Does anyone think there is a problem with interracial adoption?

Question

I think that if there is to be an interracial adoption then extreme theropy and training needs to be required. i am an adoptee into an interracial situation so i am asking this question from an inside point of view not as an outsider. does anyone feel the same? or has anyone been in a similar situation? and if so why, and what was your outcome?

I know Tommy Davison the comedian was adopted into an interracial family and it worked for him so i am not completely against it i just want to see what people think as a whole.

Answer 1

I don't see any problems with it I'm black and my mom and dad are white. I don't even think about it.

Answer 2

Unfortunately parents, whether biological or adopted, can sometimes fail their children.  

I knew a white woman with a black husband who used to refer to her children with the "n" word.  These where biologically her children.  It was heartbreaking.

I'm the adoptive mother of a Guatemalan boy.  I do not allow either my or my husband's family to joke about race or make racial remarks in front of myself or my child.  It has caused some tension because, well, they just don't get it.   But I'll never give up and I sure as h**l won't give in.

I wish you luck.

Answer 3

i am 100 percent white and my kids are half white and half Spanish my daughter looks like she could be full blooded puerto rican and shes only half i don't think my children will need therapy...I want to teach my kids to love who they are and embrace their white side and their Spanish side...and to love their culture no matter where they are from i think it should go the same with children who have been adopted they should be taught to love themselves and who they are no matter what color they or their parents are

Answer 4

I dont see anything wrong with it...i mean sometimes it is better to be raised by your own race, all races are differnt, have different beliefs on how to raise a child.

Answer 5

My BIOLIGICAL daughter is multiracial. Should I go through extreme therapy and training to keep parenting her?

People who adopt multi-ethnic children love children and love being parents, otherwise they would not have adopted them.

Anyone can learn what they need to as a parent.

If a white woman for instance, adopts an african daughter, I'm pretty sure she can learn how to braid, grease a scalp (or find someone that knows how) and make that child proud to be who she is.

Point blank.

Answer 6

No I don't think so because that doesn't seem fair and completely stupid.  If you need to take a class with interracial adoption then you should do it with same race adoption as well.

Answer 7

I am so sorry to hear that your adoptive family is being so rude and bigoted towards you. They are WRONG!

A lot of adoptive and potential adoptive parents (almost all of whom are WHITE) will say that skin color and country of origin is no big deal. That's because they haven't had to grow up with prejudice. They claim that they don't see color. What they don't "see" is that everyone else in the world sees (and judges) color, including the color of their children.

You deserve better. All children deserve to be respected for who they are.

Answer 8

I think as long as a couple/family/person is willing to open their home and hearts to a child, the color of the adopted parents  is irrelevant.  Grant it there are things they parents should educated themselves on like how to deal with racism , they have books for parents of transracial adoption.  It be nice if they learn up a little on the Childs homeland culture, like say for a couple that might adopt from China, Brazil etc.

I also think its important that extend family grandparents, aunts, Uncles, etc are ok with a child/baby that is not the same race as them.  If they aren’t then the  adoptive parents should reconsider or face the fact they might not be seeing much of their extended  family, if the family is not willing to accept the new child.  I’m mixed raced and the family that adopted me is white, no one in the family had a problem that I was mixed raced.  I am sorry how your mother behaved it was wrong, and you might want to talk to her and tell her that she hurt you she may have just been saying it in a joking sarcastic manner but regardless it still hurt you.

Answer 9

We adopted interracially.  We're white & adopted two Latinas.  Not only are we very diligent in keeping lines of communication open and getting them around others from the same background (we intentionally seek out these relationships), we also would not put up with anyone spouting racism around us.  I have a neighbor (not next door, but too close in my view anyway) who has a slightly racist attitude & expressed it to me one day.  I've cut all ties with her & that's that.  The children all know that she is misinformed and rather ignorant & avoid her, too.

If I had a family member who was spouting racism, I'd have a little "come to Jesus" meeting with them and let them know just how inappropriate it is to do that & while I know I cannot change their views, I certainly can make sure that my children are never exposed to it & that I am willing to cut all ties if that's what is necessary to protect my children from their ignorance.

We neither try to pretend that the girls are the same color as us...nor make a bigger deal out of it than is necessary.

We have counselors, therapists, social workers and other adoption professionals ready to call if/when things come up & we need outside help for us or for the kids.

Answer 10

no its not really a big problem in my eyes

as long as you love then is what matters. now i know people have isues dealing with this but really it dosenot matter

my moms best friends son has  a boy who is is not of his race but he loves him anyways

Answer 11

A blond girl had a baby girl with a black boy, the child was black, and the mother sometimes was thinking of giving away the little girl. I loved that girl, her name was " Perly" I am white and I was asking my husband and children if we could keep Perly with us, I really dind't care her color, I just loved her. she was the prettiest of all.

Answer 12

I don't see a problem with it at all.  In fact I want to adopt a child who is a different race than me because I think black and Hispanic  children are so cute and I would never be able to have either cause my husband and I both are white.

Answer 13

I am sorry about the racism you have experienced.  Any minority person experiences racism, but to experience it in your own family has to be hurtful in a way I can't even imagine.  I am an adoptive mother.  My daughter is Asian, and so is my husband.  I am white.  I wonder how you think one parent being the same race and one not affects a child?  I think that you are right that transracial adoption should require a lot of training.  I think that, while there is no way to avoid extra issues in this situation, overt racism can be avoided, and adoptive parents can develop sensitivity to their child's identity issues.  I would never let a racist comment in my extended family fly.  They would change their tune fast or loose the privilege of having us in their lives.  I didn't understand the daily, annoying covert racism that minorities experience until I was with my husband.  Little things all the time like, if we had a Chinese meal and I bring in leftovers to work, inevitably someone will ask if we had horse or dog last night.  It really wears on you, and I know that it is even more different for the actual minority.  Famililes should be a source of support for this, and, to some extent, for a transracially adopted person, maybe they can't be in a way that a family of the same race could.  That doesn't mean that it isn't a better option than foster care or an orphanage for the rest of their life, however, and sensitivity and awareness can be learned to minimize the negative effect, I think.