Does anyone have kids with a 10 year age difference between them?

Question

Ok, so I am going on my second marriage and he wants to have kids. My oldest is 9 and my youngest 5. We would start trying in about a year. So that would make my oldest about 11 and my youngest 7 when I have a child....what is your experience with this? Is it too hard to have kids that big of an age difference between them or having kids that late in life (I will be 35 by then)?

Answer 1

I have boys that are 10, 11, 21, and 22.. so I did it twice!! The age diff is no big deal, they hang out sometimes, but for the most part do their own things. (Older boys together, younger 2 together)

Answer 2

I was 13 when my little sister was born.  I think it made me more responsible than most kids my age because I was the designated babysitter!  She paid me for my services, but still I had to be home.  My kids sister is 12 now and we are very close still, she stayed with me and my husband for a month.  She is also able to talk to me easier (because I am still young) about s*x, drugs, boys and stuff like that.  I like to think I have given her good advice so far.  She is a straight A student and a great kid.  So don't worry about it, your kids will love eachother regardless and it will make them close on a different level, maybe not friend level but they will still be close.

Answer 3

Well, I'm only 15 but my oldest sister is 10 years older than me. We get along just fine and they say that either siblings that are REALLY close in age or REALLY far apart get along better anyhow. 35 isn't old, by the way...

Answer 4

my mom had my brother and i 12 years apart =)

i think it worked out good for her in alot of ways

i was the babysitter when ever she needed one! i could take him places... and so on. also pick him up from school when i needed. i like it =)

good luck

Answer 5

Well I am the youngest of 3 my brother is 16 years older than me and my sister is 10 years older, my mom was 38 when she had me. my brother moved out when I was 2 and moved to another state.  he now lives 2 hours away but  he is more like an uncle to me.  my sister and I couldnt be closer! people that meet us cant believe we are 10 years apart because of how close we are. I asked my parents why they had us so far apart and it was because they wanted to focus completely on each child thru their younger years. and it was easier having us far apart.

My sister in law has a daughter from another marriage who is 11 and she has my niece who is 1.  she said the same thing that it was nice to have them that far apart because her other daughter helps out and she can focus on the baby when her older daughter is in school.  

Answer 6

i was the youngest of the 10 year gap

it was like my bro made me grow up faster as i hung out with his friends and i myself dated ollder people.

i matured faster and like the older music as i hung around my bro - he was my best friend.

on the other hadn i have a kid and he has step siblings over 10 years difference.

they dont really care too much about him - a distant relationship - it s like he is a single child

so it can go both ways!

Answer 7

Like you, I am in my second marriage.

My kids from my first marriage are aged 15, 12, 9 and 8. And my husband and I have a 2 year old and I am 25 weeks pregnant with another child.

So my oldest was 13 when I had my youngest.

All I can say is that it is alot easier doing it second time around with the kids all older!

They can dress themselves, get themselves in the bath etc.

I adapted really well going back to the beginning again and so did all the kids - they also accepted their technically half sister instantly.

Good luck.

Answer 8

my moms pregnant and i'm 13 and the baby will be born when I'm almost 14 so that that a bit worse good luck....

Answer 9

not quite 10 yr but 8 yr... my son was 8 daughter 3 when my youngest was born.

they are now 16, 11 and 8 I found no problems with the age gap although doing day trips etc is awkward  doing something a 16 yr old and an 8 yr old will enjoy

Answer 10

There was 12 years between my oldest sister and youngest sister.

Currently, my family is made up of 14, 12, 11 & 8.... Baby on the way.

Honestly, I think spread out is better.  It's really hard to have extra priviledges, restrictions, etc with the ages so close.

My sisters & I are all very close now too.  

Answer 11

Well I am now 25 and pregnant with my first so obviously I do not have any kids yet, but my family is like this me and my middle brother have 7 years between us and me and the youngest have 11 years between us. I am very close with my brothers they are 2 of my best friends, and they are more like my kids at times then my brothers, and sometimes when they dont listen to my parents if I talk to them about anything they understand. If your family is close like mine you'll have a great experience....good luck

Answer 12

I don't myself, but I was 10 when my mom had my brother, her sixth.

She was 45! Baby was totally fine! I was jealous, because I had been the 'baby' for so long, but one just adjusts.

Totally go ahead - don't worry about the age difference. Worry more about how to integrate your families.

Answer 13

My hubby is part of 5 kids...The oldest is his sister whose 23, then him 22, then his sister 21 in sep then a bro 16 and then the little one 9yrs...I find that the youngest is spoilt and very rude as hes been spoilt most of his life off his older bros and sisters.. They all get on well apart from the 16yr old is the black sheep and the other thing is that when my sil had her baby whose now 4 the 9yr old acted worse due to wanting attention and now my and my other sil have a baby each hes even worse and cant be handled and isnt told off but i think this can be avoided if dealt with

Answer 14

I HATED it! lol, my brothers were 9 and 10 years older than me! It was awesome for my mom, cause she always had a sitter - but sucked for me, they say after 8 years in age difference its like raising an only child...

Answer 15

There are six kids in my family and there is a fifteen year age difference between my oldest sister and my youngest sister, and a 11 year age difference between me and my oldest sister. We are like best friends and they seem to get along just fine. I think you have nothing to worry about. Good luck!

Answer 16

Me and my sister have 10yrs. between us and it was alright.  There is only us two and we were not that close growing up but are really close now!!  My advice to you would be just dont make the oldest be a built in babysitter and if you do pay him/her just like you would a babysitter that way he or she (the oldest) wont feel resentment toward the baby.  Good luck to you.

Answer 17

My mom is 34 and her youngest sister is turning 22 in November. Me, my parents, my grandma (my mom's mom), and my 22 y/o aunt all live together. My mom gets along better with her youngest sister than with her other sister who is only a few years younger. And 35 isn't too old. My cousin is about that age (actually, she might be 36) and she has a 6 y/o, a 4 y/o, and a 1 y/o. It's tiring, but she wouldn't have it any other way.

Answer 18

my grand ma was the youngest of 10 kids they were all 2 years apart so their was a 20  18 16 14 12 &10 8 6 4 &2 year diff  

Answer 19

well im 16 and my mom 34 she just had a baby 7 months ago. i think my mom prolly feels relieved to have me cuz i watch the baby for her so she can sleep in. i watch my sister if she wants to go out. i help her by changing the baby feeding the baby watching the baby making bottles. i dont know if ur 11 yo will be that much of a help because he/she may not be fully matured, plus idk if u let them stay alone by themselves, i think there still a little young and naive so i doubt they will watch the kid for u in the morning or change, feed, watch the baby. hey but u kno ur kid better than me so maybe they will be a big help.

Answer 20

I don't have kids but -

My little brother is 7 and I am 17. I think it's great. When I was 10 he was born and I think having a baby in the house was tough but it was just another experience. I think all experiences have value.

I don't think there was ever a big problem with it. I mean, him being in 1st grade and me going to college at 16 was tough, but I mean, school is always tough.

I think that I am a great mature sister and a great role model and person to be there for him in life. It really depends on the person whether this can always be the case, though.

Honestly I don't think it's a problem and I think your kids will be fine!

Answer 21

I'm 25, my oldest brother is 37 and my youngest brother is 14. I also have 36, 35 and 28 year old brothers. We all have the same dad except for my youngest brother. If you like the idea that you'll be raising kids for a LOOOOOONG time, then go for it! My mom has no regrets- she said it kept her young! =]

Answer 22

I have a 14, 11, and  6 month old. Its not a problem. Their not as jelous of the baby as little kids and its a great learning experience.