Does anyone know when a custody agreement expires?

Question

Its kinda a long story. I have joint custody with my daughter's father; and when she was to start school it WAS suppose to change and for her to basically live with one parent. Well, she is living with me and she sees him on the weekends. I was told since it has been a while since we went to court, and technically we were suppose to change the agreement does that not make it valid? I know go ask a lawyer. I have a lawyer and we were going to start filing for residential custody but it's soooo expensive. And her father does nothing, doesn't buy her clothes or even shoes that fit and when I do and he gets her I never see her nice things again. He doesn't give me anything money wise, which I am okay with bc it was never about the money but it always can help; he only pays for some of her daycare. The main question would be can I actually stop him from seeing her without getting in trouble since we were suppose to change the agreement and never did? i don't want to but I want him to work with me and help out

I drop her off at daycare, bust my butt all day at work, get off of work drive 25 min to my parents and pick her up....then...I drive another 40 minutes home. When I get home its make dinner, do homework, take a bath than storytime and bedtime. I am physically exhausted. If I had help from him I could find a daycare provider close and not have to run everywhere.

Anyone with a similar situation that could offer advice? Does anyone have a few thousand dollars I can have to get my daughter fulltime? Hey its worth a shot to ask....thanks in advance

Answer 1

I would seek a lawyer and get it changed thru the courts, now as to the clothes, just send her in her play clothes and don't pack anything. He should buy her clothes to keep at his place. Make sure you let him know ahead of time, so your daughter won't have to go days without a change of clothes.

Answer 2

It's valid until you go back to court and have it changed. Even if it says in there that after she starts school, the visitation schedule will change, unless it outlines exactly what those changes are, you are stuck with what you have until changes have been approved by a judge.

Answer 3

No, do NOT stop him from seeing her - you could get into sooo much trouble. She is not a pawn to be used to make him work with you. Just file  the paper. It doesn't cost thousands. It only costs hundreds, silly.

You would have help from him if you filed for child support. But seriously, if you deny his visitation, the court will hold it against you, and could order that he have compensatory time - twice the time he would have had if you hadn't denied the visitation.    

Answer 4

I believe when the child turns 18. The only difference between a soccer mom and a pitbull is lipstick.

Answer 5

the agreement, if it was a court order, wont be changed unless it had an expiration date right on the order, or if you go into court to have it varied

to have it varied you go in stating the change in circumstance and they change the conditions in the order

good luck

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