Does/did anyone else feel this way???

Question

I feel like I'm going to be the ugliest, fattest bride ever. I love my dress and it fits me fairly well but every time I take a picture of me in it, I just want to cut the head off. My face is extremely fat and I have like a quadruple chin. I mean, I AM fat. I weigh like 260 lbs so it's all my fault that I look so horrible. I was trying to lose weight but my dress was getting too loose and we couldn't afford alterations so I just stopped losing weight and focused on maintaining the weight I was at.

Does/did anyone else feel this way? What should I do to calm myself down? My wedding is in 8 days and I'm so stressed about how I'm going to look.

Answer 1

Calm down.  You're 20x more concerned about it than anyone else, especially your new husband, is going to be.  If it really bothers you I say make losing weight you number one goal after the wedding, but there's not much you can do now.  I've seen plenty of gorgeous plus-size brides so don't dwell on the weight.  Focus on your hair, makeup, dress, etc.  You will look great.

Answer 2

Don't stress! It's important that you feel great about the way you look at your wedding... and since you can't pay for alterations and can't lose anymore weight then try boosting your confidence! When I feel down about the way I look, I look at myself in the mirror and pick out all of the POSITIVE things I like about myself, rather than the negative things.

"So what? I may have a slight double chin, but I have a GREAT A$$."

This is how you should try to think. Don't be upset about the way you look. This is the last day in your life you want to be self conscious, just have fun, and if you tell yourself you're beautiful then you'll believe it! Good luck!

Answer 3

I know exactly how you feel My man and I are both over weight.

All I can say is what I know I should be listening to... Your beauty does not come from your appearance Your groom knows this (or he SHOULD). Let your love for him show on your face and there will be no greater beauty in the room. Good Luck

Answer 4

I have felt that way and I'm exercising trying to drop some weight. But mine comes from someone very close to me in my family telling me that "You could be pretty if you exercised more and lost weight" & "You're getting huge". But I don't let it get me down (most of the time) because I'm not exercising for them, I'm doing it for me, and my fiancé thinks I'm attractive and sexually appealing.

There isn't much you can do at this point just remember that the man you're about to marry thinks you're the most beautiful woman that has ever walked or ever will walk this planet. And no one else matters. I'm quite sure your guest are not going to be trying to guess your weight though. They're going to be focusing on how much you're glowing or that look he got in his eye when he saw you walking down the aisle or how very happy you both look.

Everyone has low self esteem once in a while but we're a little  jaded by the media these days and the younger we are the more jaded we are. We've got a complex now that if we're not a 00 then we're too big. But it's farther from the truth.

You're probably hung up on your weight because of the wedding stress and it's easier to fixate on something and you're subconscious chose your weight, I do the same thing when I get into a stressful situation. Next time when you catch yourself saying something like "I just want to cut my head off" replace it with a positive response like "My hair looks really pretty today"

Good Luck and Congratulations

Answer 5

You are just nervous. I think all brides stress the last min. and hate everything. You are the bride and you will look great no matter what. You need to look at your self and realise that you are a miracle of life. Look at your self, it's not like your nose is missing or your face is burnt off, you just have more to love. Look at it this way, I bet you your hubby to be is also stressed about what he looks like too and may be thinking the same exact thing. Any way it should not matter because you guys will love each other no matter what right... Also men like extra meat on their woman now a day. My hubby to be tells me that it's the fashion now a days. LoL! Men love it...

Answer 6

just calm down...breath....i used to be 220in july,i lost 40 pounds by dec.,just from cutting back on what i ate,eating only 3 meals a day(and not 5-the snacks ect.oh and i cut back on sodas-only 1 a day)and stoped stressing,and walked an hour 5 days out of the week(usually with friends)i ate what i wanted,i just cut back....and i'd have one bad meals one day and have a good meals the next.it worked for my body.....when i was @220,when i took photo's i'd take em-to make sure their perfect(im into photography)i didn't like other ppl taking my pic.-cuz it come out horrible...the lighting,the angle of the camera-just the way you are in the photo....it can make you look bigger,or even smaller.good or bad...washed out ect.just practice taking photos of yourself(future husband/friend)postion yourself in different angles-like your face slightly turned,your body.....how close you are.....the lighting...so you know what looks best....so when it comes to your photo's you'll look slimmer.Oh and it makes a hudge difference wheither or not your hairs up or down.....with your hair being down-it makes you look soooooo much smaller,seriously..in the face...it makes your face look softer...with your hair being up,it makes your face look bigger/fuller....i hope i helped some.....just remember,relax,and enjoy yourself,its your day! congrads,and good luck :)

-Laura

Answer 7

if you're happy on your big day (which you will be!) you'll shine and look gorgeous and it will show. in the end all that matters is your love for your husband and his for yours. makeup can do wonders, remember, and hairstyles can slim the face.

there are professional photograph packages where they take gorgeous, seductive, but classy photos of you in an album for your soon to be hubby. they photoshop them with you as much or little as you want. the idea is to boost confidence and prove you are beautiful! you could book a photoshoot like this later, when you've lost your weight. it would make the bride feel so good about herself.