Does anyone have any inspiration for me, my lil girl is mean to me..?

Question

My baby is 17 months old and, she tells me no and wont let me near my husband, wont love on me or pretty much have anything to do with me when my husband is around.. Its really broken my spirit.. I need my baby back.. I dont want to spank her because she loves him more than me.. and we get onto her but its not helping. Im a good mom, i go to school full time which is really not that much most of it she is asleep and then two days a week in the evenings.. We have fun together but she still treats me different..

Answer 1

That is because you are her mommy.   Of course she treats you differently!  It will get better, I promise.  She does it because she knows it bothers you.  If you start saying "that's ok, I love you" and walk away with a smile, she will realize that she is not getting the reaction she wants.  She will soon change her ways and be your princess once again.  Don't punish her for loving her dad.  That will only backfire on you.  

Answer 2

babies do that ..in stages ..your turn to be fav is just around the corner..then he will get a turn again

Answer 3

Could be there is some unsatisfactory situation between you and your husband which is causing her to take sides.  I'd examine the subtle relationship with your spouse to see how it may be impacting your child.

Answer 4

Watch Nanny 911 sometime. Every episode is the same: kids act up and start to take over the house, Nanny helps parents to regain their control over their kid.  

Answer 5

Don't let it get to you. My 3 yr old son is constantly telling me I'm not his friend anymore. They get over it, you will too

Answer 6

It's a phase kids go through! I agree with the previous answer that you should just ignore it, or say, "I'm so glad you love your daddy" and walk away. If you need time with your husband, then "share" with her. Say, it's mommy's turn to be on this side of Daddy, but you can sit on his lap. And then follow through.

However, it is NOT ok to let her say no to you. You are the parent, and she needs to learn to respect that. If she says no, remind her of this in a gentle voice. If she continues to say no, then find a time-out. Do not punish her by yelling, just calmly telling her what is going to happen, and then doing it. (And yes, kids at this age can understand!)

You're a great mom--you love your daughter and you are furthering your education. Just keep doing it one day at a time, and she will love you to pieces forever. :) Good luck.

Answer 7

This is just a phase they go through. Enjoy the cuddles while hubby isn't around, and enjoy the break when he is. They have a relationship to build too. It might help if your hubby says "cuddles for Mummy" when you two want a hug, and just let her complain about it. They don't need their own way all of the time, but don't expect them to take it cheerfully :)