Does being nervous have anything to do with not being able to have an erection?

Question

I just recently started dating a guy. During the course of foreplay, right before s*x, he told me that he was stilla virgin.. But he still wanted to have s*x. But he wasn't able to get an erection... sadly. I felt bad because he was so embarrased! He has 3 roomates. Maybe it was because he was ucomfortable with them there. Or perhaps because he was so nervous his first time? What could have caused this? I'm definitely hoping it wasn't me..

If someone could help, it would be greatly appreciated!

Answer 1

Nervousness will cause a guy to not have an erection...AND...might cause spontaneous or premature ejaculation.

Answer 2

no it does not just cause you are nervous does not mean you go limp if might have an erectile dysfunction

Answer 3

you shut up big mouth@!!!

Answer 4

try some where private i would b nervious if it was my first time and my mates were watching

hope this helps

Gavyn.b

p.s if u need any more info my msn &e-mail is [e-mail]

Answer 5

first of all it is his first time and he doesn't what do to a bad job he didn't wanted to give u a bad s*x cause he never had s*x before and come on his roommates where there come on after u left they were going to tees him that he did a horrible job and bla bla bla he didn't wanted to get embarrassed  

Answer 6

its just nervousness try going some lonely place next time....

Answer 7

Being nervous may have everything to do with it. My bet is that your assessment of the situation and it's cause is right on the money. Performance anxiety can be a major erection inhibitor for guys, especially if your guy is a virgin.

Keep in mind, that in being a virgin, his having a hardon and enjoying it, has, until now, been a private affair. He has to find his comfort zone with you...get over any performance anxiety, nerves and distractions...or concerns about the 3 roommates.

Hopefully, you won't have to pretend what happened, or didn't happen, as the case may be, didn't happen. If you can make light of it, like it was no big deal, it may take some of the pressure off of him in the future. You don't want him to worry about it and make matters worse. It's also best if you can have an open dialog of good communication with him....something like 'if you can think it you can say it' to each other...tactfully, of course. What's wrong with saying to him, 'I bet that never happens when you're all alone or looking at p**n.'? See how open he is with you....etc..

When you do find yourself in the course of foreplay with him and are wanting to have s*x, why not try casually getting him fully hard in his pants before his p***s is exposed. Just feel it up in his pants....caress it and so on....see if it responds....indulge it awhile before you expose it....and proceed.

If you still have the erection problem, there is always Cialis. He may not need it for a physical disorder, but it may help him stay hard until he grows fond...and comfortable of having s*x with you.

If he is too shy to ask his doctor, it can also be ordered discreetly online....20mg pills can be cut in half to save money....and they are effective for over 24hrs. Since he's a virgin, if he orgasms too quickly, they may help you guys have a 2nd, more satisfying round!

Once you get past this speed bump it should be smooth sailing. Trust me.....the lack of erection is not caused by you... don't even do there! Good luck.

Answer 8

Two facts are against him:his room mates being around.And he suffered from stage fright:nothing at all to do with you:he is afraid that he will perform real bad.

Planets.

Best do it where there are no room mates around

Answer 9

He wasn't too turned on.

Answer 10

Maybe he felt uncomfortable like you said because of his room mates, or that he was nervous, try going to your place next time?

Answer 11

Okay ignore osama, its not erectile dysfunction. I have been through the exact same thing as you.

With it being his first time he is bound to be nervous. He doesn't want to be c**p and he doesn't want to disappoint you. It can cause a man to not be able to get an erection. When this happened to my bf I basically tried really hard to nto take it personally, trust me it isn't you. Tell him that its perfetly fine and be VERY patient. Constantly reassure him and tell him there is not pressure and that you don't want him to not enjoy his first time because he terribly nervous etc. If you are supportive and help him through it it should be okay. With him being nervous and not being able to get an erection he probably feels eve worse, which is gonna make it harder. It did take a couple of weeks before my boyfriend was able to, you know but just be patient. If it still doesnt get any better after a month then he should probably see a doctor, even if it is just nerves they might be able to do something for him.  

Answer 12

it certain canm and does effect the ability

Answer 13

I like what one guy said:  A speed bump.  And that's all it is.  Believe me, he is under extreme pressure and I'm sure the pressure has mounted with one failed venture.

It is not you.

Give him all the time he needs, even a little oral stimulation, and guide him along by telling him how good he makes you feel.  I'm sure he's worried if he'll measure up.  You sound like the type of woman that can handle this situation.

Answer 14

try HARD pills, they work well. hard.njoynow.com

Answer 15

It  seems  unusual  to  me  that  you  and  your  boyfriend  were  trying  to  make  love  in  a  room , where  there  were  also  his  room  mates  present .   Yes , nervousness  can  have  that  effect .   Many  men  have  that  problem  when  they  make  love  with  a  new  girlfriend  the  first  time .   If  you  really  like  this  boy , encourage  him , make  compliments  about  his  equipment ; be  sure  that  you  are  in  a  private  room .   You  need  to  relax  together , don't  try  too  hard , enjoy  kissing  and  cuddling , get  him  to  go  down  on  you .   After  a  good  night's  sleep  together , he  will  most  likely  be  standing  errect  in  the  morning .    

Answer 16

take it from a guy.....

i know what im talking about....

if a guy has got a lot on his mind, or is stressed or very nervous then yes it is very normal for them to find it hard to achieve erection.

and then the embarressment creates a vicious cycle that makes it even harder. especially if hes a virgin hes probably going to feel very under pressure.

so dont worry - it wont be nothing personal luv!