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Question

R.S.V.P.? I'm throwing my daughter a B-day party this Sunday. She handed out 16 invitations last Friday. I wrote my # & 'Please respond by May 2nd' on them. I even wrote some "Gift Ideas" for them to have an idea of what she likes & is into. She's turning 9 on the 2nd. But I'm getting worried because not one phone call yet. Does this mean no one is coming or what? She asks everyday when she gets home from school if anyone called & it breaks my heart to tell her " No, not yet Baby. Don't worry."

Answer 1

Oh no... my sisters her age.

Dont fret =]

sometimes people get distracted and just turn up anyways.

And in the end if worse comes to worse. Take her to a theme park with her family. Try to take her mind of it because its HER day and she needs to be happy and not worry that her friends arnt with her.

Maybe you could tell her the truth and she can go to school the next day and ask them all if there coming or not?

Answer 2

We just went through this is Feb with our 7y/o. We had only had a couple calls, then only one who called showed up, and some who hadn't called just showed. So, the RSVP thing doesn't really mean much some times. But I know what you mean about it breaking your heart to them no and see THAT LOOK. Happy birthday to your little girl!

Answer 3

I asked the same question a few weeks ago.  Here's what I learned Yahoo questions and from my daughter;s party.  Lots of people don't RSVP and some call the day before or the day of the party to say they're coming.  I even called a couple of mothers to see if their kid was coming.  Normally I wouldn't do this, but it was just too difficult to plan a party w/o knowing if I'd have 3 kids or 20 showing up.  You might want to do the same thing...especially if you're worried no one is coming.  Most people have good intentions but just forget to RSVP.   I was surprised too!

Answer 4

I've  always responded  to invitations--it is considered rude otherwise!

Since your daughter is only 9, maybe the teacher can help you out with phone numbers or at  least give you a class list with names, look them up yourself.  Even if only 1 or two  kids show up, she can still celebrate her birthday.   I would have family members be there that day too, any aunts and uncles or cousins to help out with this awkward situation.

I don't know what's going on but adults seem to be loosing their manners when it comes to this sort of thing.  It's really not the kids fault, I blame the parents!  We have always responded yes or no to a birthday party--and we even get a present if we are not able to attend.  I've taught my son,  a little thoughtfulness can go a long way.

If no one shows up----type up what  happended on Yahoo and let her read the responses!  I'll  bet she'll get quite a few people with childhood stories of  no shows!  It happended to my niece--not one person showed up.

Best of Luck to you--I hope everthing turns out okay--the problem is not the two of you, it is with those that are rude enough not to respond!

Answer 5

Lots of people (like me) have a tendency to do things on the deadline.  So definitely wait until the RSVP date you put on the invitations; odds are you'll get some calls that day.  The next day, go ahead and call the parents and just politely say that you're trying to get a final headcount so you can plan and you just wonder whether or not their child will be able to make it.  Some people do forget, some are just rude and don't RSVP, and still others think that you only have to RSVP if you're coming.

Answer 6

Are you serious?All this anxiety about a Birthday party,when

people only have one Birthday,and that is the day they were

born,and every twelve months thereafter is the anniversary

of that date.This would not be a problem in Aldous Huxley's

Brave New World.

Answer 7

My aunt did that with my cousin and like 4 called and you know what 30 kids showed up. She almost didnt have enough food and stuff.  Some people just dont repect the rsvp

Answer 8

Most people never RSVP and that gets on my nerves too. I know throwing a party is sooooo stressful I have 3 and dred it every year because either I end up with too many goody bags or not enough. Or stressing that the big day will come and no one will show.

Answer 9

I would ring/ talk to the parents and just politely ask if they are coming or not. Or if the invitations are for school friends, I would get her to ask her friends if they are coming. I really hope for your and your daughter's sake that they do come!

This might be a silly question but.... are you sure you wrote the phone number on correctly?

Answer 10

When I hand out invites I add everything but where it is to be and then place:

RSVP by {DATE} for location of the party.

Believe it or not, this works out quite well and I always receive responses.

Answer 11

People can be slow to respond but doesn't mean that they aren't coming. Happy Birthday, my son turns 11 on the 6th of May. You will get a couple of people or I hope everyone!

Answer 12

No, not everyone RSVP's and generally don't realize how important this is to the person hosting the party.  Next time, please don't put gift ideas on the invitations.  That is beyond tacky.

Answer 13

I agree with the first answerer. This time of year is a very busy time for us, kids and adults. It is understandable for parents to forget. Unfortunatey, some of those invitations may not have made it to the parents. I would definitely have her ask them if they are coming. If you know these parents and feel comfortable, you may want to call and ask them. Best wishes.

Answer 14

When my son turned five we had a huge party and my husband and I  rented a room for one of those place centers, we had party favors, cake, coins for the games, and a list of twelve people R.S.V.P. and the day of his party 3 people showed up. (2 of them were brothers) Keenan and I were so mad that all these parents did not call us and no showed. Our son however he was having so much fun with the kids that did show up, he could have cared less. He had a wonderful birthday. Of course first thing Monday I recieved a ton of phone calls of why they were unable to make it. I also do not think your gift idea was a bad thing to do. Ive done it and had parents say "Thanks we had no idea what to get him" I will say a prayer that kids do show up because that is just a nasty thing for a kid to go through, but I belive what every one else says that some people will show up without calling. And hopefully your daughter will bild strong friendships with them. I think people forget how important a childs birthday is to them. Also if you have any of the parents phone #'s give them a call! Just say hey I was trying to get a head count is your child coming, make sure that it does not sound like to big of a deal so they don't feel presured.

Answer 15

You could call them. I have a lot on my mind usually, so I often forget the RSVP.

I often have the mum's ringing me up to see if I am coming or not. I feel bad, but they don't seem to mind.

Answer 16

So many people don't RSVP it's almost like an epidemic.The thing to do is to call the guests.  Be very polite about it.  

Not to worry.

Be well.

Answer 17

I am gussiing you gave the invites to the children, and do you really expect that young a child to RSVP

Answer 18

I agree with Darcy, it is Tacky to ask for presents and if some-one suggested Gift idea's on my Invitation I wouldn't be very happy. I think it is a bit Cheeky to ask for pressies, however..I hope your Little one gets all her friends to come  and has a nice Birthday, bless her!

Answer 19

RSVP means that they should call if they can't make it.  

Unless you specifically ask for them to call to confirm that they ARE coming, many parents will assume they only need to call if they aren't coming.