Does apperence matter?

Question

i have a friend that is really stylish and she likes dressing really cute, and im the type of person to wear jeans and a t-shirt and put my hair in a ponytail...my personaality is that im really funny and well im out going....but sometimes i think my friend looks at what i wear ..like if i say hey you wanna go out, she always curves the subject so i talk to her last nighht and i told her that i dont really feel comfortable with her because shes stylish and im like the shadow...you guys talk to meee!! i mean i dont look tacky but yea helpp!

Answer 1

Sounds like you were happy before with the jeans and t-shirt look but you're not any more. That's ok. But it's not ok if you're just jealous of your stylish friend.

Get comfortable with yourself again, with the t-shirts or the sparkly tops. If you're comfortable with yourself then the guys will be.

There are plenty of very attractive women who don't bother to dress up to please other people.

Answer 2

It doesn't really matter, most people though do notice appearence before really anything else, sadly.

In my class (8th grade) most of us girls don't really worry about appearence so much, I mean it's nice to look nice, but not cutesy(unless it's for a special occasion, like dance). If you know what I mean...

If you feel your friend is overpowering you and not spending time with you, you probably shouldn't hang out with her (or at least not that much) people really should stop judging on appearence!!!

Hope this helps! wasn't too sure what too say...

Answer 3

first of all, you are the only one who can decide that for yorself. I will tell you that from my 30 years in the military it was alwys drilled into us that if we look like c**p our work is c**p and we feel like c**p, it is true. There have been studies that show that people who get all dolled up actually drive better when they are dressed up, something to do with self image and pride.

Answer 4

If she's really your friend she'll accept you the way you are but if you are interested in being more stylish and she is already accepting of you, why not ask her for some style tips and/or to borrow a cute top to wear out, etc?

Answer 5

As nature intended, males and females both are attracted to the most appeasing individuals, whether it be physical prowess or obvious characteristic traits.

The situation is this: humans don't have the means to sense your strengths without a physical representation as we are very visual creatures. Without a visual aid, it is hard for anyone to see anything beyond your physical appearance, which would include your dress and mannerisms.

Answer 6

It does matter and you know it. So get some new outfits and whatever matches them in personal style.

Answer 7

beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. One mans treasure could be the others trash

Answer 8

appearance is the first thing a person notices...

Answer 9

Yes.

Answer 10

It depends on what kind of notice your looking for. If you only want people to be interested in who you are and not in what you look like then being comfortable and being yourself will weed out the shallow people who won't see past what's on the outside. My advice is for you to be you, you'll always be happier. And yes, I would pick you over Sandy D any day. Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 11

Unfortunately  will have to break it out to you that appearance ABSOLUTELY maters, but luckily it affects everyone differently because everyone is different, You shouldn't worry however you dress, you friend feels more comfortable looking all pretty and cute and you like it a little more relaxed, it;snot a big deal, it's just that at first glance you two probably appeal to different people.

I consider myself funny and outgoing too, but I also think that I'm pretty stylish, although I do get the odd off days when I don't dress up.

Just accept that everyone's different, there's o 'right' way to dress. If you friend prefers not to have night out with you then find someone who does, it doesn't mean that you won't be friends with her, but you need to have fun sometime!

Answer 12

not gonna lie, but appearence does matter in some way and anyone who says otherwise is living in a dream world with world peace and no violence. there are ways for you to look nicer without losing your personal style.just get cute tees from aeropostale (cheaper and i like it better) or abercrombie (kinda expensive there) and get a pair of skinny jeans. flats are sooo cute to without making you look like your trying to hard. do a side pony or a bun every once and a while. subtle changes are key. your still you, just a little more polished. good luck and i hope i helped. by the way if ur friend is really like that, you might need to double check if its worth it. b/c appearence shouldnt matter THAT much to your FRIEND! thats crazy.

side note:i think jeans and a tee is HOT! lol

Answer 13

you are what you you are if your happy then it shouldnt matter,these days it has come down to appeience but i think personilty should come first you get much further in life.x