Does attending a wedding make you wedding obsessed??

Question

This past weekend I attended a wedding with my boyfriend of just barely a year. We are so very much in love, and having discussed getting married many times before. Im more than sure that he is th eman I want to spend the rest of my life with. However, we arent at a point yet in our lives where we are ready to get married (mainly, we just arent financially stable enough yet). After attending the wedding together this weekend I just can NOT shake wanting to be married to the man of my dreams and sealing the deal to spend the entire rest of our lives together. i should add, that I have a baby girl from a previous relationship that left me a single mom when I was 6 months pregnant. Mark and I began dating when she was about 8 weeks old (he admitted to having fallen in love when I was a big ol' pregnant gal) which just melts my heart! The fact that I have a daughter though, has brought up the dicussion of commitment a lot more seriously and sooner than the average relationship, so it's been clear for quite a while to the both of us that being together for the long haul is somehting we both really want. He is 25, im 24. How do I shake the idea of being obsessed with marriage, seeing as I know this isnt a realistic expectation for at least another 2-3 years??

Answer 1

The fact that you have a daughter should be a chief reason to wait another 2-3 years. While you two are clearly in a good relationship, Im sure you are wanting it to stand the test of time to make sure your daughter is in a stable environment. In the meanwhile, you can start cutting pictures of wedding related things you like and put them in a notebook.

Answer 2

Iam in the same boat as you minus the child, im 21 and my parthner is 23 we live together, i love the idea of been married and the big day ect, but iv thought about it many times before and at the end of the day me and my boyfriend know we are committed to each other no peice of paper can tell us that any more than we already know our friends and family all know we love each other.

the only thing we dont have is the ring and the day but we want to focus on buying a house and saving money first.

we sometimes talk about what wed like to have on the day ect think of it as something to look forward to.

just remember u have wat u want now a wedding is just a day x

Answer 3

Tell him your feelings, show him that you REALLY love him, if he shows you the same affection back you have nothing to worry about.

If he fakes it, then i can't help you.

Answer 4

i'm kind of in your situation. my boyfriend and i have only been together for a year, but we moved really fast: got pregnant and miscarried within 2 months, moved in together at 2.5 months, been on numerous vacations, opened a business, etc. when you get a little taste of it, you want the whole thing, i know! after attending weddings with him, it just made me want it more. and after our miscarriage, i wanted a baby more than anything. the only thing that made me feel better was talking to him, telling him exactly how i felt. i told him i was wedding and baby obsessed, and he understood b/c it's only natural to want to want those things with someone you truly care about.

since you and your bf have talked about marriage before, half the battle is over. he's thinking about it; therefore, it won't be a total shock when you tell him that you want to be married some time in the near future. my bf understood what i was saying and in a way asking. he put my mind at ease when he said that we will be married within a year, but he doesn't want to ruin the surprise of a romantic proposal. he sort of gave me something to look forward to. also, i told him that my mom said that when you live with your bf they take longer to propose b/c they have everything that they want and why change it when it's not broken.

good luck!

Answer 5

Yes I used to be like that and also baby showers made me want to have a baby.  How do you shake your obsession? I don't know.  You just be patient and know that you are doing the right thing by waiting until you are financially stable. And enjoy your relationship with this guy in its present state, because these are very special times too. Once you are married you will refer to these as "the good old days".

Answer 6

You cant really shake that feeling! If you guys are in love, you're always going to have the feeling of wanting to be with him forever. And its always easy to get caught up in the whole 'wedding day'...but remember marriage is FOREVER.

Answer 7

Perhaps this will change your mind!!!

Divorce Rate

What is the current divorce rate in America?

It is frequently reported that the divorce rate in America is 50%. This data is not accurately correct, however, it is reasonably close to actual. The Americans for Divorce Reform estimates that "Probably, 40 or possibly even 50 percent of marriages will end in divorce if current trends continue.", which is actually a projection.

"50% of all marriages in the America end in divorce."

The above statement about the divorce rate in America hides all the details about distribution, however.

Age at marriage for those who divorce in America

AgeWomenMen

Under 20 years old27.6%11.7%

20 to 24 years old36.6%38.8%

25 to 29 years old16.4%22.3%

30 to 34 years old8.5%11.6%

35 to 39 years old5.1%6.5%

The divorce rate in America for first marriage, vs second or third marriage

50% percent of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology in Springfield, Missouri.”

According to enrichment journal on the divorce rate in America:

The divorce rate in America for first marriage is 41%

The divorce rate in America for second marriage is 60%

The divorce rate in America for third marriage is 73%

The divorce rate in America for childless couples and couples with children

According to discovery channel, couples with children have a slightly lower rate of divorce than childless couples.

Sociologists believe that childlessness is also a common cause of divorce. The absence of children leads to loneliness and weariness and even in the United States, at least 66 per cent of all divorced couples are childless.

Answer 8

Get financially stable first.

Answer 9

It usually makes me pissed

Answer 10

If you attend  a wedding itll make you more ancsious to marry but not obbsesed to marry marriage takes time and if you wait youll find someone thats 10x better than the person youll find if your rushing for marriage (its better to be ancious then upsesed)

hope i helped

-syddles

Answer 11

I don't know that there's any way to shake "wedding brain," except to remind yourself of how much you have and all that you can look forward to in the future. Enjoy spending time with your boyfriend and your daughter. As you get further from your friend's wedding, you'll find it weighing less on your mind because you'll have other things to think about.

But seriously, since the two of you are committed to marriage, why wait? Have a small civil ceremony and a small reception, even if you have to do it in the backward. There are thousands of books and websites on having a wedding on a budget. If all you want is the big ceremony and the expensive dress, you're getting married for the wrong reasons. But if you want to marry this man, don't let money stop you! Think of how much more financially stable you would be if you merged your assets and combined your homes now.