Does attitude to s*x depend on where you live?

Question

In response to the if women are s***s/men are studs question do you think attitudes to s*x depends on where you live?

I am from England and people here dont often wait until marriage and people usually have s*x with who they want and nobody really cares. If a person is single it is seen as up to them and I find it a very outdated concept that men are studs/women are s***s.

Answer 1

I like you are from the UK, and you are right we are more relaxed than in the US.

We are more up front, though underneath both and indeed most cultures are the same!

It’s kind of the difference between us here and the French, or the Swedes

or even between men’s altitude and women’s

If one was to believe all the chat from some women, you might be temped to believe that s*x was not a 50-50 thing between men and women, on the subject of s*x women keeps the whole thing under wraps...

(no culture denies s*x more than the Chinese, they wont even chat about it, lol but they have the highest, population growth in the world)

Answer 2

i live in the u.s. and honestly i have never encountered this attitude that "men are studs and women are s***s". honestly, it seems more like women are allowed to express their interest in s*x pretty openly, whereas unless the guy is attractive, he is looked at a sleaze for doing so. also, the "wait until you're married" thing doesn't really seem to be the norm here. my family is from palestine though, and there that is definitely the norm. however, it is not gender specific, it is for people in general.

Answer 3

Yeas, those attitudes specific to individual culture, though some cultures share similar values.

Answer 4

To a certain degree, yes it does.

And I'm interested to hear about the American thing as well, because I'm from the UK and I often get really angry reading yet another prudish conservative uptight answer where anything sexual at all is basically defined as "what a man wants and what a woman shouldn't". All that bull about purity and so on, is that a representation of American society? Because if so, there are so many things wrong with it I could write an encyclopedia volume of why it's ridiculous and stupid. It really makes me angry.  

Answer 5

Yeah, its an outdated concept here in Ireland too and most definitely in Australia where I've lived for the last six years.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, they're mostly specific to the United States culture because almost 80% of people in our country claim a religion with Judeo-Christian values.  Our country is filled with a majority of Christians.  Even though most people believe it's "okay" to have s*x before marriage and to do what you want to do, this is only a new development that has happened in the past 30 to 40 years.  The stigma of promiscuous/premarital s*x is still in the air, and will continue to be so while church/religious leaders have a prominent place in society.

Answer 7

Really?

Answer 8

I agree with you.  Here, in the US, we have a high rate of s*x crimes.  We go out of our way to prove how sexually open we are.  Yet we still have the attitude that women are s***s and men are studs.  I say that it shows prudish we are in the US as a country.

I know I was raised with these beliefs, though as I learned more about s*x and relationships, I started to revise my beliefs.

And the US attitudes are increasing.  I personally believe it's due to lack of comprehensive s*x education in this country.  Parents teach their children less.  And schools teach misinformation or abstinence-only, if they teach anything at own.  I don't understand why today's kids can't be taught medically accurate s*x education.  That certainly doesn't encourage kids to have s*x.  It simply states that if you are to choose to have s*x, here's the information you need to know to be safe and healthy.

Answer 9

maybe i ought to move to England.  

Answer 10

Probably. Honestly, I think that even in the US it has more to do with whether the woman has been with a different guy every week than whether she's had s*x outside of marriage. Many guys I know would be a little bit concerned about starting a long-term relationship with a girl who doesn't seem to be able to say "no". On the other hand, most don't seem to condemn women who have had several non-marital sexual relationships.  Some women feel the same way about men who have had a very large number of partners, although the number required to incite worry is much greater.