Does asking turn you off?

Question

My husband wants oral all the time. And asks at least twice a day. I dont like doing it when he asks. Is that wrong of me? To me its such a turn off that he wants it all the time. Most times he wants it more than s*x.

Answer 1

I think its kinda hot when a man asks for what he wants. Sounds like you don't like doing it at all...how sad for your man.

Answer 2

it is a turn off.

women want to do that when we want if a man asks its just a big turn off and its more of a duty than a pleasure.

Answer 3

Total turn off if they ask for it.  My husband has learned that when he doesn't ask then I'm all over it!  LOL!  If your husband knows that you don't like it when he asks then I think he should respect you enough to cut it out.  He may be surprised at the results!  Mine was!  Also, if you don't like doing it period then it would be nice if he could respect that as well.   Sounds a little selfish of him if you ask me.

Answer 4

I can understand why his asking would turn you off if he's been asking twice a day.  That's a lot.  That's more than a "wifely duty" by a longshot.

Adults should be able to meet their own needs.  Oral s*x isn't a need.  He should be able to figure out a way to m********e that is comfortable with him if he really needs that release.

I'd be curious... is he has giving with oral pleasure as he is demanding of it?

Answer 5

gary c is right. Guys don't want to beg for it either.

If u know your husband well enough u should pick up on his body language of when he needs s*x or a blow jo*! His eyes will give it away right away!His eyes are going to be glossy!His skin might get flushy to!

See im differant though i luv giving blow jo^s if asked or not! All i need is to see a p***s and im horny! ha ha

Answer 6

If it's not what you want, why are you doing it? Is this how you'd like to spend the rest of your sexual life, going down on somebody that asks for it too much when you can't stand doing it unless you want to? Do you see anything wrong with this picture? I personally love it, but it's not ALL we do. Come on, s*x is about gratification - that includes yours, which NEVER includes things that neither one of you want to do! Not in  a true relationship.  

Answer 7

If you like to give and receive just do it without asking it , and tell that to your husband, no man will deny that. If you don't like it, tell him also. s*x is for you to enjoy it as well, so if you don't like something you are entitled to be respected.

Answer 8

Tell him how you feel.  

I understand what you mean.  That takes away all the romance doesnt it?  

Answer 9

I don't know why some people think they need to ask such questions. Is s*x all he thinks about, twice a day? Don't either of you work?

Your problem is with him. If you find it uncomfortable, tell him.  

Answer 10

At least you get asked. My husband just pushes my head towards his crotch as if it is my duty to perform which I always do. I know, he's a perve but I love him anyway.

Answer 11

Just keep saying "no".  Why should YOU, his WIFE, do what pleases him?  He will quit asking YOU soon enough.  

BTW...it would be a complete turn off for me if I had to ask or beg for anything sexually from my WIFE!

Answer 12

You are not alone......I feel the same way sometimes.....it does get old to hear that over and over again.....and I definately dont wanna do it when he keeps asking for it....shouldnt that be something that is just done in the heat of the moment , not asked for?

Thats how I see it anyway :)

Answer 13

it's normal that he wants it so much! my hubby asks like 10 times a day, he knows I seriously am not going to do it, he just likes thinking about it! if it really annoys you, tell him before it becomes a serious issue for you.....every once in a while just do it out of the blue and maybe he won't ask so much!

Answer 14

It is kind of a turn off! is not like "hey make me a sandwich!" this is s*x we're talking about, you're feelings need to be involved, and by feelings I mean YOU SHOULD FEEL LIKE DOING IT. Not like a task you have to do twice a day. Sorry, but tell him to wait 'til you're both just as turned on and then he can ask whatever he wants! you won't say no =)

Answer 15

Not wrong of you at all!  If it makes you feel uncomfortable than its no fun for you!  I can def. see how this is a turn off 'cause he wants it all the time and always asks for it... its not very romantic.  

Answer 16

NO, it's actually a turn off when I have to BEG him, which is the opposite of your problem, and what your husband continually does.

I feel like there's no reason why the person I love and supposedly loves me too won't just PLEASE ME. I think it should just be effortless and take it's course natural.  

Answer 17

Does he do you...before hand, if not he needs to or you can tell him doing it that much is a turn off. just be honest, I love doing oral to my wife. And I know she loves it, she has been known to ask for it.

Answer 18

WELL I DON'T DO THE ORAL THING,BUT MY MAN DOES ME. HOWEVER WHEN MY MAN ASK ME TO MAKE LOVE IN GENERAL IT'S OKAY.

Answer 19

It does not turn me off if he asks for it.