Does anyone have any tips on writing an adoption letter of reference?

Question

My husband and I were asked by his sister and our brother-in-law to write a letter of reference for them because they are trying to adopt. I don't know where to start thanks.

Answer 1

Assuming you can give them a positive reference it should be short and sweet.  Say how long you have known them and a few reasons you believe they will make good adoptive parents.  One to two paragraphs should do it.

Answer 2

I'll just add to windowwizard's good advice by saying you probably want to mention their special relationship with any children in their life:  nieces, nephews, etc. and how that shows they would make good parents.

Answer 3

Be absolutely honest.  The future life of a child hangs in the balance.

Answer 4

Just write why you feel they would be great parents

just write from the heart

write all the positives about them

you could start with i feel ........ and ......... would be great adoptive parents because

Answer 5

If I were writing one for my sister it would say something like this:

To whom it may concern,

I am writing this letter regarding A****  and S**** B**** as a reference for an adoption.  A**** is my sister and I am looking forward to her and her husband adding to their family.  I am confident that they will make excellent parents.

A**** and S**** are both very patient people.  I can recall a time when my own children were very little.  They were wanting to play horsey with Aunt A**** for hours on end and she seemed delighted to play along.  They both enjoy getting to a child's level and playing games with them as well as seizing life's teachable moments.

They are financially responsible and stable.  They've both worked in their occupations for more than ten years and make wise financial decisions.  They've worked hard to be able to purchase a house with a nice yard for children to play in.  

When I was a child, I remember always looking up to my big sister.  She was always available for me to talk to about anything at all and even as an adolescent gave me wise advice.  I see S**** as the same type of person and have seen him give guidance to my children as well as other children in the family.

They're both kind, gentle and have lots of love to share with children.  Again, I'm very confident that they'd be excellent parents, able to provide a loving, stable and supportive home in which children can grow and thrive.

If you have any questions, please feel free to contact me at [phone].

Sincerely,

S****** G*****