Does being broken and sad makes one unlovable ?

Question

I have a feeling that i'm prolly too melancholic for relationships. That i would end up making life sad for the other person in my life . Looking back , that's prolly why i didn't go out with all the good guys who were interested in me .I know it's silly but , i still feel that way. Like i'm incapable of making anyone happy, i'm too broken beyond healing and therefore just avoid love and getting close to people. BUt i want love , that 's the problem .

Answer 1

...not at all, love from the heart is not bias...thanks for asking...

Answer 2

People search the world for love, and many of them don't find it because they are looking. Love is an emotion like all others. People can't make themselves fall in love, it just happens. Let it come to you and don't worry about it. Your personality is a rare one, and when love comes, it'll be just right and just as rare. And hey, that's who you are. Your question says you are broken, and yes that may be true. But those are all the pieces of your whole self. Does it really seem so broken?

Answer 3

im in the same boat as yours....yes it is hard to love wid a broken heart.

Answer 4

that sort of nothing is the nothing from which everything can come. just on the fact that you can think like this and have that  hypersensitive sense of self, which i am aware only grows in the most understanding and caring of people, would get you an invite from me to have coffee. You will have more chances to say 'yes' and good guys are everywhere only the urban myth says different

you seriously undervalue yourself : rememeber you are judging yourself against the potential legend in your own mind that each person knows they can be but rarely divorce from reality . We can only strive to be better and action upon that awareness is good enough for a potential life partner. your brokeness can be mended your sadness replaced by a relevant sense of your quality self.  

Your depreciated sense of self will be rent asunder by choice truths in a very short time.

oh the beauty of trees to someone who's never seen them for the woods.  .

Answer 5

if you keep saying that...you won't be able to be happy or to make others happy.

you have to cut this vicious circle and snap out of this as soon as you can.

love

Pluto

Answer 6

At times reality bites, that's why people need to escape it.  Be a little silly and a little crazy.  That's all it takes to be happy and pleasant for others to be around.  The only person who is always around to make you happy is yourself, so find those pleasant thoughts and keep to them through out the day.  A song, a joke, a pictures, comic strips, post cards ... etc.  All the small little simple things.

Answer 7

You only get what you hand out. Probably you are just a cry baby that wants everything handed to her on a plate.  Or are you willing to work on yourself so that you do not feel that you make people sad.  Read the first sentence. Sad people make others sad.  The good guys are still there, but you pushed them aside.  You want a good guy, say yes so now and then.  Read # 1 sentence. And you being incapable of making any body happy?  I thought that happiness comes from within.  See sentence 1.

Answer 8

If that were true, then whiny emo boys wouldn't be so damned popular, now would they?