I think of myself as being nice, normal and friendly.

A few times in the past my bosses have asked me to resign and have eventually fired me without explaination using the catch all phrase "it was not a good fit" No one will tell me what I am doing or saying wrong and just want to avoid, ignore and isolate me.

I have asked people who do like me at work and they do not see anything wrong with me or my personality.

Maybe this is more common than I believe??

Answer 1

I've always felt very different from everyone else.

Answer 2

I feel the same way. I do not have trouble keeping my job, however. I simply pretend like I'm not feeling left out and unliked, and do my work. When it seems necessary, I am friendly, but I don't push it. I don't talk about myself, and I think that's the trick. Nobody cares about me. They care about themselves. Keep conversation on something they care about, and everything's good!

Answer 3

well, i think you have a diluted image of yourself.

maybe you're stuck up.  

maybe you're the person who cares too much about their job, and everyone sees this.  (im like that.)  they stay out of your way because they see you want to do your job.

maybe you're annoying/too friendly.

i think the easiest way to answer this question would be to ask the people who DIDNT like you, what was wrong.  not your friends - duRR.

Answer 4

Clashes of personality are far more common than folk would like to believe. Perhaps some of your co-workers have an issue with you as you seem to be able to get on with anybody. Sometimes this can be considered to be "*** l*****g" and your fellow workers have it in for you. Take a wee step back and just get on with your work. Good luck...

Answer 5

There might be something about your body-language, choice of words, etc. that turns people off.  Many times people aren't aware of the signals that they are sending out to others, and this can have a detrimental effect on your public and private relationships. It could also be that your profession attracts people who have very different personality types from you.  Asking your friends rarely helps unless they are very close friends, practically family members. If they're not completely at ease with you, they'll just say that you're fine. Go to the bookstore and get a book about body language/personality types. Watch how you interact at work, and see if you are making any of the common mistakes listed in these books. If you can't figure it out from that, go to see a councilor, and ask them for detailed feedback on your self-presentation. The longer you wait to take charge of this situation, the more likely you are to add insecurity to the list of things that hold you back socially. Oh, and you're definitely not the only one who has these problems. Good luck!

Answer 6

Hey do not feel so bad. I'm the only Asian at my school. People talked at my back which are true and aren't true. They said I'm different but guess what? I do not care. I always get my work done and as far as I'm concerned with them? I don't. They are just insecure of you. I think what you should do is to keep note of every thing that happens in the office just in case it gets out of hand. As long as you get things done, do not be afraid of anyone. You came there to work my dear and not because of them. About your boss, only one thing I can tell you, learn your rights. They cannot fire you without explaining it. Read your contract, stand up for your right. Go to your labour department.