Does anyone have children really close in age and how have you coped i have 2 1/2 yr old ,3 month?

Question

and i think im pregnant again

Answer 1

There is only 10 1/2 months between my two.

My daughter wasn't even walking when my son was born and I will admit it was really hard to start with, almost like having twins but with both at slightly different stages.

They are now 10 and 11 and are at each others throats half the time and best of friends the other.

Answer 2

My wife is three months pregnant with our second baby. We already have a two year old boy who will be 2 1/2 when the second is born.

We are both from families of three children. However, in my family we are only two years in between each child and we have grown up very close. My wife is six years older than the middle child and nine more than the youngest. When they grew up they had very little in common with each other and only now that they are adults can they relate to each other.

I think you're absolutely right to have the kids close together. It may be tough in the short run having toddlers and babies around but by the time they are about 3 they will all be playing together and give you a break. They will also thank you for having done it this way in the long run.

Answer 3

My brother has a 4 year old son and a 15 month old daughter all though that's not to bad and they manage fine she is due for baby number 3 in October!!!! So having an 18 month old and new born will be harder but she's staying positive...you can only do your best...she say's children are priority and when they are sorted possibly sleeping or playing that when she gets on with everything else!!!! And also makes sure she don't isolate herself...she loves getting out of the house!!!

I think every1s different and it all about learning to manage things and get a routine!!

Answer 4

My son was 16 months old when my daughter was born and I wont lie to you it was realy hard bringing up 2 babies - 2 toddlers.

The worst time though was 2 teenagers Nightmare!!

Now they are grown up and have children of their own, they are best friends and looking back there isn't much I would change; except the teenager years LOL.

Do you REALLY want a third child so soon? It will be very hard work.

Answer 5

get the children into a ruteen, get up early, get the 2yr old sorted then he/she can help with the other, and feel like he or she is not left out so he/she feels there helping, nothing rong with giving her or him a little job bringing nappy or talking to baby while you are dressing them, then breakfast together, tyou must give them bondarys, introduce the noughty chair and stick to it,it does work, dont give up on it keep puttin the child on it if they are behaving rongly, you put a child on the chair 1min for each year of there life so a 2yr old would go on for 2mins and always explain why they have been put there, hope this helps.its not easy bringing children up, they can be very trying at times, sounds like your 2yr old is jelous of the new baby, give her lots of hugs, and put the children to bed early. good luck.

Answer 6

Our eldest was just 2 years old when our second baby was born.  We just stuck at two after that though.  But I coped OK.  My husband travels a lot and always has done but I found it was fine so long as I just didn't try and do too much.  I was lucky enough not to be working and we also had a great playgroup nearby which was very cheap to attend and was open 4 mornings per week, so that kept the eldest one busy for the mornings while the baby was small.

Not long after that, the eldest went to playschool for two mornings per week (when she was 2 1/2 years) and a year later she was at school for 5 mornings per week (UK system - I'm sure it's different though elsewhere).

So I found that the youngest just had to fit in with what we were doing - I was a lot more chilled out with my second baby - there was no hanging around the house waiting for her to finish her naps, she just got plonked into the pram or car seat and we went out because we had to.  I'm sure it's the same for you with baby No 2 and will be just the same with No 3 - they fit in because they have to!

I think you'll probably find it quite tough with three little ones about the place, but hopefully you'll get on OK.  I think you just have to try and be very patient and not try to rush things.  If you go shopping all together, have a list ready and stick to it and try and make them short trips each time rather than one massive grocery shop in one go (do on-line grocery shopping if you can).

And as for taking them out - I used to just walk around to the park with mine, and with them being so little, that was usually enough.  If it was raining, I'd put them in their wellies (boots) and we'd just go for a walk splashing in puddles and getting soaked which they loved doing.  It never had to be big, expensive trips out.  

We also managed to get ours into a good sleep routine - we didn't consciously do this, it just seemed to happen naturally - so they were in bed by 7-7.30 each night which was great because we had most of the evening to ourselves, so if you can do that, it'll be good - if your two eldest are in a good bedtime routine already, then the new baby will probably just follow on.  

Congratulations - I think it will be hard work, but I'm sure you'll be glad you had them all close in age when they get older as hopefully they'll get on well together.  :o)

Answer 7

To the answer above-really if you dont have any useful info why bother writing you waste of space

RE question:My son will be 21 mths when baby comes,we chose to have them this close as i found it easier to cope with this close.My older 2 kids are 21mths apart and they did great with each other as they grew.It may seem hard at 1st but routine is most important.

Good luck and do ignore arrogent people like them that answered above

Answer 8

I think you'll cope either way. Had a 2yr old and a new born. I'd like to say i did ok. You get yr self into a routine pretty quickly. My daughter who was 2 at the time thought it was great that she could get nappies... etc. I'm due in 2 weeks with my third child.... I hope i have the same routine as before. I found it quite nice. My daughter is now 5 & my son is now 3. Hope this helps. You just have to think what if you were to have twin..lol. I think any mum is a fab mum.. All the best and good luck.x

Answer 9

I have a 2 and a half year old little girl and she is a little monkey at times......i find it hard with the one child, let alone 3 under 5. My nan had 3 under 5 and she always says to me try coping with 3 children under 5 years of age.

I take my hat off to you all out there as having babies and children can be VERY hard work...good job the rewards out-weigh the negatives.

Lol

Answer 10

My boys are 15 months apart and yes it was hard when they were little, almost like having twins. A plus was when we would teach the older something like potty training, our youngest wanted to do it to. And as they get older, they are close they always have someone to do something with. They have the same group of friends, similar interests. I think there are pros and cons to having them so close together. I would not have done it any other way, I personally love them being so close in age.

Answer 11

I have a 5 year old, 4 year old, 2.5 year old, and a 7 month old.  As far as the kids, it will be hardest when your oldest 2 go through "terrible two's"... after at least the oldest hits 5, you'll see a big change.  At least I did.  They can help with the little ones, be a significant help around the house.  And if you want a lot of kids, the peak of difficulty is 3.  Really, 4 is no harder than 3 believe it or not!

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