Does anyone think we obsess over our weddings?

Question

My mom told me yesterday that I'm obsessed with my wedding and getting married. I've already looked through thousands of dresses, bridesmaid dresses, flower girl dresses, invitations, and the like. I've started a notebook and when I get my printer up and running I'm going to print off all the pictures I have saved on my computer and add the to the notebook. But I'm not just obsessed about the wedding. I keep looking at stuff I'd like to register for that my fiance would like to have and that would make our lives comfortable. We've been looking at houses and I've been reading books about living "green". I'm excited about the marriage mostly and we often talk about our future and after the wedding. I don't really see how this is obsessing much since I am planning a wedding and all.

Anyway, what are the things about your wedding that you've been "obsessing" over?

Answer 1

Omigish the friggin GUEST LIST! Especially when you're on a budget...its so frustrating and THE WORST part of it all for me...

Answer 2

Your Mom probably said that because she has noticed a myriad of little things such as you don't do usual hobbies, end up at Bridal stores when in shopping centres, talk about wedding, marriage when on phone with friends.

The next time someone asks "What's new with you?" Listen to your answer.  If it's anything more than Oh, just starting to plan my wedding" you could be sounding like a new parent...obsessed.  While I know this is an exciting time in your life, most people don't want to hear all the little details or look at pictures of what might be, they'll wait to see them at the wedding!

Answer 3

Right now…the guest list.  Every time I sit down to make a list, I feel like crying.  My list alone is 120, his is 50.  But of those 120, there are only like 10 that I really want there and the others I just have to invite.  I don’t want them there at all.  So we have managed to shave it all down to only 60 guests but I’m still obsessing over how this is going to turn out, how upset everyone will be.  The whole thing is frustrating.

I think other than that, probably where to have the reception.

Answer 4

I've been told the same thing. I see it as being organised. I have a scrapbook with ideas from magazines etc, a diary with important info like when things need to be paid, appointments etc, and a box file with invoices, contracts etc in it. My fiance thinks ive gone crazy but he will be grateful when the wedding is perfect.

And it sounds to me like you are excited about being married, not just the wedding which shows that you are really in love and not just doing it for the big party!

Congratulations and good luck!

Answer 5

Completely obsessing over my dress.. I ordered one size and now my shape seems to be changing, though the scale's not moving.. I'm worried!!

lol, not to mention EVERYTHING else!

Answer 6

Planning a wedding is a very exciting and involved process. I think it is natural to be a little obsessive about it (that is what I say to myself to justify my obsessiveness). I am keeping a notebook as well. In it I have pictures of dresses, color schemes, flowers, decorations, centerpieces, Tips and tricks. Right now, I have my dress, decorations are picked out, flowers are taken care of, I know what I want my cake to look like and I have my invites ( I am making them myself). I now am obsessing over the music. I've found my processional, first dance and father/daughter dance, but I need everything else. It's kind of consuming me. I swear sometimes, that is all I think about.

I put so much energy and time and everything else into this planning process because I am a perfectionist and I want it to be perfect. I am so excited to get married, I can't wait to start my life with my new husband. I love him so much [sigh]. Although, he doesn't care about what color the table cloths are and what type of flowers I am carrying, I think, I am doing this all for him. I want the day to be perfect for me, but even more so, want it to be even perfect for him.

Wow.....that was alot to write.

Answer 7

Yes, it is on my mind all of my spare time. I think people get tired of hearing about it! I have my venue, dress, and bridesmaids dresses already, and it is still a year away! I just think about how it will look and how many people will show up. I'm still searching through thousands of pictures for my bouquet, flower girl dresses, dj, the music I'll be playing, my cake, grooms cake, and things like that. So much to choose from, and I want it to be perfect.. well at least to me.

Yes, like "true" said, THE GUEST LIST. we will be having about 150-200 people, it is so hard to get everyones names spelled correctly and all of their numbers and addresses! Way harder to plan a wedding than I expected! (but still fun)

Answer 8

I don't think it matters if we obsess or not.  Some people have been waiting this their whole lives.  Its really important to some people.  

PLUS, it is  something YOU are going to plan.  Something you'll be proud of b/c YOU did it.  Then you will look back years from now, and see your greatest accomplishment.  Its a wonderful feeling.

Yeah we do obsess, but so WHAT! why do they care, its YOUR wedding!!  

Answer 9

some see it as obsessing, other see it as research and careful planning!  

Answer 10

Sure we do, but it's better than the other extreme of being careless.

I thought of it this way, it's the biggest party I'll ever have, so, yes, I obsessed about clothes and food and pictures, but all in all, being married is what I really wanted and we did have a good party so its all good. Good luck and keep planning.

Answer 11

I don't see a problem with obsessing.  it's the " most important day of your adult life"  you had better make it the best you can.  I say go for it go a little crazy, I think as girls we have earned that right.  i haven't really started too much with my wedding, but I already know what him and i both want so it makes it alot easier that way.  But I am sure once it's closer to that time I will be.  good luck and congrats

Answer 12

One always thinks differently when they're the one doing it.  As long as you're not spending all of your time "obsessing" over the big day and overlooking other aspects of your life, I'd say you're fine. There's nothing wrong with wanting a beautiful day to share the beginning of your lives together and it takes ALOT of planning to get it done.

Good luck and congrats!!!

For my wedding, I obsessed over my dress, the cakes, and the music.  They were the things that I wanted to really stand out.

Answer 13

I think it's up to every individual couple. For me and my hubby, we did not want anything too cumbersome and costly, so we signed up with the Singapore Hokkien Huey Kuen for their mass wedding held on Feb 2008. Everything was organised by them at a very cheap rate. Well, for you and your hubby, I think it's ok if you prefer an elaborate wedding.  

Answer 14

u r not obsessing over n e thing u r actually doing ur homework!! it is a good way of preparing and having everything ready!! i have been doing the same thing for a long time now!! my sister thought i was going crazy..but i didn't pay them any mind.. now that they see my engagement is closer they now agreed with me for starting preparing everything now!!

Answer 15

you dont think your obsessing because your the one planning it.  now if you were the one watching someone else do all this stuff you might feel differently.  I didnt obsess over anything for my wedding.  I bought the first dress I put on, my mom took care of the reception and food because it was at her home, no shower, no registry, and it was all planned in one month.  3 and a half years later we are still happily married with no regrets on how we planned our wedding.  now thats not to say planning big and everything is a problem...just as long as every spare second isnt focused on the wedding and you realize the wedding is one day in a lifetime of marriage.