Does being overly friendly to strangers make you a bigger target of rude or mean behavior or overall...?

Question

do you feel people learn kindness FROM you?

I have noticed that in the long run of life, people who are super friendly, or super giving to strangers tend to be the people who get things borrowed and never returned, robbed, or get taken advantage of more often.

Do you find this to be true?

Answer 1

It is good to be open and friendly.  You may never know when you can be of help to a stranger.  But, be cautious as well.  There are too many people who like to take advantage of others kindness.

Answer 2

Unfortunately this is true.  People tend to take other people's kindness as a weakness when they see it and use it.  There are good people in life and then there are the lowlifes.  You have the people who have nothing better to do in life but to take advantage of kind and friendly people.  They will lie, cheat or steal to get whatever they want, and most of the time what they don't need.  If you have something they want, even if they don't need it they'll borrow it with no intention what so ever of returning it...that it called robbery, thievery or just plain corruption.

There are people out there who do gain from kindness.  They do care when you are "overly" friendly and lend them a hand and do "kind" and caring gestures and help them out when they need a hand.  A lot of times these are the people who will turn around and in time help someone else.

Peace & Love :)

Answer 3

No, because I make sure I get my things back.  Unless I don't really want it back.  I look at it, if I let someone borrow it, I don't really need it.  If they don't return it then they must need it more than me.  I don't want to lose a friendship over things like this.

Answer 4

Its true! My mom is overly friendly with strangers and has been taken advantage of several times. No matter what my dad and her kids tell her she's always going about being chatty with weird people and  never actually getting to know them. Some people are so rude to her it makes me want to cry and all she does is act like it doesn't hurt her.

Thats why this society sucks. People who are kind get abused.

Answer 5

"do you feel people learn kindness FROM you?"

i agree!infact, some are inspired with somebody's kindness. i am! :D

Answer 6

oh course its true

use your head

if someone is a pr!ck n dosent let anyone borrow, rob or be taken advantage of, how are your gogin to?

nice ppl win in the end tho

cause jebus loves us more

Answer 7

yes, it's true......nice people tend to get taken advantage

Answer 8

YES. If you are "overly friendly" you may come across as manipulative or obsequious. Many people don't realize this, but so-called "niceness" is often used as a manipulative tool. People think that being "nice" makes them "better" or more deserving people. IT DOES NOT.

For example, does this sound familiar:

"I'm such a nice guy, why can't I get a date?"

"I'm so nice, why aren't I as popular as she is?"

"If I'm extra nice, I should get that raise I'm after."

Some people think that "niceness" is an adequate substitute for intelligence, charisma, personal strength, sincerity, integrity, and many other *much more important* qualities.

IT IS NOT.

Being "nice" is cheap, easy and shallow. Any idiot can act "nice". In itself, a show of "niceness" does not qualify you for social advancement.