Does anyone else think this is hilarious....?

Question

I saw this question asking if anyone has anything 'lighthearted' to ask about adoption. When I went back to read the answers, I saw what the asker chose as best answer and was horrified. It was the saddest freaking answer of all of them!

Then I couldn't help it, I started cracking up that the asker actually thought this was 'lighthearted'. Here's the question:

http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AlEolcT0PAEEePprK95qyoFq.Bd.;_ylv=3?qid=20080112194846AA1APNQ

Does anyone else see the irony in this 'best answer'?

Answer 1

yes

Answer 2

Hey!  This question does not come up on my home computer!  I just checked again.  Does that mean I've been blocked?!  And I am only just now finding out?!  Woo-hoo.

Lighthearted question about adoption:  So, where are you from?

Answer 3

I think your question is hilarious.  Y!A is not a place to be calling out other questions or best answers just because you don't agree with them.  This is just another example of what I continue to complain about.  If the "other side" posed a question like this about something you or someone else wrote, you would be lynching us and reporting us left & right.  If you don't like a question or answer, move on.  Or rephrase the question so as not to point fingers or be rude.  

The irony that I see here is that even in the most well meant questions & answers, there is a group of people here who will rip them apart.

Answer 4

A lot of kids do most of the things in these stories.  Pointing out that they happened to be the "adopted" ones wasn't necessary.  

I did feel really bad about the "we've been kidnapped" one.  I thought that was sad, as I've know older children adopted from other countries who have had to deal with the emotional upset of being moved from the only people and culture they've ever known into something so much different.  It doesn't matter that the different may be a lot nicer, it's still emotionally rough on the kids going through these adjustments.

Answer 5

yeah

Answer 6

I answered the question you were all so horrified about.  I'm sorry I offended so many people.  I ate cold hot dogs as a kid too.  There is nothing wrong with that.  My point was the getting to know each other part - not that the hot dog was hot.  And I guess I could have gone into more detail on the kidnapping story.  The children weren't afraid or confused.  This was something they did all the time at their prior pre-school to cause a ruckus.  They learned it from another child who wasn't adopted.

My answer wasn't to turn tragedy into comedy.  It was an effort to show that adopted kids do just as many funny things as biological kids.

My children, all four of them, grew up in our family using humor as a method to get through to them when nothing else would.  I in no way have ever minimized the loss and grief those two children suffered being removed from their birth parents.  I have always wanted to provide them with some happy memories of laughter and love to go along with their memories of sadness and love.

Again, sorry that many of you misunderstood my intent.  I wish you all the very best in your efforts to deal with your own adoptions.  And please try to remember that the adoptive parent didn't make the choice to put you up for adoption.  Many tears and fears went into that decision and sometimes, as in my children's case, the courts decided the matter.  I just came along and did my best to make them a little less lost and unhappy.

Thank you for your concern regarding my answer.  I will try to be more careful with any future responses.

Answer 7

i think my head just exploded.

Answer 8

...wow. xD

Answer 9

I think you're being oversensitive and as usual trying to target adoptive parents.

Saying the adoptive parent thought the bio parent was wrong for giving the kids cold hot dogs?  Come on, she was laughing at their reactions.

This is ridiculous, are people now not allowed to have memories with their adoptive families that may have been bad at the time but they now look back on and mostly laugh?

I'd better tell my mom (adoptive) that everytime we reminisce my childhood she's emotionally scarring me.

Jeez.

ETA:  Re the comment about the 'Kidnapping' incident, my (biological) cousin once did the nearly exact same thing.  He didn't want to go to the dentist once, and when my aunt told him to get upstairs and get ready he rang 911 and told them she was trying to kidnap him.

He knew where he belonged, and he wasn't adopted.  Evil twisted family that we are, we sometimes even laugh about it now!

Answer 10

Does anyone else see the irony in this 'best answer'?

Yeah, especially the part about kidnapping. I don't know how a mother could think this was cute versus seeing the emotional turmoil and trauma of these young kids in her care.

I could go on, but I won't.

Answer 11

The stories were funny but at the expense of the adoptees.  That made it all much more sad than "lighthearted".

By the way, my two-year-old has started to insist that I don't cook his hot dogs because he doesn't like them hot.  I guess that makes me a bad mother for giving him a cold hot dog even though I would be happy to cook it for him.  

And p.s. my amom gave us cold hotdogs all the time, cold spaghetti-o's too because that's the way we liked them.  I didn't know there was anything wrong with that until now.  Think I should tell her?

Answer 12

I don't think that you understand that the person who answered the question was telling the asker how they brought children into their home who were not exposed to things that most kids take for granted. It was very foreign to them. It sounds like now the family laughs at it. This family took kids from poverty and made a better life for them, and can look back and laugh at where they have been. What a great thing to be able to do. A happy family.....that is the American dream.

Answer 13

well, the stories were funny...

thanks for sharing

Answer 14

Day Three: First day of preschool. They called me to come get the kids. The adopted ones were hanging on the fence screaming to cars as they went by, "HELP! We've been kidnapped!" I pulled up the same time as the police car who was responding to a 911 call from a passerby!

I seriously fail to see any humor in a child not knowing where they belong. The fact that this obvious trauma is seen as lighthearted and humorous is kinda sick if you ask me.

Answer 15

I asked the question, and chose the best answer.

I'm sorry if I offended anyone.  That was not my intention.  I was truly wondering if there was anything lighthearted to talk about concerning adoption.  I do think that there is some lighthearted stories to go along with the bad.  Again, I apologize to anyone who disagrees with my choice of question or Best Answer.

Answer 16

I thought most of the stories were rather funny. Not because the kids were adopted but because I am a mother and my kids did silly stuff too. It is how we learn as young people. One of my sons had a great time playing in the tent all day until it was time to zip it shut for the night. He started screaming "let me out" over and over and over. I let him out because I didn't want the cops being called on me and I didn't want him to think he couldn't get out. We slept in the house that night, but he goes camping all the time now. This is the same kid that ate a cat terd that he had picked up in the grass when my back was turned. No it was not my cat I didn't have any then. It was the neighbors. So what. It was just a representation of funny stories thinking from a child's level that has not been exposed yet. The Kidnapping is sad but I'm sure the parents had no idea that was going to happen and they dealt with it. If the kid's ( who are older now) can laugh at it what is the harm. We still laugh about the tent and the terd.

Answer 17

The things kids do... =)

Answer 18

That was pretty funny!

Answer 19

I was horrified by the answer.

Answer 20

Considering the source, the answer chosen actually doesn't surprise me at all, she'll "get it" soon, they always fight real hard against it before they "suddenly get it" don't they?