Does bathing a 8 yr old girl all naked along with her sister 2 yrs old constitute sexual molestation?

Question

If the mother was away from the kids who were under the care of the father?

Answer 1

I have two girls myself and can say that by the age of eight, children have begun to discover modesty. I doubt she would even allow him to see her naked and would totally freak out if he did happen to see her that way. My girls wouldn't let me see them naked by the time they were that age and they still won't. I'm the same s*x as they are.

Answer 2

No, its not and people have gone over board these days in making accusations. Its pretty sick when a person cant even bathe their child anymore for fear of being labeled a chester.

Answer 3

I cannot say whether there is anything wrong going on here, with the limited details.  However, having read the other responses, I wanted to clarify that sexual molestation may require touch, but sexual abuse does not.  As hard as it can be to identify, it really boils down to your father's reason for bathing you together.

Answer 4

Only if he SEXUALLY MOLESTED them.  Bathing is a cleaning process- he does not want them to have dirty asses and vaginas, so swiping those areas with a soapy washcloth is not molestation.

Answer 5

perhaps you should get a nanny or female helper.

Answer 6

if he is bathing them, no. it is only sexual molestation if he touches them inappropriately.

edit: your point? are you proving sexism against women? most answerers were more tolerant of a dad washing his girls than a woman breastfeeding her child at 8 years of age. i don't know what point you're trying to make...

Answer 7

It's a bath...

They're kids...

Kids don't bathe themselves.

Are they supposed to wear one pieces or something? That doesn't sound like a good way to get them clean.

Answer 8

Are you joking? How many single Dads do this all the time?. What are trying to do get your ex for molestation so you can force him to lose custody?. Look up what sexual

molestation really is and get you mind out of swamp.

Answer 9

It may be inappropriate but I don't believe the term "molestation" can be used unless there was certain types of touching involved. By 8 I think a girl could bathe herself.

Answer 10

8-yr-olds, and younger are fully capable of bathing themselves.  In fact the 8-yr-old could have bathed the two-year-old.  This definitely sounds strange to me, but not necessarily is it sexual abuse.  It depends on whether the man lingered or tried to sexually stimulate the child while cleaning them.  This is a situation that all men should avoid.  It just looks bad.

Answer 11

molestation is when you inappropriately touch someone. Are you touching them? Are you becoming sexual arroused when looking at them?

If not, then you're safe.

Answer 12

No.. the only way it would be sexual molestation is if he made them do something sexual. Since they are the same s*x.. its fine..

Answer 13

Only if the father (or mother) touched them inappropriately.  There is nothing wrong with nudity.  That, in and of itself, is not molestation.

Answer 14

Surely an 8 year old (as long as he/she is a "normal" 8 year old) can wash themselves, with the supervision of whoever is there. A 2 year old needs to be bathed...you can't just leave them unwashed for fear of sexual abuse claims. Parents are entitled to wash their children and so are the people the parents put the children in the care of - if they've been put in your care for a number of days, then I'd take that as the assumption that they don't mind you washing their children. As long as nothing untoward goes on, all is well.

Answer 15

I don't have children, but I'm not sure why an 8 year old wouldn't be able to bathe herself. I think that's old enough to be uncomfortable being naked with her father and younger sister.

Answer 16

I am so confused by your question as you did not give much detail.  I don't believe it is molestation if the father is only bathing his 8 year old and 2 year old in the same bath.  If he touches them in away that is inappropriate it is molestation, if he thinks about it he should stay away from the children before he acts on it.

**No wonder I didn't understand the question you're making some lame comparison of apples and oranges.  What point you're trying to make is still confusing?  An 8 year old needs to be bathed but not breastfeed.  Breastfeeding is nutrition for a baby who ultimately can't get the nutrition from another source.  An eight year old child gets nutrition from food like the rest of us.  However I probably would not so much constitute it as molestation but yes as a form of child abuse.