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Question

So my friend and I have been bashing this guy over the past six months that she went on one bad date with. He kept calling and facebook stalking and wouldn't leave her alone. Finally she goes out with him again, (she is desperate.) Before she went out, I was like he is gross and you can do better. Of course, she ended up sleeping with him on the first date and now she's practically 'in love.' I told her, once again, that I didn't like him and she was all shocked and offended and informed me, I don't even know him. As they've been on three dates, I'd argue neither does she.

So my question is, how on earth has she forgotten the last six months of disdain I have expressed toward this stalker guy? Has her memory been completely erased as her libido is fed? If she wants to date a loser, thats her choice, but surely I'm not obligated to support her?

Answer 1

Nope, you don't have to agree with her or approve of her actions.

Just be there for her when the bubble bursts!  

Answer 2

Was he stalking or just persistent? Someone going after what they want isn't a stalker unless the person they are after has told them in no uncertain terms "No", blocked them, avoided them, and yet they persist. If she didn't block or ignore contact on Facebook, then he wasnt' stalking as you didn't indicate she did anything to terminate his potential methods of communication.

Perhaps she got to know him and found he's not so bad. Perhaps she is desperate and any warm body will do right now. Not knowing him at all, or her, nobody here can say. However you are not obligated to support her in this situation, but until (unless?) you know the guy more than her words months about him from months ago, perhaps you aren't fairly judging him. If you do know him personally and find him a disreputable person then she'll just have to find that out in time for herself.

Be her friend and be there for her regardless. Our friends can give us opinions and advice, but we aren't required to take it and that shouldn't cause them to be any less our friend. Hopefully she's not made a decision in this case that will cause her much emotional pain (or worse) down the road.